Like many autists my brain is very logical, if you give me a task with clear steps i can become exceptional at that specific task guaranteed, if there was a social skills guide that resembled a baking recipe i wound become the most charismatic person on earth, since social skills are s very complex mechanism most guides are vague as hell, if you could recommend me some resources resemble what i described even by little bit i would be internally grateful.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 10mo ago
My Conversation Skills Guide
Edit: I have autism spectrum myself
mattyanon Admin 10mo ago
Practise, see what works, observe other people.
Rinse, repeat.
lurkerhasarisen 1 10mo ago
I'm a specialist is a subject that's like social skills in some ways: it's extremely nuanced and situation-dependent with countless variables that may or may not be present and may or may not influence each other and may or may not matter at any given time.
I can't count the number of times I've had students ask me for a checklist.
Just like with the ability to "make" women like you... There is no checklist. Anyone who says there is is trying to sell something. The thing being sold may be a book, or tickets to a seminar, or merely the idea that the speaker is totally an Alpha/Dude-Bro/P-Slayer.
In my case, if people couldn't do the job I was training them to do without a checklist telling them exactly how to do it, they would inevitably wash out. Having the wrong person doing the job could easily result in American soldiers coming home in boxes, and my wash-out rate was about 40%.
I still teach but I no longer evaluate (different subject), but what I teach now also doesn't lend itself to simple formulas. To the extent that there are guides for such things, they consist of lists of "Things to Consider." Such lists are - by necessity - vague. The only way to know which factors matter and how much weight to give them is by extensive trial-and-error. Social calibration / interaction is like that.
Sorry, man, but that's the way it is. Check out what @Vermillion-Rx linked and then step into the ring and start swinging.
Durek_The_Bald 10mo ago
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