Hello brothers. Recently, a former co-worker started hanging out with my friends' group and while tipsy she mentioned she likes me for the past year or so. I'm known as the charming asshole around the office but obviously I'd never shit were I eat. But now I'm in a new job and she's a really fun 23 year-old HB8+ so I played along and playfully told her my other girls would not like this at all. A week later we go out together and end up at my place. But when I try to escalate she mentions her boyfriend of 2+ years and even though "they have problems, rarely have sex and are on the verge of a breakup, she still cares for him and it wouldn't be right to cheat". LMR, I know, but I was taken aback at the time so I didn't push further.

Flash forward some days later, she hits me up to tell me they broke up so we go out again, end up at her place, some kissing and foreplay follows, I make her cum twice in the process but she stops me just before sex. I foolishly thought this is enough for now as I have her right where I want. She tells me she still feels weird etc. Next 3 weeks I was swamped with work and life so we didn't meet much but when we did (she initiated) she told me she thought about everything and decided to give the now-ex a chance because "it's the logical thing to do, he's a good kid and they have invested a lot in this relationship". At the same time she said I'm making this really hard for her as she can't get me off her mind and feels addicted. I comfort her a bit so she doesn't think I want to pump and dump her (while trying not to sound too BP) and when she tells me she needs more time and "let's just hang out" I explain that I can't see her as a friend. She stays the night and once again I try to seal the deal, but even though she says "no we shouldn't" she's enjoying it and only actually stops me when I try to pull off her panties. This didn't change the dynamic in the slightest, she still smiles like a retard when I'm around and tries hard to control herself.

I've already decided what I want from her. Single or not, she'd be a great addition to my plate list as she's both hot and fun to be around. She's probably trying to branch swing and normally I'd wait this one out but I have no similar experience since I never bothered with girls in other LTRs. There was even a time I considered this immoral :) It's easy to meet her alone but for now I have to provide enough plausible deniability not to trigger her defences. Do you have any suggestions on how I should continue?

PS: Her words say no, her actions scream fuck yes. It's funny how aware she is of her shit tests and even comments on me addressing them right. She's by no means shy but kind of inexperienced, 2 long LTRs (that I know of) back-to-back so there's a pattern. I can't confirm this but possibly a low bodycount too. As for me, I'm 31, tall, fit but not buff, high position in our line of work and have been her mentor in the past. There's no chance of her ruining my reputation at work or falsely accusing me of anything, no chance of getting killed by a jealous boyfriend and only a minimal chance of getting my ass kicked. Also, the boyfriend exists and their (short) breakup actually happened.