I tell myself a few different things.

If I don't do xyz when the iron is hot:

1) I may never see her again

2) I am going home empty handed if I don't do this

3) if I don't do it someone else will

4) I will regret it and spend infinitely more time wishing I'd made a move than time spent wondering if that move went as well as it could have

Gotta stop being afraid of it. You're probably excited, not afraid

It's like jumping off a diving board - the longer you stand there thinking about it, the more you'll psyke yourself up and the less likely you are to do it.

In my experience it's very rare that's there's a perfect movie moment to go in for a kiss. Most of the time you just have to make it happen. Sometimes it's clunky, sometimes it's more natural. If you think you should go in for the kiss, you probably can.

You need to go into the situation with a YOLO attitude.

If you don't kiss her, you don't make a move - then you are 100% guaranteed to fuck it up. So might as well make a move right? If she rejects it, the outcome hasn't changed. If she reacts positively, you're in.

I think most guys are scared more than anything that the girl blows up, starts screaming etc. Thing is most girls will not react like this. They're more scared of you than you are of them. On the occasions where I've been rejected, they will just subtly turn you down and it's no big deal.

Honestly I can tell you theories or whatever but it’s just a matter of experience. I’ve lost good women in every single way imaginable at this point. I’ve learned when to push and when not to, because I’ve lost by pushing and lost by not pushing enough. It’s important to take accountability (we are males, we have the capability to do this), and learn.

I wish I can tell you a shortcut and there’s some good stuff in the replies in this thread, but I have lots of success with women now simply from practice and experience. Every girl you fumble is a learning experience. Don’t beat yourself up but learn from it.

Just make sure to actually try, actually talk to them. You don’t learn from the girl you let walk away before you tried.

Meh I know what you mean. But as others have said. Both of you are there for a reason the only time it’s valid is if you’re friends with the girl. If it’s a random girl or girl you’ve dated. Make the move. It may work out, if it doesn’t you have your answer and can focus elsewhere

Just lack of experience. You'll get there.