When she comes over, or I go see her, it seems I can easily just start fucking her. There's very little warm up, she's ready to fuck right away. Very willingly.
I'm okay with that, I feel as if I cannot flirt very well with her. And flirting of any kind seems pointless.
I barely know what to talk about with her. I try to let there be silence, but I fear it may bore her too much, eventually.
Having her around feels like having a rock I can just fuck whenever, but there's no real substance, I guess.
Is this how it goes? Do we just hang out and fuck until one of us departs?
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
This is bad. You feeling the need to talk to not bore her is you succumbing to social pressure to be the entertainer. You don't need to worry, you don't even need to care if she's bored.
Up to you.
Well, look. You can try and spice it up, or you can let it die. It's up to you: but she's not going to change.
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whytehorse2021 3y ago
I'm going to assume you've vetted her for 2 years and found no red flags. The typical progression is to try living together and merging your lives, getting married, and having kids. She becomes a permanent source of sex while adding value to your life. You'll find a couple common things you both like but the end goal is to raise kids together.
Being a man goes in stages. First you build yourself up from ages 16-23. Then you establish yourself financially enough to take on another person as your wife. Then you make new people and take them on as their father. Then one day you get to be grandpa. It's the circle of life.
DragonNuts 3y ago
Are you saying that has to be the end all be all for a relationship? Why?
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Pretty much. It's because men and women are different but complimentary. Blue pill would have us all thinking men and women are equal and a relationship is a partnership and blah blah. The truth is women are good at nurturing and home-making and men are good at leading, competing, protecting, and providing. When I had a farm you could really see the dynamics play out.
I've tried the whole relationship just for a relationship but it never worked out. It's always just me doing my thing and her doing her thing and we fuck sometimes. Remember that it's men who are romantic. Women are opportunistic. They fundamentally fit into a man's frame as a wife and mother. Sometimes she can add value in other ways like running a home office while you're out doing the work or something like that. Sometimes she has a powerful family that can benefit you. But the long and short of it is she is there to help you build your legacy.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Come on man. Lol.
And then you die. No, this is not how it's supposed to go.
You should have a purpose and goals. When you have a LTR, she should be helping you achieve these goals. Helping you relax by sexually pleasing you is only a small part of it.
The thing is, few women instinctually know how to help you with this. They need to be guided and lead. You have to train her.
Get her helping you with chores and cooking you meals. Get her to make your difficult and taxing job/tasks easier by helping with the simple stuff. Appreciate her and reward her. Take away rewards as needed.
This is a good place to begin: https://www.trp.red/p/humansockpuppet/754
DragonNuts 3y ago
We don't spend enough time together during the week for her to help me with anything, and we don't co-hab. but she does cook/clean etc.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
You think this is a better strategy than actually doing things?
DragonNuts 3y ago
I take her out to do things, she invites me out for things when she wants to "Do something for me because I deserve everything >heart face x4
Seems something is lacking sometimes,. No reason to care about it if it doesn't matter, just not sure what it is.
There's not necessarily any "Strategy" I have to use with her. I just do what I've always done since I met her and she's into it and has even improved on herself, by my lead.