Not sure if this is the right place to ask this. I graduated from college, back in September. Started working at this real estate company. In my country, if you want to get licensed, you have to be a trainee for 1 year under a company that's licensed. So I started working here in September, almost 2 months ago now.
I started working here, because it is one of the biggest real estate companies in my city. My boss is naturally redpilled and a succesful business owner. I looked up to him when I started working here. Thought he could become my role model and teach me everything, that's why I chose this company.
But so far it has not really lived up to my expectations. I get a lot of freedom, and they let me do whatever I want. They basically gave me projects to finish and didn't really guide me at all, I had to figure out a lot by myself. Nonetheless, it was good experience, and so far I'm doing good.
The first 3 weeks were good, but after that 2 more trainees joined. One of them is temporary, he's from school, but they don't give him any work, so basically he has to tag along with me all the time, while I'm still learning myself. The other one is the boss his son. He dropped out of school, and even when I'm trying to like him, I just can't. He's beta, fat and lazy. I don't know why, but they basically gave him my desk, so now I have to share a desk for 1 person with him, and he's always looking at my screen.
My boss promised me a lot of things, and a lot of projects, but since his son joined, it seems like he only trains him, and not me. Like I said, I'm getting a lot of freedom, but this is not why I joined this company. I thought he would properly train me, but so far he hasn't done anything. It seems like he's only teaching his son everything, and the projects he promised to me, he's giving them to his son now.
This is pissing me off, because there are not enough projects for 2 trainees, so I don't know why they took 3 trainees. On top of that, they're not giving any work to the trainee from school, so he feels kind of negelected too. That's why I take him with me, but that's not how it's supposed to be like.
What should I do now? Since it's the boss his son, I feel like it's a sensitive subject, especially since his mom works there too, it's basically a family company at this point, except me and the other trainee. I feel like all that was promised to me, were lies, and now I don't know how to go from here. I just started working here, maybe I'm exaggarating, but this is how I feel.
What would you guys do? Talk about it? Look for another company who will train me properly? I've got plenty of offers on the table, but it's only 10 more moths until I get my license. But, I'd lie if I said it doesn't make me pissed that some beta fat kid is getting trained properly.
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
You're probably right.
You sound like you need and want the training that you're not getting. Knowing how people are, the only way you'll get what's promised is if it is in THEIR best interests to train you.
You sound like you want the licence and then you're free. The problem from their point of view is exactly that: why give you this training if you're just going to leave afterwards. That's the rational side. The less rational side is that they'll always side with family....... and if you demand more, the fat/lazy kid will manipulate the situation to his benefit and throw you under the bus in so doing.
I've seen this shit enough to know you're better off leaving and finding a good company to work for. They do exist, there are amazing opportunities out there, but this isn't it.
lambOfGod 3y ago
The answer is simple. Change your company or job.
However, you will always find shitty people and psychopathic boomers and Gen X liars (they are basically the same).
This is what happens when you choose the easy path in life, career-wise, and avoid all the hard work and study needed to do something technical and in demand. You traded a few years of leisure and "chill" for a lifetime of hell, so good luck with that.
Real jobs (technicians) trade a few years of hell in regards to study/hard work to avoid a lifetime of hell.
All jobs suck, that's why you're getting paid. There is no "dream job" in the millennial and Gen Z sense of the term, you're trading in time for money, so you may as well choose something that has a high pay. Not commissions and all that boomer fucking crap. A skill that allows you to be your own boss at some point or at least work on your own at some point.
I'd also recommend watching Aaron Clarey stuff in regards to career development and choices.
So if you don't like the situation you are in you can either:
1) Get used to it. 2) Do a 180 change in your life and study/work something else.
AsianDude 3y ago
Are you getting paid a fixed salary or are you mainly on commission?
If I was on a fixed salary in this case, I would be 'delighted'. Little work for the same salary, just chill and get your license after a year before searching for a better opportunity. If I was on commission, I would consider carefully if 1) I needed the commission $$ desperately and 2) if it were possible to get some projects myself to earn the commission $$. Only quit if I needed the $$ desperately and could not survive the year.
No point trying to get between your boss and his son. There's no way I would prioritize even a close friend over my own kids, much less some random dude. If you want to do well in this sort of family company, you would have to see if you were willing to work for this son, for the rest of your life. If not, you probably need to find another company to work for (eventually) or learn enough to set up your own competing business.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
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AbusiveFather1 3y ago
Be it as it may, the fat beta kid is your boss’s son; surely you don’t believe that he will pick some random fucking guy off the street over his own flesh and blood?
If you don’t like the position you’re in, you’ll have much better luck changing companies than trying to convince a man to take away from his own son in your favor.
koedeloe123 3y ago
Hmm, you're right. Talking about it probably won't get me anywhere, since it's his own son. Just wondering if I should change companies or stick it out for next 10 months and start my own company. Not sure if it's worth all the problems, because my main goal is to get my license, and that's only 10 months away. But at the same time, getting trained properly for the next 10 months should be mandatory.
AbusiveFather1 3y ago
Can you get training from another company and retroactively utilize the 2 months so you don’t have to do the 12 all over again?
Make sure you have a guaranteed alternative to your current position (an offer ready), and only the think about switching companies. Once you do have a guaranteed alternative, then you can sit down with your boss and communicate your concerns. If nothing changes, make the move.