If I reviewed myself, I'd say I'm in decent shape. Not ugly. Not a super model unless I'm leaner than a mother fucker, when my jaw gets chisel.
I lift, good muscles, etc. Walking through a supermarket with my hair done, face shaved, decent cologne and I notice..
Not a single chick had made eye contact with me the whole time. Sometimes it almost feels too blatant, almost intentionally.
I don't get myself ready in the morning just to garnish looks from interested single women, but I notice attractive women and I assume women notice attractive men.
My sexual partners refer to me as hot asf. Coworkers have labeled me fuckable, heard talk about myself being known as attractive to groups of women.
Basically, it only ever seems that from a distance to women show attraction to me. Like a secret, or they need to be a good few yards away to even hint at liking me (one girl got in her friends car that was parked to mine. She looked at me, did a double take and doubled chinned like she was embarrassed or something. When I pulled out I saw her waving me goodbye like wtf.)
Is this a common theme for most of us guys? I feel like I used to get a lot more attention and reception from women.
I don't necessarily need women to acknowledge(validate) me, but the more i see it doesn't happen the more it makes me start reflecting on myself. Not sure what to change, if I even should.
Does this happen for a majority of us?

Intrepid_Place53900 1 2y ago
first, most men are invisible to women.
If a woman doesn't find you attractive, you are invisible.
Now, there's different levels of attraction of course. cute, good looking and would love to ride him, are examples.
Cute won't get much of a look, the good looking and would love to ride him, girls will stare. When caught , they'll either smile and look away or frown and look away.
Frown means, he's above me, he'd probably pump and dump me, but that's it.
smile means, I'd wish he'd approach me , (even though I have a BF), because he's good looking. Girls don't mind being approached by good looking guys.
not sure your age,etc. But most women in supermarket are 30's and above. So, if you are in your early 20's, and styled that way, they probably won't look to much.
Example, I'm old, but still in good shape. . I get frequent looks from 30's and above women all the time in the supermarket.
The below 30 crowd, not much, unless I'm in workout clothes in warm weather. If you look good, women don't care what age you are, they'll look.
So, got to know your market group, ie, if you are early 20's, it's early 20's and late teens, keep it legal.
The girl double taking you and looking away, it's normal. She liked what she saw, looked away and is thinking, wish he'd approach me.
MrSupreme 2y ago
I have a knack for attracting single mothers,it is the bottom of the pyramid. Gotta lose some weight.
User4566 2y ago
Maybe start showing up to places where it’s more acceptable to talk to random people. I almost never get attention at supermarkets but I’ve had women make eye contact with me and even approach me at concerts, bars, social gatherings in public, parties, etc.
pocketroxx 2y ago
All the time, to an annoyance. I can hardlyt ever work out at a gym without a hot HB8 coming next to me and pretending to hit arms for 5 minutes on their leg day.
Im not lying when i say its annoying. I cant focus, and feel like im always being checked out when sometimes i want to blend in. Its my fault I did steroids got jacked and got blasted like a rockstar with some nice tats, on top of my Chad genetics.
That being said, i dont necessarilly get eye fucked by every girl in store aisles. They are more coy in those situations. But you should definitely catch them checking you out and becoming timid, or floating around your presence, or seeing her look at you in the beans aisle and then magically shes behind you in line at the checkout, small things like that.
Or being in line, and they look back and see you in line, with their wide eyes and they get nervous and throw their hair around or drop coins, small things like that.
But it comes with bullshit too, the low SMV women will treat you bad and be bitter. Theyre woman versions of haters. They irritate me more, no one likes an ugly girl with an attitude especially when its because you work hard or look goood. You also become a target for big validation, when they have no intentions of sex. Its a blessing and a curse.
Let me explain why its annoying: These girls want my validation but not all want my dick. Its a one-way street often. So while im at the gym with the hot babe working out, shes distracting me from my focus, making my workout more difficult. And then i dont get to bust her coochie and asshole open, she gives it to a mid-ass dude in her social circle because he dated her best friend. its a net liability. I make her day, she drinks his cum. Do you understand?
If I was average looking i wouldnt deal with the stupid validation seeking and auto-rejection so much
Acela_nextel 2y ago
@financehardo420 bro he’s stealing the site humblebragger position lmao
financehardo420 2y ago
Lmaooo finally someone replacing me
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Acela_nextel 2y ago
Yeah if your not a tall white pretty boy or male model good looking then yeah attractive women won’t notice you (or at least they’ll just ignore you) I’m not pretty boy handsome but I’m just masculine handsome and yeah, most women don’t pay me mind. They rather go for White dudes
AbusiveFather1 2y ago
i'm not sure race has much to do with it in western society where race-mixing isn't frowned upon anymore (Muhammad Ali and Malcom X rolling in their graves right now). do you think western women would prefer some average white guy or Idris Elba?
Acela_nextel 2y ago
Well I do see alot of attractive women with really average looking white dudes. There really is a stigma with attractive (white) women going for black dudes.
User4566 2y ago
I’m white live on the east coast of USA and I see black guys get with a lot of chicks (even white ones) in bars and nightclubs. Maybe it’s your area.
Acela_nextel 2y ago
Yeah perhaps. The attractive women are all mainly concentrated in the wealthier (white) parts of where I live. Also black men are pretty much seen as less than and white dudes get out on a pedestal
User4566 2y ago
If that’s the case, it sounds like that’s all they have to choose from.
Dxmx99 2y ago
I think that sums that up for me lol
I'm white and I've got some pretty boy features but not too strongly obviously. Brown eyes, beard, bushy brows, capable of a dreamy smile behind rbf.
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Dxmx99 2y ago
Perhaps that wasn't the best example, replace supermarket with any other place and it'll still match my dilemma.
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coolsocks00 1 2y ago
True. Because it’s hard to get right, good swagger is often overlooked here. If you’re good looking but not getting IOIs, you’re bland and probably not obviously masculine.