Girl (HB7) I've known for sometime has always been very attracted to me. She always pops in and out of my life. She just broke up with her boyfriend of 5 months less than a month ago. She's been very emotional about it all (not crying on my shoulder, but bringing it up briefly in a group environment and clearly more somber than usual). However in the midst of this, she is still showing very high interest towards me. Constantly teasing, shit testing, trying to up her SMV to me by telling me about other guys who were into her that she brushed off (I always am unphased and IDGAF anyway either). I could seriously go on.
I am always of the attitude of striking while the iron is hot. However, I do not want to become an emotional tampon for her break up or out of impatience go for it prematurely and not read the social cues (impatience is one of my character traits which works for me and against me). If waiting a month is smarter I can do that. What are your thoughts on this situation? Should I ask her on a date now or wait until she cools down? I always like hearing from personal experience.
Thanks
Einsamer 2y ago
Treat her just like you treat any other girl that has drama in their life. There is no reason to make any difference whatsoever.
Imagine you go on a date with a girl and she starts telling you about her exes etc. They do it all the time. Just react like you always would.
Also, don't get your hopes up because she goes through a breakup. It sounds like you think that she might be an easy prey. But dude, girls know very well how to use breakups to their advantage. Don't get fooled by that. Always keep the lightswitch effect in mind.
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rmd123 2y ago
Thank you
I've been scouring through TRP for some years now and have incorporate a variety of aspects of game, but I've never actually implemented the idea of rewarding good behavior and punishing bad. Generally what I would do in that situation is just ignore it and abruptly change the subject. Could you give more examples to get my brain spinning on good punishments for bad behavior. Excuse my lack of knowledge, I'm here to learn.
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Durek_The_Bald 2y ago
Don't. Asking her on a date is a relationshipiddy move, and given the context, makes you look like a complete omega (trying to pick up another guy's scraps for keepers).
Keep it unmistakeably sexual, unmistakeably no strings attached. If she brings up the break-up to you again, tell her something like: "Hey, if you need a dick to cheer you up, I'm a real charitable guy" - if you can be cocky and funny about it.
If she's fresh out of a relationship, she's 100% looking for alpha right now. Pain relief in the form of fun and dick. If you bring any form of beta/comfort/seriousness to the table here, it's going to stress her out, 'cause she'll be afraid of the internal drama of maybe hurting your feelings.
She's already testing you to see if you're any fun, and if you're slippery enough for a drama-free rebound.
rmd123 2y ago
Hey, great insight and advice. I appreciate it.
Haha she definitely could give two craps about my feelings as for 90% of girls my age. solipsism.. I'll keep it fun. Peace
Durek_The_Bald 2y ago
Don't be so sure of that. They can and they do, just not in the altruistic/idealistic way that men often expect of them. Women's solipsism also means they wanna look good to themselves and others, to be able tell themselves: "I'm such a good person".
Part of the reason why neediness and thirstyness are such a turn-offs, is because most women don't wanna end up being "the asshole". And when guys are emotionally fragile like that, it scares them, and makes them feel responsible for his feelings. Women resent that kind of responsibility.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Right.
Escalate with her....... try to fuck here....... STOP LISTENING TO HER SHIT.... you don't want to be associated with the breakup..... it's time to say "but enough about all that, tell me your hopes and dreams" while you fucking kiss her. Like a man would.