As some of you from the main site may recall, I am moving to a new city next weekend. I've cut off all my plates and I won't be gaming/seeing anyone else in the interim as I don't have time.
I have one remaining "plate". Plate is a bit of a loose term here. A girl in the new city who I've met and fucked past 2 times I've visited.
Anyway, she's become very emotionally invested despite only meeting each other twice. Usually she contacts me every day and has done so consistently ever since I met her (~6 weeks). Whenever the conversation breaks she restarts it.
We already have logistics agreed. She enthusiastically invited me to an event the week after I move (~3 weeks time) and specifically said she wants to fuck. She tried to get me to go to a concert and stay at hers this weekend but I declined.
Past week things have started to die down. Conversation started getting a bit boring for my liking and we haven't spoken for a few days.
What's a good way to keep this girl ticking over for the next 3 weeks?
My usual play would be to wait until she reaches out. But given - this girl's high investment, long time until we meet and maybe a bit too much push (declining concert, leaving her on read multiple times, her always being the one to reach out) - I'm wondering if I need to give a bit of pull and keep in contact a bit more to keep her sweet.
I know this might come across as scarcity mentality - but if I can have an oven ready plate for when I move down, that would obviously be preferable. I'm going to have to build a whole new social circle and plate roster from scratch in the new city, so anything that helps with that would be beneficial.
Edit: Having thought about it, I'm way overthinking this. Logistics are in place. Either she reaches out or I text just prior to the event. If she flakes because of perceived lack of interest who gives a fuck. Abundance.
Although would still like to hear opinions.

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Bozza 2 2y ago
This one is early 20s, so it's snapchat. But most of my plates are whatsapp so that's not too bad of an idea
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Have you tried telling her the truth? Maybe she can come help you move...
Bozza 2 2y ago
She knows I'm moving down, she offered to come furniture shopping with me. Any excuse to meet she's tried to invite herself along to.
She'd most likely be up for it but it's probably more hassle than it's worth.
I move on the friday, bed doesn't get delivered until the sunday, so i'll be sleeping on an air mattress for a few days.
We're also moving in as a house share - got other housemates I haven't met yet who'll also be moving in same weekend. So it could be quite chaotic, and gives us some time to settle in and get to know each other.
That's why the following weekend was easiest. I'm organising a moving in BBQ for the friday night, and this event is all day and night saturday. Logistically it's easiest for her to stay with me all weekend so that's what we've agreed to.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Yeah but you still gotta pack. Never let a woman choose your furniture. I went shopping with my sister and she's pointing out all these expensive, uncomfortable couches that look nice. I ended up choosing the cheapest, most comfortable couch. $400 as opposed to $4000. I probably slept on that couch more than my bed.
My point is you're blowing her off. If you want to keep her interested stop doing that.
Bozza 2 2y ago
I blew her off for practical reasons:
But I get where you're coming from. I've blown her off quite a few times. Acting aloof and not giving concrete reasons is gonna come off as disinterest or dishearten her. So I should probably throw her a bone, or at least some comfort in the interim.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Yeah something as simple as "I wish we could pack my stuff together but the 4hr drive is murder. We'll be close soon and we can unpack together." Trust me, my wife was a long distance relationship for years before we met. It becomes a once-a-week video chat and they're hooked for the duration.
Bozza 2 2y ago
Simple yet effective, I'm gonna try that.
She reinitiated conversation last night and she's back high interest again. So I'll throw her some comfort.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
You're severely overthinking this.
Arrive in new city. Arrive at new house/apartment whatever
Text her you just made it to your new place
Let hamster tick about what that means for seeing you some time. Answer text in a normal way that progresses to her visiting you
If anything the convo has probably died from rejecting plans she was excited about. Just re-ignite a normal, flowing convo upon arriving and then profit.
Bozza 2 2y ago
Good call. Soon after I wrote this I realised I was being a bloopie.
That's exactly what I'll do. Radio silence unless I hear from her. Then a quick text/photo from the new place once I'm moved in.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Sounds good
One of my go to's when I want to ignite contact with low-effort bullshit is a good relatable meme. Sometimes with a "lol" as the only text of the message
Bozza 2 2y ago
Funnily enough, she just messaged me. I'll have a read in a minute, need a shower.
I swear these chicks have a 6th sense. This is the forth or fifth time I've wrote a post on here and they've responded once the advice started rolling in.
You know what, I've never really used memes in my game before. I might have to give it a try see how it pans out.
I send a lot of memes/reels back and forth with the bois, coworkers, acquaintances - but rarely involve plates until we've been seeing each other for a while. Maybe I'll start firing them out randomly see how it pans out.
Might have to tone some of them down though. The more dark humour shitlord ones might not get a great reception.