All events happened within the last 3 weeks.
I see this girl at gym near daily and I'm attracted to her, I wanna sm*sh. I noticed that she was hovering in my vicinity so I tried to start a conversation so I could eventually ask her out. This happened on two separate occasions. Both times, she answered my first question quickly and got out of the conversation asap. [headphones back on & walked away] This suggested that she's actually not interested. I stopped trying after the second time because I don't want to bother/creep anyone at the gym. The following day, she "accidentally" bumped into me and smiled at me. The day after, she ignored me completely.
I went away on vacation for a week. Now I am back & I see her near daily again. I think she knows I like her even though I haven't explicitly expressed it/put her on the spot. I've been trying to take my mind off it and I realized there's really no shortage of beautiful women out here. Trying to focus on my purpose so i can have my pick of them.
I stopped trying to talk to her because it would come off like I'm chasing her after the way the first 2 times went. Now, every time she comes in, it seems like she makes sure I know she's there by walking directly in front of where I'm working out when she arrives. She doesn't really hover in my vicinity anymore. She looks at me when I'm not looking but when I look at her she doesn't look at me.
What should i do going forward? Thank you
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
Not even reading all that; move on. If it ain’t a fuck yes Issa fuck no
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Have you even asked her out yet man? You should never be this fixated on a chick you haven't asked out
PaulBreddit1 1y ago
You are right. No i haven't. Should I ? Too late?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
You should but considering the lack of openings it's unlikely to succeed.
Gym game is different, you either have to be one of the best looking chads there or open them in very non flirty ways and sneak into their gym bubble where they don't automatically reject you and are open to chatting before you even consider running any game
Every girl there who looks alright knows they are tantalizing dudes with their yoga pants etc. what makes you special?
Hence you have to non-flirt I to their bubble so that they don't auto shut you down at the gym and then from there you can have a normal approach
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
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EurasianChad 1 1y ago
When you focus on only 1 girl you tend to overthink things like this & end up paralyzing yourself, hindering your growth, hindering you from making mistakes and learning and getting better.
Just fucking ask her out & smile and say alright have a good day if she doesn't agree. In a situation where you see her daily it's always best to establish some sort of rapport in a non-needy way to make it seem like it just happened. Start with lifting together, getting a protein shake after the gym. Frame it as hanging out and not as a date. Puts less pressure on her.
Bottom line: work on yourself & acquire more options. Stop being so thirsty.
PaulBreddit1 1y ago
Thanks for responding man. I appreciate it
AbusiveFather1 1y ago
textbook attention-whoring; she's using you for a quick ego boost.
should've stopped the first time
don't be a bitch, homie
PaulBreddit1 1y ago
LOL. Thanks for responding. I appreciate it
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
Severe case of overthinking, mixed in with a side of procrastination.
The answer is obvious - shoot your shot. Stop prevaricating. Shoot your shot. And don't worry if it doesn't convert. The answer is always to shoot. Think about it this way;
You shoot and miss: fine, you learn something, and move on to the next shot, but now you're a bit more experienced in game. You shoot and hit: fine, now you get a shag.
You cannot lose by shooting. You know how you can lose?
By not shooting. You miss 100% of the shots you dont take.
Now stop overthinking and go take the shot.
Gilles 1y ago
She's not really interested. You can shoot your shot, but she will likely give low effort and flake on most things. She's not worth the effort in my opinion, I'd pursue chicks that are more into you. If she's not making it easy, you have your answer.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
ouch
correct
Well look.
There's lots of possibilities here...... she likes you, she hates you, she likes the attention. she's changed her mind.
Women communicate covertly, so you never know.
Talk to her again. If she runs away again, move on. If she talks back, great.