Okay, so i'll keep it as short as I can.
There's a girl in my friend group who i'm somewhat friendly with. She invited me to a concert a couple of days ago. We were playing a drinking game and she wanted to sit next to me for it. I got a card that said something along the lines of "say the kinkiest thing you'd do to the person on your left". I wasn't drunk and I didn't know what to say so I just said "I'd hold your hand really tight". I was pretty sure it's obvious that it's a lame joke but she seemed distant after that. Still, I kissed her the next day because of the game and she said she liked it.
A couple of weeks before that, she saw me talking to a girl at a bar and she texted me basically asking if I fucked her. She also told me i'm hot a few times, but i'm not sure if she's the type to say that to everyone.
I'll be smoking weed with her next week. Is there anything I can do here? Is it worth trying to make a move?
redhawkes 2 2y ago
No, definitely don't try to escalate.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
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Stop overthinking this shit. Either try or don't try you already kissed her
https://www.forums.red/p/theredpill/320651/reverse_field_report_girl_gamed_me_turned_her_down_but_i_wan
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
So you acted really gay during the game, but because of it, you kissed her the next day? I like how you post about the silly game night and almost leave out the kiss situation.
What would you suggest?
asadguy 2y ago
It was just a silly game though, imo it would've been more cringe if I actually said something serious.
As for my suggestion, idk, go in for a kiss again?
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Since you're fresh and genuinely wondering, here's a good escalation ladder.
Total time for the above: 30 minutes – 4 hours. After you have isolated her in a sex location, proceed to
The last section of steps can take as short as 15 minutes. Any resistance during any step is handled by backing off a little and continuing with the previous step until the next one is “unlocked”.
This is the "to-do" list you should be following in the background, while you talk almost like normal (should be more flirty, teasing and physically close).
It's essential to step off the gas every couple of steps, for just a second. That's the pull part of Push-Pull. Escalating, as described in the ladder, is pushing, and pulling is taking away attention/physicality, etc.
Like when you go in for the kiss, you should be the one to break it off first. Then you can continue talking as if nothing happened. Then you go again and take another step.
User4566 2y ago
It will be way easier to escalate. Weed makes people horny. But I'd still be cautious, she could say you took advantage of her.
Janus 2y ago
Dude it sounds like you have oneitis really bad this is literally an easy dub. She’s given you multiple opportunities to make your move and even setup alone time in a week.
Gilles 2y ago
Don't think this is obsessing to the point of oneitis, It's just overthinking and lack of game experience
Gilles 2y ago
She sounds into you. Her asking if you fucked another woman is a strong ioi. You're just thinking too much about it. Game her with the intent of fucking her (tease and physically escalate), just as you would any other woman. You might not succeed, but then you can move on to other girls.