Not a oneitis post, just want to learn from what’s happened.
My ex kinda acted crazy after we split; from how she spoke on the phone to me to the eyes she had when I saw her on the street, it’s like she became some kind of rabid animal. Crazy. She changed.
I want to clarify - does jumping from cock to cock, be it a failed relationship or a FWB or one night stand, damage these hoes? I mean long term.
Because If so, why can’t they recognise that and realise what they did is wrong and try to rectify it? She must know being a hoe is disgusting, she used to cuss out hoes with me, yet I’m pretty sure she’s being a hoe rn.
Regardless, do they become less able to maintain future relationships due to this fall out? If so, can somebody remind me WHY that is?
I’ve seen studies on this (N count vs marriage success rate) and it’s in the sidebar, I just need to re read the material to remind myself she’s shot herself in the foot.
Also, I’m getting lonely again. I used to be able to chill with my baby and talk shit with her and tell her about my day and shit. Now all I have is a couple of pals, my customers, and my fucked up thoughts. I feel like somethings missing.
Should I try to replicate that bond we had with some other chick but bearing in mind it’s just my turn, and to not catch feelings? It’s really sad. I have nobody to live for or work for and it’s getting to me. I kinda want someone to care about me again.
Ik they don’t really love properly but whatever their fake version of love is I kinda miss having it. Will I be able to maintain it now that I’m fully RP’d?
Just want a companion again lol surely it ain’t impossible I mean my dad has it why not me?
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
women have evolved to avoid accountability and responsibility
yes
lower expectations, reminders of past hurt.
I get that...... but try to understand that the ideal of the loyal female soul mate is a longing designed to perpetuate the species, but that it doesn't exist. Painful I know.
Can't be done.
Learn to get everything you need from other people from yourself and your social life. Enjoy the good times with women but learn to need nothing from them.
What's really sad is that you're not living and working for yourself.
Right. Closeness and spending time together and stuff like that. But I'll tell you the worst part of all this: how she is when she's with you evaporates the second she's out of your sight. It's all an illusion.
Hopefully not
Your dad doesn't really have it. If your mother was younger she'd be a fuck tonne less "loyal". She's just sticking with her best option, which is all you get from female loyalty.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 1y ago
You are trying to think like a woman and make her understand logic. You are trying to save "women" from making poor choices/decisions.
Stop that, you are going to hurt your brain.
TRP, understand what attracts women.
TRP, Figure out what (you) want out of life.
You want "relationships", which is fine, so focus on a woman who adds some value to your life.
If she adds value is that "love"?
Love is a feeling, TRP is more about "actions". What does she do, provide for you?
So, worry less about "love", focus more on the "actions".
Lionsmane8 1y ago
You're asking stooopid to realize its own stoooopidity. That's just stoooopid.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I say this respectfully, but i think you're really spinning your gears here. A lot of posts man. I think you're taking a handholding approach where you want us to hold your hand through this process instead of doing a lot of the digging and accepting of things on your own
Have you read rational male yet? Have you read book of Pook? Have you been reading anything past the sidebar?
You're asking a lot of questions that could feasibly be answered by doing more work reading. You're also extremely far away from having a mental point of origin and your happiness is almost solely dependent on having women or a special woman in your life
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I totally get it man. It's not that I'm giving a critique because your asking questions, but that acquiring the drive to self-seeking and then maybe ask clarification will get your more mileage than asking for advice on essential basics
I think it would do you a lot better to sustain yourself with some deeper readings that might help you understand the material
Go into TheRedPill Forum with you're preferred search term, search by top of all time and you'll get a lot of writings that match your question and probably more in depth than a paragraph opinion from 3-5 users.
Definitely read rational male. If you haven't read it before asking questions here you're doing yourself a disservice
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Also, in your case Rollos second book will also help you understand your problems and concerns with women just being whores by actually explaining women's life stages etc