Hey everyone,

So, I've been living with my girlfriend for the past 2 years. Our situation is a bit unusual – I moved to Portugal, she's Portuguese and already has a house, so I just moved in.

I initially suggested taking things slow, never really thinking I'd end up spending so much time with her. We always agreed on giving each other space, She does her things with her girlfriends and I do mine. I thought that was the perfect balance since we have a night for ourselves almost every week. But recently something has changed...

The difference between her life and mine is that she spends three times a week with her family. This doesn't leave her with much time for herself.

She subtly hinted that maybe I should spend some time with my family back in my country of birth, and she with hers, to have a bit of time apart. This gave me a strange feeling because it's something I've never experienced before... (These are the kind of words I'd say a couple of years ago and now she uses them)

In response, I stayed calm and instantly booked a longer-than-expected flight for 2 weeks. When she commented, "Wow, that's pretty long for 2 weeks," I didn't reply.

(My thought was instantly that I'll give her more space then she most probably even needs.)

Now, I'm in this weird vibe where I constantly feel like I should leave her alone so she can miss me more. Being at home on weekends seems like I'm giving her too much to hold on to.

We all know what distance can do in the right context for a woman. So, in 3 weeks, I'll be leaving for 2 weeks, which I think will be good for our relationship.

But how to move forward from her? Is she still attracted? Or is there something else going on?

I'm curious about your thoughts, comments or observations?

Thank you!