I just started traveling for work and went out alone to a local college bar on a Wednesday . First night went really well, quickly made friends with guy next to me. Chatted up a couple girls, wouldve probably closed at least one but her friend was being obnoxious like intolerable.
Anyways two girls approach me at the bar we chat, theyre friendly introduce me to all their friends, we chat, hang and move bars. I meet the bartender. But Can’t close bad logistics but exchange numbers and they invite me out next night. Good night.
Next night not so good, I arrive quickly meet guy I met from last night he buys me drinks. I see the same girls and chill for a bit, but im not sure if I can close, so I decide to approach other girls. It was just one of those nights blown out left and right, couldn’t even get a 2min convo going.Im also talking to guys as well which goes better. I approach this one girl by herself and completely get blown out and I look to my left and the original girls I met are sitting right there, facepalm. They obviously see and Start whispering. End of night comes and this girl who was originally down to hang says No she saw me get rejected by all those girls or no girl wants me, something like that. (Which was funny bc I madeout with her friend 5mins before, she didn’t know bc the girl had to leave to take care of her drunk friend.)
How do you approach without other girls seeing you get rejected or how do I respond, it caught me off guard. , I feel like this is also why I was having bad results because other girls saw and it was like a domino effect. Also Im eventually gonna see these girls again how do I play it?
Sorry for bad grammar writing while otw to the airport.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
When I get rejected after getting off the dance floor (usually when it's clear they don't want any more involvement) i just use the body language of someone ending friendly conversation. I'm really gimmicky about it but I'll shake their hand or pat their back as we're walking off the floor lol
I don't really care if they feel slightly awkward, i want people to think I was saying bye to them.
Onlookers can't hear what we said but they can see what i do
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1y ago
Will try. Is there anyway to recover from this? Its hard especially in a small bar, her reaction makes me think she saw more than once, I remember in college my boy used to pull girls into a different room so others wouldnt see, but not plausible here.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I think they know man. Women aren't expecting guys to get a perfect success rate. I think they judge more if you looked like you got rejected for being drunk or creepy or if some white knight makes a scene
You're fine. People are overthinking their own lives there they are not staring and analyzing tf out of your normal nightly encounter. It's a projection fallacy to think that people care that much
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1y ago
Word thanks. I don’t care Im just wondering why she got so mad lol
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Probably because you made out and couldn't close the deal. Being turned away after a brief chat is a lot different than making a big move for 5 minutes and then being turned away
Women like men with options but not men without results and she watched that in live time. She doesn't want to be your second choice saving grace after seeing that
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
This is where awareness of your surroundings come in. Whenever I enter a bar I always scan the room and kind of see the potential chicks I’d wanna talk to. Whenever possible, I try to do so out of sight of other girls I also wanna talk to. This avoids the issue of them noticing me get rejected etc etc.
as verm said; no chick is gonna wanna be your second choice esp if she notices you got rejected by literally every other girl you approached lol.
With regards to a smaller bar (less space/opportunities to shoot your shots without being seen) I would focus a bit more on getting IOIs first before approaching. This would kind of give you better odds of not being rejected and anyone watching would know what’s up.
Ibanez 1y ago
It's really, really fucking simple man. Only approach based on interest signs. Night game is night game.
There is no cold approach in the night game. All approach is either done by the girl, not so rare as you might think (and it will become more common for chads in the future as no high value man is interested in seriously dating any woman born after 1998) or by you, based on some indicators of interest.
What are those IOI? Well go read some books about this, it's not rocket science, or watch some youtube videos if you are a zoomer, like me.
Why would you even waste your god damn time and ruin your chances of approaching multiple chicks at the bar by cold approaching some hoe that will reject you because she did not even notice you the whole night? Just pick women who choose you.
Only ugly hoes choose you? Well, you've got some work to do then
User4566 1y ago
I disagree. Some chicks just won’t notice you because it’s crowded, loud, dark, etc.
I went up to chicks who didn’t notice me and they lit up like a Christmas tree when I did.
AbusiveFather1 1y ago
the pessimist in me thinks this might be because you walking up to them is a golden opportunity to flex their value to their peers
User4566 1y ago
“HA! I didn’t want your ugly ass anyway!”
/s