I have a couple girls I’ve met through various means like traveling, college, dating apps that live long distances from me, or are away from college, or they moved. I have numbers, snapchats, instagrams all in varying forms or combination from some of them.obviously theyre on the backburner.
Whats my approach to these girls when we’re close, im talking to one now whose down to go out but I only have her snap and she lives 3 states away till she comes back for college. I initially reached out when she posted a story she was in town for her friends bday, but our schedules didn’t line up, I was away that weekend. Do I try to get her number or just hit her up again on snapchat, when shes back. She just msgd me and I don’t know whether to risk getting her number just to sit on it and kill the interaction or leave her on read and just wait to hit her up again when she’s back.
Should I give her my number.
Bozza 2 2y ago
If they're far away and the chance of seeing them again is low, sack them off. Not worth spending time on them.
If there's a decent chance you will see them again and you like them, you can do a bit of intermittent game to keep them as a warm lead.
I have a few girls from different cities who I see anywhere from every few weeks to every few months. Every now and again when I'm doing something cool, I will send them a photo/video on snapchat/whatsapp/instagram.
I blast out a photo to friends, family, plates, and these girls I see occasionally. The key is you also add the photo to your story, so it's obvious that it's a mass spam message sent to everyone and not just them in particular.
That's usually just enough to keep them as a warm lead. Often they will do the same and send you photos of shit they're doing. So you end up with a brief conversation every week or two weeks. It keeps that rapport.
When they're in town, or you're in town - you hit them up and arrange logistics.
I know the TRP maxim is logistics only, but it really doesn't hurt to keep in contact with these girls. If you fuck up and they ghost, who gives a fuck? What have you lost? A chick you see once every few months - big woop.
sad_farm 2y ago
Yea I 100p agree. The redpill seems very against social media but I find its good for leads in the long term. Obviously prefer more solid girls but I agree. I couldn’t give a shit about her tbh I just wasnt sure whether to keep it on social media and or keep talking.
Bozza 2 2y ago
@Vermillion-Rx response here is poignant. Your focus should be on your roster of local plates.
These are just girls you keep warmed up for when you're out of town and want a quick fuck, and they can be leveraged for some easy social proof on social media.
A HB8 or 9 you rarely see or fuck still has value if you can get her to regularly comment and like on your Instagram posts. Local plates see that when they stalk your social media and you get easy social proof.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
This post absolutely reeks of scarcity mentality
Game local women. Just YOLO far away ones who cares if they say no
You're severely overthinking this and or have no local options, in which case you have far bigger problems
sad_farm 2y ago
I mean you’re not wrong about scarcity and I get what you’re saying, but wouldnt it be advantageous to pursue a warm lead. This girl will be back for the year for college in a month. I mean I don’t give a shit if she says no Im just asking whether I need to game her in the interim so she doesn’t forget or just wait till she’s back to reach out. Redpill says only for logistics but these girls forget quickly Was planning on pursuing other girls as well.
I’ll also encounter these situations quite frequently since I travel for work.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Text for logistics only is an outdated sperg rule
Texting spergs that destroy their own chances 24/7 should only text for logistics but throwing a bone out here and there doesn't really hurt
If you're already fucking a chick it hurts even less unless you text retarded
I don't really text chicks I haven't fucked yet. I throw some bones on the way to logistics and throw a few more bones before the date if need be
"Text for logistics" should not be taken literally unless you completely fuck yourself via text which too many guys do for no reason
If she can't see you for months you shouldn't even care what you send her, especially out of state. Your investment should be basically zero. Text her if you feel like it but honestly if she's out of state you shouldn't be sending much at all unless it has to do with plans
The flake chance is so high your investment should be almost zilch
RedRedRed 2y ago
Guy never said he didn't have local options. Sounds like he's asking a legitimate question about that to do with girls who come in and out of his town.
Now if he's implying he's about to fly three states over for a lay, there's a problem.
To OP, I'd stop following along and commenting their stories. That is scarcity. If they hit you up, fuck em good. Otherwise, back up a bit.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I generally respond to users based on the culmination of their recent posting history, not just their post itself
I browse a lot and generally have an idea of what a user's last couple posts were like hence why it looks like I'm making unwarranted assumptions
OP has a valid question but the point here is these girls are such costly lays that OP really just should YOLO it because it's not terribly important.
Get her number, throw some text game, ask about area, try to make plans. Point is flake risk and logistics is so bad that OP shouldn't care what his approach is with out of state girls whom he doesn't even have the phone number of yet. The post has too much investment in them. Needs to just YOLO these girls because I'm all likelihood, even if he makes plans. They will flake
Also, tends to not be a topic of concern at all unless an OP is usually also struggling locally. Most posts by guys looking for niche lays are having issues back local
RedRedRed 2y ago
Didn't realize you did your homework on posters.
Couldn't agree more if he's focusing on these time wasters and not actively getting laid
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
As an admin I read every post (unless I'm pretty sure I don't need to) just to fulfill basic modding duties and to reflair posts, look for shite comments, etc.
So yeah.... I know basically every regular poster's general story and past-year circumstances
RedRedRed 2y ago
Appreciate the time you put in to make sure this space exists for men
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Just have a chat once a week. That's about how long it takes to have enough new experiences to have a convo.