Met the girl I've matched on an app
Try to hug her, she doesn't seem particularly happy about it.
She asks me if I'd like to go get some food or if I want drinks. I ask her if she is hungry, she says yes. I jokingly ask her if they didn't let her get a lunch at her work. She says she had lunch but is still hungry. Ask her what good she likes, she says any food. Suggest to go towards the area with various food venues.
Then she says "sorry, I feel weird, I'd like to go and leaves". Amazing. What do I do about that
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
listen dude - she actually did you a favour. She didn't waste your time. She didn't dine and dash.
I am assuming that you met her on OLD and then met up for a meal date. Two big mistakes right there - forget about OLD and forget about meal dates. OLD = the garbage can, and meal dates is the strongest signal known to man that you are a beta looking for a entitlement princess that you can put on a pedestal. You can't win the game if you are playing the wrong game.
Hit the gym. Work on yourself, and your connections, your career or study, your networks. Invest in your hobbies and what gives you joy.
Don't worry about 'what went wrong' ...trust me, it went right. You dodged a bullet.
If you still think 'it went wrong' then you need to work on your abundance mindset - there are another 4,000,000,000 women out there.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHA.
Sorry that shit was hilarious. Assuming this isn’t a troll post here’s what you do brother: ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. TALK TO AND SLEEP WITH OTHER WOMEN.
Based off what you posted here… my takes are:
a) she was trying to use you as a free food friday.
b) your smv is absolutely atrocious and you need to work on yourself… a LOT. I say this with love I’ve been jacked to the tits, skinny, fat as fuck, and everything in between so I dont feel bad telling it like it is.
I’ve done the same and far worse to tinder whores that engaged in false advertising in tinder lmao.
OP it’s good that you at least managed to get the date. Next thing for you to do is get your SMV high enough where you don’t need to ask girls on dates before fucking. Clap their cheeks, make em cum, and they’ll keep cumming back.
Look up some basic strength building workouts, get a better diet, do some cardio etc etc. over time you’ll begin to attract the fairer sex.
Best of luck king I’m rooting for ya. Oh and read the sidebar. A lot.
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financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
Sidenote: this is how I imagine OP’s hug attempt
https://m.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=3&v=dBo5-6WotEM&embeds_referring_euri=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F&source_ve_path=MjM4NTE&feature=emb_title
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
Basically correct - but maybe be a tiny little bit nicer? But ....what you say is correct.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
Hard times create strong men
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I've met a few dumbass girls who for whatever reason clearly regretted matching with me from OLD and i could tell they were just biding time for the date to end as soon as it started.
About 60% of my OLD dates the girl tries to hug me so i started doing that too and some girls don't like it. Yes, it's stupid. It's stupid that you can emulate normative behaviors set by other women and have other women think you're weird for it
Some of these women have absolutely no business being on apps or dates because they themselves feel weird about it before they e even met up with you.
Alternatively your exchange you had with her sounds like you didn't really lead at all. You kept asking her what she wanted when though she clearly was hungry. Then you cracked jokes. There was probably more to it, if you weren't leading verbally your body language was probably not leading either etc. Sounds like your first impression was a bit unnatural but it's hard to say i wasn't there
another_random_roll 1y ago
Yes, I wasn't really leading, that's was really my main fault
Yes, I asked if she knows any good places with good around, cos I couldn't think of one myself
Tbh Im more upset about the cold approach I haven't closed that I did before meeting this girl than about what happened with her
Gilles 1y ago
The problem is with her. Not you. Good riddance really. She would probably be insufferable in a situationship, you should be glad that she left early. Tells all about her
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Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
Not gonna lie, I LOL when you said 'it's gay and friendly'.
Some things are both funny AND true.
You can hug your parents, your kids, or your best friend. Not a girl that you want to penetrate.
another_random_roll 1y ago
Ok how would I greet them if not with a hug then
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redhawkes 2 1y ago
That's how
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I always hate seeing this answer from men on here. If you were getting good matches (and a good amount of them at that) and going out with them and getting lays you (and other guys saying that) wouldn't be saying it.
No man doing well on apps is espousing that opinion because they're getting laid off OLD without too much trouble.
The answer isn't "don't use apps" the answer is fix your profile and present yourself as a man women want to fuck and go out with. Most men's profiles that struggle are always shit upon closer inspection and also their messaging and texting skills are not getting them dates either
Sometimes the problem is actually the guy and his presentation
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Exactly.
But men don't want to accept that they're underperforming, low quality etc. It's easier to blame the algorithm or not being a "Chad"
Every time I see struggling profiles the profiles are trash. I'm a dude and I get enough matches that I'm picky with even cute women. Then these guys don't seem to realize even mid women have 10x plus that level of choosiness
You don't even need to be a Chad, you just need a good profile, which most men suck at. Most profiles are crap. I've helped some actual chads fix their profiles before and those profiles were trash. Their SMV was 8-9 but the profile itself was garbage
I'm tired of seeing OLD sucks comments on here. Breh, it's your guy's profiles, not OLD
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
This! Get off your lazy asses boneheads! If you were Chad, you wouldn't even need dating apps. You'd have to buy a steel umbrella because pussy would be raining down on you all the time. Just walking down the street would land you 5-10 lays per day!
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
Personally I disagree. I’ve gotten laid plenty of times off OLD. Get damn near endless good matches. That being said; maybe I’m a tad biased from exp but most of them are weird as fuck or have some other underlying ick factor. A girl being on tinder is lowkey an instant turn off for me.
Call me old fashioned but I’m a huge proponent of meeting a girl in real life n securing some puss.
Additionally: there’s the pitfall of leaning on old as a crutch. Your natural rizz takes a hit and I believe that’s counterintuitive.
But take what I say w a grain of salt lol I just recently earned the removal of my larper flair lmaooo
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
What are you disagreeing about? I said old was good
Where are we not on the same page
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
Haha I say old is bad not good
AbusiveFather1 1y ago
can you show an example of a good male profile on tinder (photos+bio)? or maybe show your profile and blur the face/info?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
If i find one
My hinge profile gets a lot of cute matches but some don't necessarily meet. Tinder, they are only really looking for chads usually..tinder is almost just a straight hookup app
My profile could be better and I know it. Hence i don't have sour grapes thinking because my profile gets what it deserves. I can't post my pics because even if I blurred out some shit i have backgrounds in some photos that are doxxable and that's too much as an admin.
I have real life friends who know trp and i don't want the chance of someone I know stumbling across them and recognizing it somehow
AbusiveFather1 1y ago
understandable. censoring the background as well would be too much work, i'm not going to ask you to do that.
which app would you say lands you the most meet-ups? would you say it's best to have all the apps to maximize the return? which app would you use if you could only use one? some guys have told me that apps like hinge/bumble are dead and since tinder is the most popular one, it's best to focus on that.
also, don't the apps employ predatory sales tactics to get you to purchase premium by pushing the free profiles down the stack, effectively making them invisible? do you try to finesse the apps by purchasing premium, using it for a few weeks, then requesting a refund, only to delete the account, make a new one and repeat the process?
like financehardo and Karl Marx, i'm not a fan of OLD, but this is limited to the US region; i was an avid user in europe and got a considerable amount of dates from this for a reasonable amount of time invested (their points about OLD girls being weird still stands though, even there - tarnished goods). i will grant, however, that since pussy is ridiculously overpriced in the US, it requires a lot more effort (better profiles, social engineering, etc) than in other countries, and i will admit that i never really gave it a 100%, since it seems like such a waste of time for zero ROI.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
What the fuck dude. It's gay to hug women now? That's insane.
It's 2023, get with the picture.
Your comment is designed to massage your ego, not to help the poster.
Go away and think about your attitude before you try to "help" anyone else.
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mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Here's your problem.
YOU CARE BECAUSE OF SCARCITY.
If you had 20 other dates this week you wouldn't care.
I've had girls pull dumb shit. It's what they do. It's all a bit random. Everyone has shit like this that happens to them. Everyone has horror stories. She could have been about to puke, be on the rag, had a breakup, just got fucked, mother died, you just don't know. She sounds annoying anyway..... who the fuck doesn't know what they want to eat.
If you knew you were amazing you'd laugh. The problem is you don't think you're amazing and you don't have enough options.
So now you know what to fix.
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mattyanon Admin 1y ago
haha fair point :)