Hi guys,
So I met up with a hinge match yesterday for a 1st date. We just walked around, I kissed her then took her to my dad's apartment(I live with my mum, my dad has a flat near where we met up but he is out of the country so the flat is pretty much abandoned) - after we get in we kiss and both get naked.
For context i'm a virgin & after some foreplay I coundn't penetrate her. I tried twice but failed both times which could be due to performance anxiety even though I felt confident in the situation. Still I fingered her and made her cum twice. She also gave me head twice but i stopped it early for some reason as it wasnt too enjoyable(didnt feel it much due to too much deathgrip masturbation probably -_-).
I don't have feelings for this girl and dont know if II want to go on another date with her but I would sure love to have the practise. The problem is my dad's studio flat,. Theres no internet, not even any bed coverings, its an old people;s block of flats - the type where theyll ring into your flat too see if youre alive lol & I wouldnt want to take her there again. Its only good for privacy & a bed.
How do I play this? Do I ask if we can hang out at hers? Should I just take her on fun dates? Or do I keep inviting her to the abandoned flat that's quite creepy?
Lastly, can any of you guys link me to the guide for how to play a situation after a 'one night stand' first date. As in who should text first etc. im still new to all of this
Thanks!
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AbusiveFather1 2y ago
are you from the UK?
Why would you, if she gladly jumps the bones of a guy that she just met - online, no less. Keep inviting her to dad's place, or invite yourself over to hers. She's already been to dad's "creepy" place, so I see no problem with doing it again.
Why couldn't you penetrate? Did you go flaccid?
Trusty7876 2y ago
Yeah from the UK. Everytime I put the condom on it would get softer + the one time where it felt hard enough I tried to put it in but I just coudln't.
So when I hit her up should I go straight to inviting her to my dads place? Theres acc nothing elese to do there. Maybe ill entice with some drinks and some weed
AbusiveFather1 2y ago
Yeah, I mean don't say "hey bitch, come on over to my place so i can finish what i started, bitch", just know that there's definitely no need to go out with her on a date beforehand. If she turns you down, that means she's not digging you that much anymore - who knows, maybe she's been through a dozen of dicks after your little get-together, which wouldn't surprise me, judging by her hinge-slut MO; a date wouldn't have saved you in that case. Like you said, entice her with whatever, but straight to your place.
Do you masterbate? If you do - stop; at least until you successfully penetrate. Don't look at porn/lewd imagery either. Did you go through a bunch of condom brands before you went with whatever you have had during the date? I recommend SKYN brand condoms.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Trying to fuck a girl you're not into is a leading reason you won't stay hard. Perhaps do not try to fuck women that don't sexually arouse you
Privacy and a bed? Just say you have roommates at your place and this place is better. Use your phone as a hotspot if you need Internet
Get some sheets and blankets from Amazon for under $40 or whatever the f your currency is
Having privacy is better than what a lot of dudes have to work with
First of all
THE SIDEBAR
If you haven't read it already.
Secondly, as a newbie I would seriously not preoccupy yourself with guides. Just interact naturally with them. Keep pure texting to a minimum but not the strict and autistic "only text for logistics" trope.
Have some text convo, especially that which leads to plans.
Always tell a girl to "text you when you get home" or if you are the one dropping her off at home text her "made it home, I had a great time" when you get back home yourself.
Depending on what she says just reply in the morning or afternoon. This is by far the easiest cheat code to keeping a convo going the next day without pressure and can lead to other natural, but low investment, conversation
Just start dovetailing the made it home great time text convo into future plans
My go to is to just talk about fun or cool shit I have going on the next day, eventually weave that into how fun I'm having or things I still want to do, which almost always dovetails into additional plans with a chick
Fuck guides. As a newbie all guides are going to do is make you think that's the only way to do things and gonna cause you to sperg and have unnatural views of how and why to interact with chicks a certain way
Guides are better for expanding your repertoire than they are for learning initially unless you can read them with a massively open mind and huge grains of salt knowing that these guides are more nuanced than face value