Has anyone ever had to give up alcohol? I’m thinking I’m going to have to hang it up soon. I am by no means an alcoholic I only drink on weekends and not every weekend at that. But everytime I drink lately Ive begun getting depression/suicidal thoughts and debilitating hangovers so Im probably going to give it up.
Honestly pretty hard for me since much of my social circle and friend interactions revolve around alcohol. I pretty sure I can stop but im worried about the ramifications. How did yall cope? What else did you have to give up?
Do people who stop drinking still go to bars? Pretty much my only way to meet women. I don’t see enough women daily to do daygame. Between work or school(online). Online doesn’t work for me. My good social circles live too far to hangout other for events(birthdays at open bars, big drinking events) kind of all Ive known since joining a fraternity in college.
Most importantly Can I still talk to women at bars being sober? Or is this a no go?like in terms of them drinking and me not. Is it even worth it to still go out.
fockedup 1y ago
Depends on the culture where you are. In some areas girls do find it "weird/creepy" for a sober guy to hit on drunk girls. And for a lot of girls they'll find it too intimidating to escalate things with a sober guy (especially if he's out of her league) because they think he's more likely to reject them, or because that "we were both drunk, it was a fling" factor doesn't apply.
Like I said it depends on the culture though, I quit drinking and can still pickup girls at bars sober. The far bigger issue is being able to force myself to go to the bar in the first place and enjoy it. Quitting drinking led to a way healthier lifestyle so I'm usually asleep way earlier than 12-1AM, if I go out sober I'm simply tired and not having fun.
Expect to possibly get invited to events a lot less too. Many drinkers don't like having sober people around because it makes them feel shit about themselves (either consciously or unconsciously).
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timmytaliban 1y ago
I stopped drinking when I go out when I was around 19 years old. I was blowing through so much of my money partying every weekend, mostly on Uber rides. I decided to just have 1-2 drinks and drive. Eventually, I just ditched it all together. I only need a few drinks now to have a fun time (when I’m not driving).
You can certainly still go out and party without drinking. I’d suggest you sip on maybe a soda or any other drink to both stay hydrated and also not seem like a weirdo. I always joke that I’m the “designated designated driver” when people ask why I’m not drinking.
I still talk to women, although I won’t talk to any that are obviously drunk. I can’t match that energy, and I still think others might find it weird why you might be trying to game the drunk while your perfectly sober.
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1y ago
How do you keep the energy?
timmytaliban 1y ago
You just have to do things that you find fun. My home city is probably the best party city in my country, and since I moved away I always find nightlife disappointing. I always enjoy the music and vibe when I go out now.
ObliviousDuck 1y ago
I stopped drinking years ago out of necessity and let me tell you my game only improved since then.
Also, who said you can't go in a bar without drinking alcohol? If you are afraid of the stigma, buy a bottled beer, go empty it in the rest room and fill it with water all night long. But really, you shouldn't give a shit. On the contrary, if people ask about it, use it as an opportunity to tell a crazy story.
If you are given a shooter, forward it to someone you want to pull in your set.
As @TryingToReform said, being sober is like a super power. You can wrap your mind around all those drunk idiots and completely dominate them.
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1y ago
Thanks yea im not worried about people judging me I just wasn’t sure if it was acceptable to hit on chicks who’ve been drinking while you’re not.
ObliviousDuck 1y ago
First of all, they are the one responsible for their drinking, not you. Your state has no bearing on their personal responsibility.
That said, don't be the guy trying to hook up with the smashed girls, not because of acceptability, but because it just isn't worth it.
It's bad energy, bad sex, bad logistics and bad reputation whether you are drunk or not.
Now I personally I'm very open about not drinking when I meet new people. Some continue drinking, getting smashed and upset because I won't make a move, some stop or moderate their drinking for the night so they can have a better time with me. Guess which one I'm going to gift my time to?
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