I ask because, well, it’s a thing that seems to be common.
Obviously the whore who got knocked up by an asshole she refers to as her ‘sperm donor’ is a no-go. Have met those, and I’ve only seen it work once, and that’s because the new guy almost immediately knocked her up and slid into family life, also they were both degenerates but both ‘turned a page’ at the same time meaning they were perfectly and equally fucked up. Also the whore’s mother had received a substantial amount in life insurance so they had money. Literally the perfect set of circumstances.
So I wonder, is there any circumstance you’ve seen where a single mother has found solid partnership of any situation where YOU would consider it? Say as an example the husband died in an accident, she was otherwise healthy and mentally sound, basically someone’s perfect wife who is now single due to outside circumstances and not because of poor life or partner choices.
I’m not considering anyone. This is not me asking for the sake of justifying any potential avenues for myself, more of a general “I wonder” sort of question.
For me, I think that if the woman in question understands their SMV drop because of the child and the woman is single because of legitimate circumstances outside of their control AND they are obviously ‘good’ at child rearing and that’s something you want, it could be a valid option if you’re at a point in your life where you’re looking for that sort of thing. They’d also have to be 100% open to having another child with you as well. It isn’t something I would consider desirable, but if someone wanted to instantly slip into dad mode with none of the bullshit it seems like an interesting proposition.
Again, I’ve only seen it work once, and they both had exactly the right shit at the right time and we’re both exactly the right kinds of fucked up for each other to make the fairytale work. I think the fact he immediately knocked her up also helped the cause a little.
So yeah, given the framework for RP, is there ANY situation or circumstance where a woman with a child is a valid or even probable option in comparison to someone who doesn’t have a child? Any at all?

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SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
I guess that’s the question, are you saving her if she’s otherwise doing well on her own? That’s why I posit the question of widows.
Seems like it isn’t a thing.
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SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
Truth. As we all know the one thing any woman cannot stand is the idea of a man being single and happy. Women, as much as they pretend they can be that, are never truly that unless they’ve aged past the point of being sexually desirable.
financehardo420 2y ago
Would you want to be financially responsible for the seed of another man’s loins?
SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
I think if that child was to have lost their father through circumstances out of the mother’s control I don’t really see it being different to adoption really, except instead of adopting just the child, you’re adopting the child and the mother.
I guess there’s no real right answer, but the answer definitely seems to be “no” in pretty much all cases.
financehardo420 2y ago
I wouldn’t adopt a kid or a dog either. Bought my frenchie from his breeder and I’ll make my own son not someone else’s
SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
Damn I’d adopt a dog, I love adopted mixed breed mutts, all of my favourite dogs are those! I love a good staffy mix.
But yeah, adopting a child is a weird one. I dated a girl who said she wouldn’t ever have kids of her own but would adopt because ‘there’s so many kids doing it rough so why should I have one’ and I always got the feeling that’s exactly why you SHOULDN’T adopt a child.
financehardo420 2y ago
Haha I’ve had friends that do. Idk I just like the idea of raising my doggo from a pup. Bond is greater. Plus sadly a lot of times the adopted dog has been abused and is like traumatized which results in a bit of a pain in the ass w regards to training and such
SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
Oh it absolutely is, but that being said my current dog was my grandad’s, very disciplined RP man, I really wish he didn’t die before I came of age, could have learned a lot from him.
That dog is one of the most kind hearted, loving, loyal dogs I’ve ever met. Honestly that dog is the reason why I’m a dog person.
I also find the parallels between dogs and women to be incredibly funny. Much like childhood behavioural psychology, canine training concepts also work incredibly well on women.
Only difference with dogs is that they do eventually learn and they can be made to be loyal.
financehardo420 2y ago
Just choked on my drink guess that’s why they call them bitches hahahaha
SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
Brother you can literally replace the word ‘dog’ with ‘woman’ and it lines up pretty well (aside from the pissing and shitting on the floor, but ya know, some women…)
Here’s a summary of an article regarding understanding dog behaviour. I replaced the word ‘dog’ with ‘girl’
Key takeaways for girl behaviour
Patience and consistency is key when educating your girl. A girl is never naughty, simply misunderstood.
All girls are individuals in their own right. No one size fits all.
Gain your girl's trust by making them feel safe and you will have a friend for life.
Girls are social animals, they need company. Being alone for more than 4 hours per day is not good for their mental health.
A girl will never exhibit a certain behaviour, like barking, for no reason, learn more about trigger stacking.
You absolutely can teach old girls new tricks. All girls will learn best when they are happy and calm.
Literally the same shit. Absolutely unbelievable.
I mean heck, the concept of “trigger stacking” is basically the hamster. Absolutely insane.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Always make sure that you know that your dog/girl knows who is in charge. A disciplined dog is a happy dog.
Never let a dog/girl enter a building before you - make sure you go in first.
Don't let the dog/girl pull on the lead.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Unless you BOTH have kids OR that kid is already 18 and out on their own, no.
There are well-established reasons for this that are easily searchable. There is nothing but a litany of downsides dating a single mother and bonding with her child for something serious compared to the options and experiences you would get from comparable, but childless, women
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
If the man has kids, I would still say NEVER date a single mom.
Reason - you don't need to. There are millions of them that dont have kids.
YOu might say 'hey, that's not fair - if the guy has kids, then its wrong for him to say no to women with kids'.
Life's not fair. Women have an easy time when they're 20 and can bang who they want. When they are 38 and have two kids ....the tables have well and truly turned.
The average divorced dad with kids should not even consider a single mum with kids....because he doesn't need to.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
This wasn't an advocation for single fathers to date single mothers, simply pointing out the only time I've ever truly seen single moms seem to find an actual willing partner with some reasonable value they also tended to have kid(s) as well
SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
I guess that’s probably why the situation I described worked, he didn’t have a child, but he very quickly DID have a child with her so now they’re linked through that.
And yeah, that’s always going to be the situation I guess, you’ll never ‘do’ better with a single mother in comparison to dating and starting a family with a woman who has no children, pretty much always.
EurasianChad 1 2y ago
Recreational use only with single moms dude.
Start introducing yourself to her children saying you're their real daddy now, then take their playstation. Just kidding, dont do that.
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Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Would you buy a car that only had 3 wheels? I mean, you CAN still drive it. It starts and goes. It's pretty dangerous at any kind of speed. Left had turns are terrible, right hand turns ok. The MPG is terrible, the handling is terrible, the resale value is terrible. BUT...if I had no other choice other than walking, and it was raining, and I had a broken leg, and I was going to die in a zombie apocalypse if I stayed another minute in this town, then I would buy it.
But if there were any other cars with 4 wheels available, I would buy them instead.
Problematic_Browser 1 2y ago
They're fun for fucking, but that's really it.
The men they have kids for are the types of men they prefer. They'll cheat on you in a second if one of those men came along.
Those other men got her best, you get the rest.
There are plenty of women who aren't single moms
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
best answer here. Single mums are for sex only. And only if they behave impeccably well. They are strictly booty call only option.
I had a single mum on rotation for a while and it was great. I knew when she had the kids, so I was only 'available' when she had the kids. Which meant that I could only come over to her house after the kids were in bed. Then she'd put on some music, we'd have a chat, then I'd bang her on the living room floor, pull up my pants and leave. No dates, no dinner, no cost. Eventually these kind of relationships end, but they are fun while they last.
The minute they start misbehaving you know the time is up.
SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
Number 1 and 4 describe the vast majority of the bad single mother relationships I've seen.
I guess the answer is unless the Father fucking died, there is a very likely reason why she is single. Either she has terrible tastes in men, or the man got so fucking sick of her shit that he left her, despite being the mother of his children.
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Durek_The_Bald 2y ago
If I got divorced, and was back on the market with two kids in tow, I'd probably be open to that. Might even be preferable dealing with someone who's done having kids, rather than someone who's going to pester you for another round. No way am I dealing with having kids from more than one woman, and I'm done at two kids anyways (getting snipped once number two is born).
I'd draw a hard line at moving in together. I'm not "playing family" with anyone, and my kids will already have a mother. We'd have separate lives, and meet up when both our kids were with our respective ex'es.
I'd expect her kids to have an involved father too (one), and for him to have 50% custody. Anything less (or more) than that reflects poorly on the woman, no matter which way they spin it. Either she's making custody difficult for him (red flag), or he's a deadbeat (red flag).
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
I got divorced with two kids, but I still had a no single moms policy for relationships (was up for banging single moms, but there is no way I would ever LTR one).
I think taking on a woman that already has kids is the single most beta mistake a man can ever make.
No-Stress-Cat 1 2y ago
Yeah. If she's the mother of your kids. Outside of that, no fucking way, don't do it from years of experience speaking to you from generations past.
SarsaparillaCorona 2y ago
Yeah I wouldn’t personally do it, I’d have a fling or a FWB with them, but get me the fuck away from your failed abortions.