Let me make a counterpoint. Why are you approaching girls on your campus are you not in clubs, school activities, classes, have friends, parties. There are wayyy better ways to meet girls in college especially without the risk of damaging your rep. You should be focusing on meeting girls through common interests in college especially if you dorm. Save cold approaching for after college. Maximize social circle, night, old while you can. Girls have far too many options in college to truly give a shit, not saying it’s impossible, but you’re making it harder than it needs to be. Hell if greek life is big and seems like you’re thing look into the TOP frats. Tbh you don’t even really need to take girls on dates in college.

I usually ask them if they want to go grab something to eat

meal dates suck

instadates are fun, what goes wrong when you do this?

in a sense of a date. I think that’s coming off too strong and maybe I should change my game plan by just asking to be friends.

Never ask to be friends, jesus.

Here’s why I think that would work: we vibe and start to like each other and then we can go out to bars and clubs and other people will see me with chicks. Not to mention, girls around here are super busy so I don’t think they want a guy to date but rather a FWB type situation. That’s how those start to begin with, right? You become friends and then hook up when you’re both horny.

Yeah, you are all wrong.

We all start somewhere, that's fine.

You should be talking to women in a MAN TO WOMAN way. Flirty, commanding. Don't ask questions. Tell her to join you for something fun.

Don't put yourself straight into the fucking friendzone.

I should change my game plan by just asking to be friends.

this here means you need to stay home 2 weeks and actually read and watch some stuff before approaching again. 2 weeks is not the end of the world.

Download Tom Torero from torrent and read some book to get general idea, Roosh 'Day game' is not very technical and makes good read, also is short. Then one more read Brad P 'Forbidden truth'.

Despite good intentions all answers you got in this thread tell you 0.5% of what you need for starters.

Then read local SIDE BAR for more references.

You're coming across as inexperienced or like you actually are not sure what you're doing despite your countless cold approaches

I think somewhere along the way you actually missed some critical basics somewhere, hence your lack of progress

if they want to go grab something to eat in a sense of a date

too much investment

and then we can go out to bars and clubs and other people will see me with chicks

sounds like a plan