Started dating a plate recently (Asian, 31) - she was briefly talking about her ex and mentioned that they had 'great sexual chemistry'.
Translate that shit for me - what exactly does sexual chemistry mean from the female perspective? Is it code for 'my ex was hung like a horse'?
Generally speaking she doesn't show signs of alpha widowing. I fuck her often, BJs on demand, etc. What should I be looking out for?

Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
She is just trying to make you jealous, because that will give her more power. That's the only reason she is mentioning it. Women all do this - they will vocally compare you to some ex they had, and tell you that you are not as good as they were. All women do this. Some will do it subtly, some will do it overtly. They do it to get more power, because if they can hurt your feelings, then they know that they have more control.
It's up to you what to do about it. There are a number of options;
Ignore it. Like really ignore it, don't tell you don't care (because that will mean you care).
I'm early 50s now, and have had dozens of relationships, and I have never ever been with a woman that does not try to make you jealous. I have only ever been dumped once in my life, it was always me doing all the dumping. And by far the most common reason (95%) for me dumping a woman? Because she starts up that shit. It kills the relationship for me. I'm not interested in a woman that goes out of her way to make me feel bad - I'm looking for a woman that wants to make me feel good.
Up to you dude what you do with this disrespectful woman, but I would hard next her straight away. I would ghost her and keep looking. Don't bother telling her why you ghosted her. Because that will be an excuse for her to 'open up' to you.
I would just move on.
ksm24810 2y ago
Your comment is spot on. It's all starting to make sense now. Recently after I had sex with this plate she made some comments about how she needs deeper penetration and we could try using a toy if my dick isn't long enough - funny thing is she can't even deepthroat my dick. Later she sent a text message about she had a magical trance like orgasm before where she saw colors/fireworks/sparks. This is consistent with A-spot orgasm which requires deeper penetration.
So it was subtly implying that her ex could make her have mind blowing orgasms but not me. Again setting up this power play dynamic where I feel like I have to try harder to please her.
I'm going to keep this girl around for sex a bit longer but yeah no chance of anything beyond that
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
What a disrespectful cunt. Don't listen to her, she's just bitter.
Why don't you send her a text message about some other chick you used to rail that wasn't as fat as her, and had a pussy that didn't stink.
ksm24810 2y ago
Great comment! Thank you
Notorious 2y ago
Agreed. A women who wants to make you feel bad does not respect you.
The only thing a women should be saying to you about sex is how incredibly lucky and grateful she is that you’re fucking her. Anything else then it’s time to move on.
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ObliviousDuck 2y ago
It's womanese for: "I enjoyed sex with him more than with you."
It's a shit test.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I mean well yeah, some times people just click differently during sex it's not always a shit test. Can be but I'm sure there were some girls you had better sefaul chemistry with despite them not being as good in bed as certain other women you've had
ObliviousDuck 2y ago
I didn't say the other one was better, I said she enjoyed sex more with him. Trying to guess why is a crapshoot and useless.
You are right it is not necessarily a shit test though, a lot of context is missing. I should've left that part out.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
My bad you are correct
No problem, just being devils advocate
EurasianChad 1 2y ago
Summary: he was attractive.
Don't think much about it. His turn is over, it's your turn now. Her statement is literally irrelevant and should be brushed off. I hope you didn't get all emotional because if you did, you've just shown massive insecurity and her test has confirmed it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Part attraction, part having the same ways you want eachothers bodies to move during sex, part feeling very organic about it, natural as can be, part having very similar sexual wants, the right frame the right arousal triggers, the same connected vibe during intimacy
Have had this with a few chicks wheres the rest of them even if it was good sex i just didn't feel this chemistry that was just so complimentary that it just clicked different
AbusiveFather1 2y ago
it means she's a slut, dude
AsianDude 2y ago
Means she has been around enough and read enough fantasy stories to know what turns her on.
financehardo420 2y ago
Means before you started giving her the clappy clappy he was giving her that CLAPPY CLAPPPPPPYYYYY
nicknack 2y ago
I dated a girl a little over a year ago when I was staying in a different state for a few months. Our sexual chemistry was off the charts. She wasn’t the prettiest girl, and she was less attractive than my girlfriend back home at the time. But something about the sex was off the charts. First girl I ever nutted to in like 2 pumps, when usually can go hours.
Sometimes you just match up with someone on the level.
However, women and men are different so probably what they mean when they say that is he was an attractive bad boy who had nothing else going on in his life.