I went to this club for the first time last Saturday.
The bartender took my drink order and I tipped the regular 10%. Then either the next drink or the drink after that, she didn’t charge me. (To clarify: I mean that on one drink at this point she didn’t charge me. I just don’t remember if I had been charged for two by the time she didn’t charge me for one, or if I’d only had one prior to not being charged.)
Since she didn’t charge me and I had cash, on the next drink I got I gave her twice the drink cost since I got a free drink already and I was basically saving the tips from those two drinks. She said “thanks baby, I’m (I forget her name), what’s your name?” I told her and she shook my hand.
On the next drink that night she gave it to me for free. When I went to pay she said “you’re good.”
Last night I went again and she said my drink name and then said, “I remember you!” She gave me my drink and I tipped 10%. Then the next drink she didn’t charge me for.
It was not happy hour or anything. Is this an IOI or is she just forgetful or something and forgot to charge me multiple times?
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
she's splitting the profits with you, and the bar owner is the patsy.
Impossible to tell if she's interested or 'just working the customers'. Just be aware that she gets offers of sex several times a night. Do you think she wants to bang you? Do you want to bang her?
personally, I don't think I would pursue this line of enquiry. It's almost not fair to hit on bar staff / waitresses. I have done it in the past and gotten a few kills, but for the main, you're just annoying them while they are at work.
Also - if they are just working the tips - they flirt harder with guys that they think are 'losers' - so just remember that.
User4566 1y ago
Maybe, I had the same thing happen to me a month ago when I was out with my buddy but I don’t like to hit on chicks who are being paid to serve me. I just said she didn’t look like she belonged there (pretty chick in a metal-scene bar with Pantera blasting in the background and some typical tattooed guys around). We chatted for a split second and she gave my buddy and I a free shot. My friend even said to ask her out but again, in that situation I’d take her being friendly as a service gesture unless she’s being a little more upfront than that like asking what I’m doing later or whatever. Plus, I dig that bar so I don’t want to be “outlawed” over there.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Never.
Bang.
Bartenders.
AbusiveFather1 1y ago
i'd bank on forgetful, but really you'd have to keep going there; maybe talk to her, see how it goes
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
If yes, I pulled a guy last week.
This is partly why you get free drinks..... increased tips for the staff.
That being said, she sounds super friendly.
It's very friendly, obviously.
Does she want to be friendly or get a hard fucking? As always, escalate to find out.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
The problem is that you need to know.
You don't need to know. You need to escalate to find out.
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mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Good work.
You're on tricky ground now, because she's told you she has a bf.
Whether things go right or wrong from here, you'll get the blame...... "I told him I have a boyfriend".
Assuming you still want to try to fuck her, text her something like "when's the best time to text you?" to show that you know she's sometimes busy. Learn her schedule, learn when's best.
Best plan though is to enjoy her company, flirt, and fuck her friends and/or use her for social status in the bar.
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coolsocks00 1 1y ago
His point is that you wont find out here.. You'll have to escalate.
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whytehorse2021 1y ago
She's being paid to be nice you, don't forget that. She's primarily paid through tips. Instead of the money going to the bar for a drink it goes to her for tips. Personally, I'd fire her. Maybe she can get away with it if she only does it here and there or else bills it to another customer. I'll just warn you that bartenders see it all. They get asked out 20x/night. Their job is to flirt and keep you coming back. Torshaa has a youtube channel and she was a bartender and she really spills the beans.
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