So I made a friend last week after we talked about how I go out to bars and clubs now. The guy's new to the area and needed some friends so we exchanged numbers. The guy is a yuppy college graduate white guy but he's a good looking guy. So we go out last night to grab drinks and soon as I see him, girls are talking to him. I was impressed. After some chatting, we left and started bar hopping. When we got on the train to go home, a 3 girls were sitting by with each other on the train and one of them (blonde hb6) asks if she could sit with us. I was drunk so if I remember correctly: she asked us "where ya from" and I responded "that depends, who you talking to?" And I said that my friend was from insert other state and she began talking to him and only talking to him. It kind of hurt but I think maybe I pushed her away somehow by doing that. She asked him for his instagram and even when they had no internet, she was like "I'll screenshot it" when typing it in.
After he got off his exit, she went back to her friends and even got up to tell them "I'm gonna go throw-up" and was in the bathroom for like 10 minutes. Kind of nasty. Her friends also looked like wrecks, tattoos and skimpy outfits.
I felt kind of bad though because I don't want to hang out with this guy if girls are going to approach us only to get with him. I know this is one time, but he told me that it actually happens often for him. I'm not jealous, I'm happy for him! The problem is, I don't want him stealing all the girls. I've had girls approach and talk to me at bars before to but not often.
Thoughts?
Problematic_Browser 1 2y ago
Get attractive?
If you're not lifting and working on your money, you don't get to bitch.
Edit: story time
I was out on a mission a couple of years back and some buddies of mine called me up to hit a house party. So i go.
I walk in, just being my usual effervescent self and I attracted the attention of a woman that an associate of mine had his sights on. He was not pleased and approached me about it and I simply told him "look at me and look at you. Who would you choose?"
Women have things they like. It is not your friends fault that he has more of it than you. You can't check him. You can't control women's preferences. All you can do is change yourself.
User4566 2y ago
I understand, I don't hold my friend accountable because he did nothing wrong. I'm just worried that he'll cast a shadow on me when we hang out. I have a fear that women will always pick him. I'm taller and I lift weights, he actually doesn't!
Bulba 2y ago
It seems that he’s white and you’re not.
I think you should be hanging out with attractive guys that share your ethnicity, rather than an attractive white guy.
Girls who are into attractive white guys are almost never into average guys of other ethnicities. So you’re attracting the wrong kind of girl when you hang out with him.
User4566 2y ago
Nope. Im white and taller.
Bulba 2y ago
Then you should definitely listen to other people’s advice here.
As you’re taller, you will look good in any pictures that you take next to him.
Also, don’t immediately try to game every girl that approaches him. If a girl is out of your league, try to use her for social proof.
User4566 2y ago
Dropped social media a while ago besides snapchat.
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
Just do other things with him instead of picking up chicks. Some guys just suck all the air out of the room when they walk in. There's no way to compete with a 10. The laws of physics are completely different for them. No amount of money+muscles+game+frame will work. I knew a total loser, short, lived with his mom, dropped out of school, didn't work... and he had HB10s on his dick all the time every day. He got invited to all the cool parties, women bought him everything, drove him everywhere, like he was some kind of rock star.
What you can do is use them for social proof. Take a photo of you two doing something fun, throw it on social media. When the girls ask who he is say he's gay or trans or whatever.
User4566 2y ago
Yeah, but the guy was handsome as fuck I bet. I also don't use social media, that stuff is retarded.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Yeah and so I would ask him where all the cool parties are, say I knew him for social proof, hang out and smoke weed with him in between HB10s on his dick. How else would I know he had a basket full of condoms next to his bed at his mom's house?
JamesSkepp Moderator 2y ago
Learn game. Game > everything else.
User4566 2y ago
Ok, so what would you have done in that situation?
OPPTRP 2y ago
Get up and talk to the girls friends
nicknack 2y ago
Exactly this.
JamesSkepp Moderator 2y ago
You want a solution to specific situation - that solution is learning game, which will forever solve any "my friend is hotter than me" problem.
User4566 2y ago
Where can I learn game?
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Sidebar, books, youtube. How can you post around here and not be doing any reading bro? Come on.