How do you deal with acquaintances (classmates, coworkers, others you see often) that dont respect you? They dont make eye contact when speaking to you in group settings, they interrupt and talk over you, etc.
My social skills arent the best and I suppose people sense that and take advantage. They seem to like me enough to include me sometimes but I feel like a side character
Do I just slowly isolate myself from them? It cannot be too abrupt since I have to see these people often. I feel like a bitch every time I walk away from these group interactions
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AbusiveFather1 1y ago
These are not the people you should hang out with. Only interact with them if business demands it. Establish boundaries.
If you don’t like something, speak up.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Next them, become a Chad, and if they ever come back don't let them in
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
I see these sorts of questions all the time on the forum, and tbh, they alwasy seem to indicate a deep seated problem with the OP.
People asking 'why does nobody respect me' should be asking themselves this question;
"Why would they respect you? What for? What have you done? What is it about you that means that you are worthy of respect? Have you climbed Everest? Written a great book? Invented something? Why would anyone owe you respect?"
If you go through life expecting people to show you respect, you have a severe case of main character syndrome.
Why do you even want respect? What for? What will you do with this respect?
AbusiveFather1 1y ago
I don’t know why they downvoted you but this is here is on-point advice and was helpful to me as well.
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
Seems to me that the most important lesson in life is that nobody owes you any respect. Or anything else for that matter.
Now, process that, and get on with your life.
hahhaha1111 1y ago
I think you have a distorted perception of respect. People respect each other every day. Managers, teachers, colleagues, friends, family, etc.
Asking for the most basic amount of respect during social interactions does not make you have main character syndrome
I'm not expecting people to bow when they see me, just to be acknowledged and included.
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
"People respect each other every day" ...sure they do. But demanding or requiring respect from others, as if it were some god given right, is what is retarded.
A man that goes through life getting sore that people aren't 'showing him respect' is a week man. His mental well being is dependent on the behaviours of others to such an extent that he is really almost a woman or at least some sort of man-child. A self confident man, that knows himself, that knows good relations with people around him, cares not one whit for the sentiment of random strangers that he meets briefly on his travels.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
You have a distorted perception of social hierarchy and social contract where everyone is supposed to automatically have you in their in-group, give you undue preferred treatment, etc.
People ought to have a basic human kindness in interacting with people, and whole some people are just plain assholes, if you struggle to receive basic human kindness from your peers (who aren't plain assholes) then you are probably rubbing them wrong, being a bit of an ass yourelf, or demonstrating lower value
Renegade3346 1y ago
I believe you're conflating respect with admiration.
Respect, in OP's context, is the avoidance of social slight. Which should not happen to anyone and if it does, one should navigate away from the concerned individuals.
Admiration is more so related to the feats you describe such as a physical, financial or social exploit that is impressive.
No one is owed gratuitous admiration but everyone should be given respect until proven unworthy of it.
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
'social slight' is normal and expected in every day life in crowded places. nobody owes you anything, including respect.