Should i invite myself instead?

Yes. If you're reading game material and come across terms like indifference, aloofness, etc. It does not mean you should be passive.

most of the women i knew who’s dtf either they will ask me if i want to drink coffee or if i want to take a nap or whatever any plausible deniability came to their mind, but this one nothing at all.

Most likely nothing came to her mind other than your passiveness, and she let it go. You could have created the plausible deniability, suggested something and get her bought into the idea of you two continuing the evening at the hotel bar or whatever. Lead, and dont frame it as a question.

This was an open and shut case and you blew it.

That’s okay though! You still got the number, realistically you can still message her and have a pretty good chance of closing the deal. Depending on how drunk you were that might have been the ideal move, whiskey dick is a thing, and even when women know about it still impacts how they see you as a sexual partner.

Look, there was obvious social proof there (being introduced by your friend, her obviously having the bathroom chat which decided your fate etc), there were IOIs, you just didn’t escalate.

Realistically the ball was in her court with this one. The Hamster acts in strange ways and there’s every possibility she wanted to jump your bones, but either through a lack of escalation on your behalf of her not wanting to befall the trope of “Horny single woman drunkenly invites man to hotel room” she didn’t do it.

The hypothetical question which comes to mind is would she have invited you in if it was her own home? Realistically her home and your home have equal footing when it comes to comfort (your place or mine?), but it being a hotel room it obviously takes a higher place on the roster, so that could have affected things.

Look, if there’s a lesson to take from this, it’s that even when you get all of the green lights to pound town, you still need to physically make the journey there. You still need to actually take the steps and go through the motions of escalations and kino (identify, approach, probe, present, isolate, escalate, copulate) and get to that destination. When I look at this, I think there should have been some light push/pull and kino in the bar with the friend, once she left you suggest a second venue for a “quick drink” (she won’t wanna escalate back when she’s in front of her friend, ya know, ASD) and have a mini date where you get really, really touchy, probably make out or something, THEN when you actually get to your car (rules of push pull indicate you’re probably holding hands or have your arm around her) you say something that seals you into going to her hotel before you actually get there, something like “Oh right head smack , you aren’t meant to operate these things under the influence of alcohol! If only some beautiful girl would offer me a nearby place to rest so I don’t get arrested…”

Her answer is irrelevant, if she says yes, you run with it, if you get a shit test, you deal with it. I feel like any sort of shit test at this point is just icing on the cake.

From there you have a plan, you already know what the plan is, there’s no pressure of ASD on her behalf to block you (she made the choice before the critical make or break) and you simply pull in, feign ignorance or pull whatever brand of game you were pulling that night and head in to fuck.

To me that’s one of the core tenets of TRP. TRP shouldn’t be something you engage or layer on top of yourself, it should be something that you organically do, a part of you, so heavily ingrained that you can’t help but not fall into pussy.

Biggest thing I can recommend to improve that facet is to escalate early and simply just enjoy the presence of the woman. Often when I take women home I spend a good hour just talking to them, having laughs, drinking drinks, showing them whatever excuse I used to get them home with me with plausible deniability (I have gotten women home with the promise of showing them ‘Bluey’ ffs), this does have a strategic goal of lowering their guard, disengaging LMR and ASD, but it’s also because I just genuinely have been enjoying their company and I want to talk to them a bit more! I know sex is going to happen, she knows sex is going to happen, but if you get her back and immediately jump bones and the escalation doesn’t allow for it (I’m not a big fan of PDA but needs must) you have to deal with ASD and LMR, honestly the best way to ‘deal’ with them is to never have them occur in the first place, and if you game them right it just fucking doesn’t.

You’ll get there man.