After a first date that seems to have went well, I'll receive a text from a girl that they made it home and they'll say "Thanks for a great night." I'll respond with me too (validating them?) but they won't text back and usually ghost me if I follow up again.
Why the enthusiasm after a date but no intentions to continue talking. Are they just being polite?
Happened to me a few times recently, k closing all these girls. Not every girl is like this, but I don't understand the ones that do.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
How close in SMV are these girls to you? Same SMV, one point, two points lower? If it's too close you probably need to up your game. If the kissing is not a good preview of things to come (women do evaluate sexual compatibility) then you should improve that ASAP. I've heard girls tell me a bad or meh kiss dissolved any mystique they had for the anticipation of things to come before
user89234 1y ago
Great points, I'll prob need to get better at kissing and make it feel more natural. I kino throughout so maybe the tension that is built up is released by kissing at the very end. Would a hug goodbye be a better option to secure a second date and leave them wondering?
I say the me too instantly and agree I should probably put a little more effort into it. I just don't want to come across as too invested but its a balance.
Probably all within my SMV or maybe a bit higher. I've upped my standards as of late so I will probably need to improve my smv to match that
Thanks for all the advice by the way, youve got some great insight
EurasianChad 1 1y ago
I'm not entirely sure how you're dealing with women, but if you're kissing them at the end of the date, safe to assume you're doing most things right.
You can be polite & respond, nothing wrong with that. I always tell women to text me when they get home after I sleep with them, and I do the same thing as well.
Are you being too eager for a 2nd date? Don't be. You have to realize womens emotional attachment to you takes place in a longer time frame compared to men, keep it chill. Don't text her for 4 days to a week after the date. You're a fucking man on a purpose, you don't have time to be texting women so frequently.
After a while of not talking they'll start to think about you. "why is this guy not texting me like all my other beta orbiters that give me validation whenever I want?", "does he not like me enough?" "is he with other women?" "omg he's probably fucking other women (now shes even more attracted)". If she doesn't do this, no problem. Try to set something up after about a week or two. Don't constantly text, don't watch their stories, in fact, don't even give a fuck. That's how high value/status men behave and that's how the bad boy/player/alpha/emotionally unavailable man appeals to womens emotions so hard.
Also, "me too" doesn't deserve a response dude....don't overthink that shit. Follow up with something funny or something slightly teasing her based on the inside jokes you've probably created during the date when you do decide to text her after 1-2 weeks etc. It ain't that complicated. Abundance + willingness to walk away if she doesn't comply.
Now you know the game, play it.
user89234 1y ago
I don't ever mention a second date during the first date, and I don't text until 2-3 days after the first date. I usually only have their # too, no social media.
I use "me too" when they text me the first night of the date, but when I text them a few days later I say an inside joke or something that would illicit a response, but still end up getting ghosted.
EurasianChad 1 1y ago
Maybe an ex came back into their life. Maybe she's got a better option. Maybe she's on her period, maybe she found out you banged her best friends mother. Maybe she found your account on TRP. Who knows man, you can overthinking it but its useless. Point is she wasn't attracted enough for her to want a 2nd date, because believe me, women will not ghost you if they wanna keep seeing you, duh.
Let her go, this isn't a you problem. Not every girl will be willing to move forward after a 1st date.
user89234 1y ago
Completely get that, just sucks having a date that went so well, they text you enthusiastically afterwards, then just never reply
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EurasianChad 1 1y ago
This is why TRP preaches having abundance / other plates. There's too many factors possible that could have led to this.
Its in your best interest to not beat yourself up about it. If you're sure it's not your fault, the only thing to learn here is that you can never be dependent on the outcome with women.
As the Buddhists monks say, desire without attachment. Nail that into your brain g
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EurasianChad 1 1y ago
If there is no opportunity for you to kiss, don't ever force it. That just shows lack of social skills & social awareness.
No hard and fast rules, but I always set myself up for winning. When you go on a date, imagine you are in a square table. Have her sit beside you (think diagonal, she's on the x axis you're on the y axis. Make sense?), instead of across from you. This makes it easier to initiate any sort of touching when you tease, she can playfully slap you when you tease her, etc. These small touches are the baby steps you need to eventually kiss & fuck. You don't go 0-100 to kiss dude.
You start small. Get yourself on a bench with her. Tease her, she touches/slaps your leg "wtf you're such an asshole (smiles)". Then you can escalate to talking about her earrings (touch her ear), her hair (touch her hair), etc. Eventually it leads to you looking at her lips and then her eyes, smiling, then going for it when you sense its time to go in for the kill. Take note that this takes place over a period of time, don't do everything I said in 10 seconds lol. Make it feel natural, she will perceive the whole process from you meeting to fucking as "it just happened". This is what will have her label you as "smooth".
These are all just off the top of my head. I consider myself to have extremely good social skills so normally I can make the most out of any situation, but some situations you're better off not kissing if its too public, she's in an area where people know her, blah blah blah. This is where empathy & ability to judge character comes in. Comes with experience.
You can also withhold kissing, go in for the kiss when she's also ready then instantly deny her, like a tease. Then playfully say "I don't think you're worthy of it yet ;)". This will drive her crazy & frames you as the prize to be won (which you are) and takes a lot of experience, kinda like doing foreplay on a girl only to say "never mind I don't think you're ready ;P" when she's obviously ready. She will beg for your d.
That's all I gotta say lol, hope it helped.
1 more thing I'd like to add: the more confidence and self respect you gain, the more you face your social fears, the more confidence you'll have in yourself to handle any situation, not just with women but in general.
Last thing: don't try the kiss rejection stuff til you're more experienced, thats more advanced shit. But ALWAYS baby step. Baby stepping is basically "smoothness" described in logical step by step terms.
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mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Are you paying for the date?
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
she belongs to the streets