Maybe I am misunderstanding this, but if the advice says if the girl does not look interested in you do not chase her.
But from my experience, most girls just don't want to put any effort, but still want to get fucked. Some girls I text give me really crappy responses, but if I call them, even for just 10 min conversation, it goes well and if I meet them, even if they don't seem too interested in me in person, they still bang me most of the time.
I feel like a lot of girls have close to zero interest in me, still they bang me. They don't ask questions about me, they don't follow up. Why shouldn't I be chasing them if this is all I have to do?
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Hanscheezburger 2y ago
All you do is let them know you're interested, like asking them out and if they don't reply with enthusiasm, you move on. That's what "not chasing" means. Because most of the time the juice isn't worth the squeeze. You WILL find better prospects with your time.
There will be girls who play hard to get. Sure. I've been with a few like that. But I only give them a few chances for acting bitchy before I cut them for good. Respect your time and respect yourself my man.
I've seen guys misunderstanding not chasing as being completely indifferent to women and I have to disagree. That's just friendzoning them and friendzoning yourself
AbusiveFather1 2y ago
does that work through women hamstering you friendzoning them as you yourself not being good enough, instead of themselves?
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
I can't say because your guess is as good as mine. It could be true for all we know. I like to keep it simple. Woman gives me IOI, I like her, I ask her out, if she plays hard to get - "Okay, no worries. Let me know if you change your mind".
There are SO many fishes in the sea, especially if guys invest in themselves and keep in good shape. Guys will have women chasing them and buying them gifts without doing anything. Then what's the point of chasing a lukewarm prospect?
AbusiveFather1 2y ago
do you not lower yourself by saying this? or you've tried this before and someone actually changed their mind? i've read here that if a woman decides to turn you down the decision is final, unless you go on to become a celebrity/millionaire or something
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
I think you're thinking too much. Doing so is just leaving the door open and implying that you will move on and not wait for her.
In recent memory yes. I matched with a 19 yo on Bumble, talked for a bit and I asked her out. She said she was having final exams and not interested. I said the same thing. About 2- 3 weeks later she messaged me saying "Exams over". Told her to hang out and now she's a FWB.
It won't work all the time but at least you're leaving an opportunity open.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
"Some girls I text give me really crappy responses, but if I call them, even for just 10 min conversation, it goes well and if I meet them,"
There you go - this is what I've been saying for years - texting is a waste of time. It's orbiting behaviour.
The advice is not to not chase women, its' to not be too invested in any one chase. Keep options open, be outcome independent and abundance mindset. It's like fishing. You cannot get obsessed with the one that got away, it will ruin your entire days fishing.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 2y ago
"I feel like a lot of girls have close to zero interest in me, still they bang me. They don't ask questions about me, they don't follow up. Why shouldn't I be chasing them if this is all I have to do"?
If a girl bangs you, she's attracted to you.
Some girls play hard to get.
some girls assume you are out of their league and this was just her having fun, she's not gonna risk more with you and get hurt.
don't chase girls, if you actually like her, show some interest. If it's not reciprocated, eject.
Women who like being chased, once that's done, they dry up. They are looking for the next one. chasing is beta
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Most advice is shit.
Women usually show little initial interest.
Right
Who says you shouldn't go after what you want? Not us, that's for sure.