How would you go about that:
So, i picked up a hot and very attractive med student (another one).
This one is very feminine and submissive, calm and introverted. She was studying for a coming exam at a coffee shop i usually go to.
We had a long conversation, sparked some tingles in her and we exchanged numbers.
We've been texting sporadically these last 2 days and she wants to setup some private time (date? Is that even a thing nowadays).
The thing though is that she's busy with her exams this week and on the day of her last exam, friday she'll be traveling for a bit within the country.
So it'll be a while before we get to meet one to one.
My question is how to keep the attraction.
I just lost a girl because the attraction fizzled out due to me being out of town a lot over the last few weeks (the replies where taking longer and longer to come each time) and I don't want a repeat of that.
I also don't want to be in her face all the time.
What's the right middle ground?
For context, she seems inexperienced (muslim and all), not the party type, quiet and studious and due to being that reserved and attractive I can tell few men actually approach her.
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 10mo ago
There is no 100% foolproof way to do this. You just have to be ok with some of them getting away.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 10mo ago
I didn't fuck my current FWB until 6 months after I basically ghosted her.
Some times trying to keep the attraction burns it to the ground. Make sure the interactions you do have with her are all exciting and good. That's more important than maintaining contact overall.
I'm not saying ghost her, my experience was incidental. But if you send anything at all, have it be Quality and attractive, not just there to be there
3 deeply exciting texts a week are theoretically worth infinitely more than daily correspondence that dries her up and communicates all the wrong things
Lionsmane8 10mo ago
True. But again your example is very anecdotal.
What do you suggest as deeply exciting texts?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 10mo ago
Considering you haven't even fucked her yet this is a real challenge
Your best bet would be to take highly interesting pictures of your highly interesting day and have sporadic convo revolution around that
It is REALLY Hard to flirt for extended time when you haven't yet fucked. You can't be spamming messages or you'll end up a pen pal. Keep whatever you send interesting and don't send anything else
Interesting pics of your day, a good, well-placed appriate neg, a complete tease of whatever she's doing traveling, a mystery or secret you won't tell her until she gets back
You have to play hardball with a traveling chick. You can't just run your standard shit in this situation
OPPTRP 10mo ago
Agreed with this. If you can’t see a girl within the week you haven’t fucked it will die out. Once you’ve been on a few dates and fucked her it will be easier to maintain attraction with minimal effort
Lionsmane8 10mo ago
We didn't fuck yet. Met only 2 days ago.
OPPTRP 10mo ago
Yes that’s what I’m saying. You need to fuck to make sure that it doesn’t die out
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Durek_The_Bald 10mo ago
Same as always: Let her chase you (even if it's just over text), reward her when she does, 2/3rds-ish rule, and don't put all your eggs in one basket. There's no guarantee no matter how you play it. Do not give a fuck.
Bozza 10mo ago
This one is a real fucking struggle. Anything longer than 3 or 4 days out and it starts getting real hard to hold their attention if you haven't fucked yet.
What I try to do is strategically drip feed texts over a period of time. Text, let it fizzle, few days radio silence, another text and so on...
I'd see if you could leverage her into sending you photos of her travels. That would be a decent way to keep things going over a few weeks.To an extent you're gonna have to LARP as a beta orbiter, but if you can get her chasing your validation by sending you photos that's a decent position to be in.
Truth be told I've never had to drag contact out over this long of a time frame before.
OPPTRP 10mo ago
this man knows.. if you meet quick its fine to talk often but otherwise drip feed.. this also allows you to see if shes actually interested too
Lionsmane8 10mo ago
That's actually a good strategy.
Whatabout sexualising the convo too?
Bozza 10mo ago
Once a message gets sent you can usually riff of that to have a back and forth and sexualise the conversation.
Can use it reinforce good behaviour (i.e. consistently reaching out to you while she's traveling).
mattyanon Admin 10mo ago
By being random. Big range of topics, some excitement, and some you not responding, being distant and being busy. She has to MISS you.
More than once a week......... NOT EVERY DAY.
Lionsmane8 10mo ago
Examples?
mattyanon Admin 10mo ago
It's you chatting up this girl, not me.
Point is: wide range of topics covering many aspects of life, including some things that directly excite her.
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whytehorse2021 10mo ago
Just friend-zone her until you can get together. If she's truly Muslim she won't fuck you until she knows you're going to marry her. If that's the case just keep her in the friend-zone as an orbiter until you're ready to get married and have kids. I did this with my Muslim wife. It's really neat marrying someone you're already friends with and have many years of vetting done on each other.