Very bizarre situation. Don’t want it removed on main forum so posting here. TLDR: female friend I’ve been banging basically demanding apology for me screaming in her face and saying she was trauma dumping about her boyfriend. I have no recollection of either.

Been messing with her for a bit and she tried to escalate it to dating or going on a date and I politely declined. Anyway one night went to hang out after a night out in a bar and were talking I completely forget what happened but I know for a fact I didn’t scream/shout in her face like she said and I believe it would have been my naturally loud voice and the raised environment being in a bar. She also said I brought up her ex and her trauma dumping.

This also doesn’t make sense I don’t even know what this term is. I wouldn’t use it. I googled it and the context doesn’t make sense because she hasn’t and wouldnt talk about her ex like that to me. So why would I bring him up?

Anyway she hadn’t said anything ( was two weeks ago) and something I said made her remember and say it. I was perplexed so was like that wasn’t meant for me as I couldn’t remember. We go back and forth a bit until she’s like you should feel bad and apologised naturally. So based on your feelings I have to ignore my own mind and apologise? So what if I just feel I’m upset the other person has to apologise immediately?

I end up just saying it’s insincere as I don’t believe what you said and you’ve misread the situation completely and exaggerated it and we’ve hung out and you didn’t even bring it up and wouldn’t have unless I triggered the thought.

Fed up I say ok I apologise. Leaving it at that. Too much drama for me and cba to hang out with someone who will either flat out lie or have no reason for nuance. She knows me so if i did apparently do these things she doesn’t have the brain function to know it wasn’t meant that way.