Met on Hinge talked for a bit and interest was high went for a picnic in the park. She was talking about not wanting to rush things pre date and not to feel her bum on the date. Of course ignore and escalate she was loving it.
Seems like a nice girl 5 years younger than me (i am 30). Good shape and good fitness routine but ex chubby though so there is that. Wanted to plate to FWB whilst vetting. My last proper dating last year i messed up
She was feeling me and saw i was desired and asked for exclusivity like a month in. This was because she wanted to see me all the time and i agreed reneging on my no dates during the week rule SA survivor, was going well then just flipped and stopped having sex ( still sucked and swallowed me) but meeting a girl early on with no sex is a mistake ( thats why i dont like mdiweek dates also aswell as messing up my work, lifting and sleep schedule.
Anwyay back to this chick some red and green flags
Green Cooks Cleans Good personality Able to listen and follow good looks good body high sex drive likes sports Already into me but this may be red too
Red flags Met on a dating app i have a feeling she has high body count, any girl that says something like " i want to wait or work for this" paraphrasing. sets alarm bells in my head, good girls dont need to say this and they say it because they havent stories of past dating that basicall allude to my suspicions very into me and i look at randoms but i thought sometimes she was looking at guys
Some others. Will plate but wont do more than that. Dont want to make the same mistake but just wondering if this situation can ever be resolved because of her ability to be molded and that or just keep fucking
coolsocks00 1 10mo ago
You're overthinking. Vetting should be something you only start taking seriously once she's a steady plate and if you're open for more.
You can and should mold or train your women to satisfy you, even your plates IMO. That doesnt mean you can "resolve" bad behaviour. Time will tell.
OPPTRP 10mo ago
You’re right but I also don’t like wasting my time.
Ok so give me an example of moulding a plate vs unresolvable bad behaviour ?
I saw something the other day of never directly addressing a girlfriend or potential one with what you’d expect of them.
Instead you indirectly say “ my girlfriend wouldn’t do this or she’d do that” this gives the woman the knowledge that she’s replaceable whereas framed the other way you’re asking something of her giving her power
coolsocks00 1 10mo ago
Thats right, it should be communicated covertly. After an initial period you want to move from complete indifference to implementing a bit of control as well.
This has been covered here https://www.trp.red/p/humansockpuppet/754