24 years old kisless virgin made my first cold approach.
A friend and I were at the party we saw chick and my friend went tp her woth the story to get myself in,but after 10-15 secpids of him talking to her I said fuck i am doing it myself.
Hey,you are cute,I like you,do you have a boyfriend Her:I am proposed(showed me her ring and some guy on the phone) Me:But would you cheat on him with me(with smile) Her:Well no,I dont do that Me:Well that is your big mistake(and I left)
I belive she is not married,she came 15-20 minites before that to some guy and asked him for lighter,talked a litle,thanked him for lighter and told me that he can sometimes come to her to do him a tattoo.
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mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Except going and talking to girls, he had that bit right.
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AllBlack087 2y ago
I read a sidebar.I approached and I was direct. She probbably doesnt find me attractive.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
So you read the Sidebar and yet you still tried to immediately trigger her ASD with the cheating comment, you also only did one approach all night (scarcity)
I'm calling bullshit that you either read (or at the least) understand the sidebar
Plus, isn't your account well over a year old? How are you not seeing the problem with the cheating comment etc?
READ THE SIDEBAR (AGAIN)
AllBlack087 2y ago
I havent did just one approach,I did 5. When I asked for cheating it was already over,because before that she said she is engaged
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I think your understanding of game and approaches are way off. Not just beginner level I mean just plain in the wrong direction.
Read up on game
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
The other story you posted also said that was "FIELD REPORT FIRST EVER APPROACH".
This direct approach works only if she's already attracted to you
That's a major commitment. Too much too fast.
Ok, this is nuts. She knows if she says "no boyfriend" that you will take this as a clear yes signal, which she isn't comfortable giving at this point even if she's attracted and comfortable but most likely she's terrified at this point.
Right
WHAT THE FUCK. She has just shown you a ring and the guy in her phone. This is very very socially miscalibrated of you.
You called her a whore, now she is saying that not only will she not fuck you, she's not fucking anyone else. I can't say I blame her.
This is trying to protect your ego. She knows it and you know it.
She said she's engaged I think? So not married.
That does not mean she is single.
Dude, you need to learn to have a normal conversation with a girl.
financehardo420 2y ago
Was gonna come in to say more or less the exact same shit
financehardo420 2y ago
The entire interaction is cringe.
1 when you’re trying to Rizz up a chick; asking if she has a boyfriend should never even come up in your convo. Would chad ask (or even care) if some slut has a bf? Fuck no just Rizz her up and close. My god. Them saying they have a bf is their way of ending the convo lol why would you willingly give them the ammo for it before you’ve even started building rapport?
2 you’re flirting like you’re in the second grade. What works better for me personally is being direct. “Hey I thought you were really hot so I wanted to introduce myself” etc etc. literally any shit like that as long as you deliver it correctly will be infinitely more of a panty dropper than “I like you I think you’re cute”
3 you really need to get a basic understanding of social norms; and women. Read sidebar, continue this practice of approaching chicks (practice makes perfect; it’ll get easier), start making friends and going to the bars; and go to the fuckin gym.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Do not worry about what anyone thinks about your first approaches. Not even the women.
These approaches are a tool. Not to get in a girl's pants, but to unfuck your beta brain and allow yourself to go for what you want.
Calibrate and re-read game material as you go. Keep it up.
User4566 2y ago
That was just BAD. That’s ok since you’re new so at least you found out what doesn’t work. If I were you, I’d focus on just having conversations with chicks. You’re doing fine.