So I approached a handful of chicks the past few days. Yesterday was like 3 and the day before was 5. I know that’s not a lot, but I’m getting a feel for cold approaching on campus when chicks are walking to and from places.
The problem is, my college is super antisocial on campus unless people know each other in their own little social circle. The girls I approach are always startled and visibly uncomfortable because god forbid someone come up and talk to them. Some of them even told me that I was the first dude ever to approach them in public and ask them out. I’ve been very ballsy but my opener is always “hi” and “whats your name? Do you live on this campus?” And I ask them what they do and what not. A lot of girls told me that they’re too busy or have a boyfriend. One girl even gave me her number and when I texted her, I gave her my full name because she wanted the contact info. I asked her if she wanted to hang out next week and she didn’t get back to me at all. Maybe she’ll report me. I didn’t harass her but idk.
Then the chick I met up with last night told me that it wasn’t a date and I got kind of mad and simply left to go get drunk. I was down bad. I definitely should have stayed friends with her at least for the social proof. I even asked my roommates about picking up chicks and they all said that people are weirdos around here and no one really talks to anyone outside their social circle. I’m thinking maybe my game sucks dick or I’m ugly. Maybe I should just stick to bars. I don’t really know what to say to chicks when I approach them and I read their body language and a lot of them act like a deer in headlights. Maybe I should join a club too.
I feel terrible. My confidence is low but I’m still pushing forward. Every time I go up to a chick, I’m 70% positive I’ll get rejected and I’m wasting my time. Any advice is appreciated.
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User4566 2 months ago
Whats some good game material?
coolsocks00 2 months ago
Why dont you begin by listing what you've read/watched so far
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imtranscending 2 months ago
Do you mean Todd V?
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coolsocks00 2 months ago
No, rsdtyler is one of the RSD OG's that taught Todd V/RSDtodd. He's wacky but has a bunch of good material. Much of it was taken down in the past but you can still find some gems.
AbusiveFather1 2 months ago
sounds like hell of a lot better than a 100%, and definitely better than what other dudes have going on, if you’re often the first guy to approach girls
Don’t let modern kids’ autism stop you from getting pussy
DeathThroughTears 2 months ago
List book on pickup you have already read
coolsocks00 2 months ago
You're going up to women asking for information and shit (compliance) right off the bat. What you need to do is provide some incentive for them to ENGAGE with you. Why would they want to talk to some doofus who just asks them benign shit like where they live, like some potential stalker.
You need to trigger emotions. Having an abundance of self amused positive energy is one of the easiest ways to get engagement. Too much and you'll just be a clown, so find a balance.
imtranscending 2 months ago
Good work for approaching User. I know it's fucking difficult and it can eat at you sometimes.
I personally wouldn't open with asking if they live on campus. her pov: "why is this guy asking me where I live, I just met him"
You're going to get that a lot, and even more so if you don't correctly open.
Maybe she saw something wack on your instagram. Don't give chicks the full name over text.
Text game will always be crucial, and a better cold approach will mean you'll get a little further in text more of the time. Use that for logisitcs, but don't be afraid to be a little playful over text.
Also you won't get reported for talking to these girls. I genuinely had that fear my first semester of CC, but nothing happened ever, even when I bombed out hard.
Oh buddy.. you failed this shit test :( pay attention to her actions, not words. I'd like to have more context of this date, and even if it doesn't start of feeling like a date, it could still evolve into one. Take care of yourself, please don't get drunk over the pitfalls of this process. Next time you wanna get drunk over this, do 150 pushups first and see if you still wanna get drunk.
Game is bad, I can say that based on what you wrote here. I still struggle to get out of the basics into intermediate a lot of the time. SMV could also be an issue, I have a good eye. I may be able to help give you some ideas. But for SMV, having money or bigger arms helps. I'm personally finding that not having a high SMV is making it damn near impossible for me to move forward with most of my closes.
Don't do bars. Night game is terrible, everyone's expecting to get hit on, or hitting on someone else. Plus I'm sure you drink in the process, and that stunts you even more, so you don't actually improve game. But take whatever road you want.
let's assume you're accurately reading them. So what? Disarm them, be charismatic. Have an outward focus, be warming and have a good time with her. Girls don't get cold approached anymore OUTSIDE of bars.
I understand buddy. I know it's really fucking difficult, I too have to go through this. I'm also certain your SMV is higher than mine cause you got like 5 inches on me. I've just been at this longer so have learned how to go further. If I can do it, so can you. You got this, head up. Maybe meditate a little and evaluate if you're surrounded by friends that are positive influences.