Alright, here we go:

What a weirdo does is stay home every weekend and masturbate to hentai and watch tiktok. Plenty of people go out alone, especially older people. Brother, do you need someone to hold your hand to live your life? I think it’s bad-ass to see someone get out the house and face the world by themself. Waiting for people to go out with is always messy because the stars don’t always align when you want them to, life happens. A guy that’s a leader of his own gang goes where he pleases.

I used to think I was a weirdo for going out alone until I did it and got comfortable with it. Then when I’d tell people my stories, they would be amazed about “how brave you are”. Hell, you could go out and end up making friends THAT NIGHT. Or you could end up bringing home a girl. Or at least your chances are much greater rather than staying home which is… 0%.

Let me ask you something: if you got into a conversation with someone on Monday and they asked you what you did over the weekend, would they think you’re a weirdo if you told them you went out into the city or town? Sounds pretty normal and actually high-value to me. Sounds like someone I’d want to be friends with, he must do cool stuff and have good stories. It’s retarded how we somehow convinced ourselves that going out alone is a “loser” thing to do, it’s not the case at all unless you show up to a place and become a wall hugger on his phone.

When I had 0 friends, I started going out and I got into a conversation with a high-value chad (six-figure salary, hot girlfriend, handsome, has own apartment in the city at age 22, former frat boy of top house) and he wanted to be friends with ME (the friendless “loser”) all because I mentioned I got out of my house and took life by the horns and LIVED a little. I just thought how crazy it was that I literally jumped from bottom of the social status to a much higher spot all because I chose to go out like a cool person should.

I get it: it’s scary the first time but that’s perfectly normal. I had a panic attack on the train-ride out to the city my first time. But all you need to do for the first few times out is simply SHOW UP and get comfortable. Don’t talk to anyone if you don’t want to. Don’t hit on any girls if you don’t want to. Don’t do anything you don’t want to besides taking that first step of simply showing up. I went to a bar and sat on the stool and drank. I chatted with some people and they were all friendly. Why didn’t they treat me like a friendless weirdo that I am? Because they AUTOMATICALLY ASSUME I’m a chad if I show up to these venues. No one knew I was a loner. No one cared, either. I see people alone and I think they may have lost their friend group or are waiting for someone. There’s also too many people in the room for me to give a shit about that person in particular. Girls will also be much more inclined to give me iois and even come up and talk to me since it’s “socially acceptable” to do so in bars and concerts. That and the booze that allowed them to feel comfortable doing that. But people can be a mixed bag going out, some guys automatically hate me because I’m normally that tallest guy in the room and I’m fit so they feel I might steal their spotlight. They can get verbally hostile but that’s all booze induced. Likely, anyway. Doesn’t matter, you’ll meet people if you literally put yourself in spots where there are people. Not home playing video games.

So to recap:

With Who?

Friends help, but going out alone is perfectly fine because you don’t need anyone to hold your hand. You’re good enough.

shall I go on my own?

Yes. Just show up. Drink a little before you go to loosen up your nerves. Maybe a shot of whiskey, that’s my go-to when I get a little nervous. People drink to get rid of nerves, just monitor yourself so you don’t become an alcoholic. Just drink to the point where you feel mellow and relaxed.

and look like a weirdo?

you’ll likely blend into the crowd of already cool people.

So I willingly spent about 45 minutes of my time to type this out for you because I know how hard it is for young men in this day and age. I understand how upside down the world seems compared to 20 years ago. But you need to do yourself a favor and live a little, fuck the them if they have a problem with it. You’re a person who deserves to live life just everyone else. Give yourself a chance. This is better advice than any professional therapist will ever tell you and I’m telling you it for free.

Just show up. Get an idea of what it’s like. If even that’s too scary, show up early at like 9 or 10 so you won’t be around a whole lot of people. From there, you’ll feel much more comfortable. You don’t have to do ANYTHING you don’t want to. I don’t care if you stand in the corner on your phone. It’s okay for beginners, young adults, or new people in town. If the place sucks, try the next. I like some bars and clubs MUCH better than others based off the people/music alone. I remember being scared my first few times going out alone but it was without a doubt one of the greatest decisions I’ve ever made and beats the hell out of staying home depressed. I’m easily much happier now that I can go out and do things without relying on other people. For what? To LIVE your LIFE??

You got this, remember: baby-steps.

Let me know how it goes :)