Not so much a cope, as an unintentional nugget of red pill truth about the nature of women: If they think you're hot enough, if they have genuine desire for you, they'll put up with just about anything to keep you. It's not what you do that makes it right or wrong in their eyes - it's whether you're attractive or not while doing it.
Yup. Harsh lesson a lot of young men have to learn the hard way is that you can be an objective piece of shit human and it has very little to do with whether or not women are willing to open their legs for you or would consider you as a long term partner. (conversely being a moral saint gets you nothing by default)
And this phenomenon is grossly emphasized in societies with welfare networks that negate a woman having to fear the consequences of choosing men poorly.
Thats not true. My ex got really dreaded from me, i felt i was out of her league, or at least she treated me that way. Super jealous, but it led to an otherwise healthy relationship.
I made a nuclear mistake one day, and it showed her that I was not capable of being in a LTR. (Well, I am, but she had evidence in this fluke scenario where she felt justified in that belief - and thats fair)
So yeah it led to the downfall. But meanwhile I was her hot Chad bf in the process.
The thing is that when a girl wants a RELATIONSHIP you cant treat her like a plate. It WILL break, she will put up with it until she cant anymore. It doesnt matter how attractive or alpha you are. In a LTR you need to be a certain type of guy. She has girlfriend duties and you have boyfriend duties.
Yep, I saw that too. They're basically admitting he was attractive enough to do whatever he wanted, and they're mad in retrospect because they couldn't control or lock him down. Otherwise, why would they give a fuck?
There's literally 4s and 5s in the comments talking about how they gave an "ugly man" a chance, and he blew it. Like, have you looked in a fucking mirror lately?
Narcissm is one of her tags, yet ironically the real narcissism is rampant for all to see in the comments section.
Actually I think they are saying in this specific example he wasn’t necessarily good looking enough but he carried himself in a way that they thought he was their best option. Girls are more inclined to find reasons to find a partner bad looking or icky as they say. They could be going out with Brad Pitt but because they’re broken up he looks like Jabba the hut to them. Their egos can’t take rejection.
Whereas guys, we still find our exes hot they just weren’t the one no big deal
What's interesting is that I was near enough obsessed with my last ex after we broke up, wasn't finding other girls as attractive after her, thought she was beautiful blah blah blah; and it's not as though I haven't been through breakups before, but my self esteem was so low after this one and I think that's why.
Looking back now, and it hasn't really been that long... I don't really find her all that attractive now. I can't say that objectively she's unattractive, because that simply isn't true, but I personally don't see her in the same light and different girls are starting to look good again, like really fucking good. So I think that's what's happening here to some degree too: the dude was never ugly, it's just their perception of him has changed to a negative one. Either that, or he's actually let himself go. My ex hasn't let herself go though, she just doesn't look that good to me anymore. The lenses are off.
Women do not want commitment from men they are unattracted to.
Any time you see a woman bitching about her ex or her baby daddy (because having a baby counts) then she's just providing post-breakup justifications for her hamster so it can sleep at night.
Women are the gatekeepers of sex so it continually amazes me on not only how many but also WHO they decide to fuck. So when I hear a girl tell me that the last guy she fucked, dated, had kids with, a ONS with, a hook-up, was a FWB, had a tinder date, went and Netflix and chilled was also the biggest jerk, A-hole, druggie, gang banger, alcoholic, deadbeat, real losers who were rude, disrespectful, selfish, boring and had a huge ego; I keep thinking so that is the guy you choose to fuck? A guy like that is who you took your clothes off for and got on your hands and knees and presented you ass to? Seriously?
I have seen women go off on an emotional rants on what a deadbeat abusive jerk their Ex was, and all I can think is "this is the guy you choose to fuck."
80% of the time it's bullshit.
A woman will never admit that she did something wrong or stupid to ruin a relationship. It's always the exes fault.
The other times it's because she's a trash woman who's dated a trash man. Which is normal: individuals from the same species do tend to reproduce with each other.
Half the girls these days call their exes narcissists like it's something you can casually diagnose someone with on TikTok, and not over a long period of time with extremely well trained professional psychiatrists. Usually what you actually find is that these girls are in fact most likely the narcissists themselves.
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Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Not so much a cope, as an unintentional nugget of red pill truth about the nature of women: If they think you're hot enough, if they have genuine desire for you, they'll put up with just about anything to keep you. It's not what you do that makes it right or wrong in their eyes - it's whether you're attractive or not while doing it.
With women, always read between the lines.
Overkill_Engine Endorsed Contributor 1y ago
Yup. Harsh lesson a lot of young men have to learn the hard way is that you can be an objective piece of shit human and it has very little to do with whether or not women are willing to open their legs for you or would consider you as a long term partner. (conversely being a moral saint gets you nothing by default)
And this phenomenon is grossly emphasized in societies with welfare networks that negate a woman having to fear the consequences of choosing men poorly.
amazonri 1y ago
Thats not true. My ex got really dreaded from me, i felt i was out of her league, or at least she treated me that way. Super jealous, but it led to an otherwise healthy relationship.
I made a nuclear mistake one day, and it showed her that I was not capable of being in a LTR. (Well, I am, but she had evidence in this fluke scenario where she felt justified in that belief - and thats fair)
So yeah it led to the downfall. But meanwhile I was her hot Chad bf in the process.
The thing is that when a girl wants a RELATIONSHIP you cant treat her like a plate. It WILL break, she will put up with it until she cant anymore. It doesnt matter how attractive or alpha you are. In a LTR you need to be a certain type of guy. She has girlfriend duties and you have boyfriend duties.
OPPTRP 1y ago
What did you do to make her feel you couldn’t be without her
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
Yep, I saw that too. They're basically admitting he was attractive enough to do whatever he wanted, and they're mad in retrospect because they couldn't control or lock him down. Otherwise, why would they give a fuck?
There's literally 4s and 5s in the comments talking about how they gave an "ugly man" a chance, and he blew it. Like, have you looked in a fucking mirror lately?
Narcissm is one of her tags, yet ironically the real narcissism is rampant for all to see in the comments section.
OPPTRP 1y ago
Actually I think they are saying in this specific example he wasn’t necessarily good looking enough but he carried himself in a way that they thought he was their best option. Girls are more inclined to find reasons to find a partner bad looking or icky as they say. They could be going out with Brad Pitt but because they’re broken up he looks like Jabba the hut to them. Their egos can’t take rejection.
Whereas guys, we still find our exes hot they just weren’t the one no big deal
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
What's interesting is that I was near enough obsessed with my last ex after we broke up, wasn't finding other girls as attractive after her, thought she was beautiful blah blah blah; and it's not as though I haven't been through breakups before, but my self esteem was so low after this one and I think that's why.
Looking back now, and it hasn't really been that long... I don't really find her all that attractive now. I can't say that objectively she's unattractive, because that simply isn't true, but I personally don't see her in the same light and different girls are starting to look good again, like really fucking good. So I think that's what's happening here to some degree too: the dude was never ugly, it's just their perception of him has changed to a negative one. Either that, or he's actually let himself go. My ex hasn't let herself go though, she just doesn't look that good to me anymore. The lenses are off.
OPPTRP 1y ago
Because you’re thinking about her in a way of getting back together as are girls. In terms of just fucking it’s different.
I know what you mean it’s like when guys cheat on a hot girl. Everyone’s like how.
Yeah she’s hot but she’s always seeking validation, starting arguments, doesn’t cook clean workout.. of course I’m gonna cheat
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
This is gonna blow some minds here but:
Women do not want commitment from men they are unattracted to.
Any time you see a woman bitching about her ex or her baby daddy (because having a baby counts) then she's just providing post-breakup justifications for her hamster so it can sleep at night.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
Another one of such post-hoc rationalizations is the classic "the bf was bad, abusive, yaddi yadda.." or "he didn't dump me, we jsut grew apart".
The list goes on.
nicknack 1y ago
Ive noticed Its always women saying “we grew apart” Lol
Seagram7 1y ago
Women are the gatekeepers of sex so it continually amazes me on not only how many but also WHO they decide to fuck. So when I hear a girl tell me that the last guy she fucked, dated, had kids with, a ONS with, a hook-up, was a FWB, had a tinder date, went and Netflix and chilled was also the biggest jerk, A-hole, druggie, gang banger, alcoholic, deadbeat, real losers who were rude, disrespectful, selfish, boring and had a huge ego; I keep thinking so that is the guy you choose to fuck? A guy like that is who you took your clothes off for and got on your hands and knees and presented you ass to? Seriously?
I have seen women go off on an emotional rants on what a deadbeat abusive jerk their Ex was, and all I can think is "this is the guy you choose to fuck."
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
She says "my ex was a loser" and all I hear is "I let losers cum in me."
Lionsmane8 1y ago
80% of the time it's bullshit. A woman will never admit that she did something wrong or stupid to ruin a relationship. It's always the exes fault.
The other times it's because she's a trash woman who's dated a trash man. Which is normal: individuals from the same species do tend to reproduce with each other.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
Half the girls these days call their exes narcissists like it's something you can casually diagnose someone with on TikTok, and not over a long period of time with extremely well trained professional psychiatrists. Usually what you actually find is that these girls are in fact most likely the narcissists themselves.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
No, the biggest cope of all time is "I'm going to be single forever by choice".