So i swallowed this pill. Lifted, got in OK shape, bought a house, a car, i have 2 degrees and making the 3rd. Mid-Class salary, super-stable job (=easy bank credit + it's easier to be killed than to be fired). Straightened and whitened my teeth. Shaved the receding hair. All this happened in the spam of 2 years. Know that i came from fat and and 10 years unnemployed. . 6ft tall, 32 years old. . After TEN YEARS in a DRYSPELL OF CASH AND GIRLS, i'm seeing the hottest and colest girl in the place, no joke. The girl is HOT. And cool, family girl, living with them, reads hard books, engineer, in fantastic shape, no kids, hard worker. I went there with no expectations and it happened she was also interested. Funny enough she said out loud she likes my "teeth, height, tattoos, athletic shape, beard, rought man face", etc, everything i "built" after learning about RP. . Yet after we went out more, it's like her pussy dried. No more "fuck me" eyes, more like "besties" eyes. Know that we kissed and walk around but no sex. And my house is being built, so i'm waiting living in my mother's, this fucks logistics. So i was "ok, i didn't expect that to work but i did something right, let's spread the seed, at least i'l spread the needness". I went on Tinder and Bumble and 0 matches. I paid the app, some match here and there from some fat girls. Know that i paid $1000 for a bunch of pictures in touristic places. . So 1) wtf is going on 2) How do i proceed with this girl, she has been ultra flaky lately. 3) Although i tought i got better in physical appearence, cleary OLD has crazy standards. What do i do about this?
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JCantell 3 months ago
Excerpt from the 16 commandments of Poon, heartiste:
“X. Ignore her beauty
The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women. His apprehension and self-consciousness will melt away, paving the path for more honest and self-possessed interactions with the objects of his desire. This is one reason why the greatest lotharios drown in more love than they can handle — through positive experiences with so many beautiful women they lose their awe of beauty and, in turn, their powerlessness under its spell. It will help you acquire the right frame of mind to stop using the words hot, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful to describe girls who turn you on. Instead, say to yourself “she’s interesting” or “she might be worth getting to know”. Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially not a girl you aren’t fucking. Turn off that part of your brain that wants to put them on pedestals. Further advanced training to reach this state of unawed Zen transcendence is to sleep with many MANY attractive women (try to avoid sleeping with a lot of ugly women if you don’t want to regress). Soon, a Jedi lover you will be.”
Get jacked. Lift 4 days a week, incorporate compound movements (bench, squat, OHP, DL, Rows), incorporate progressive overload, aim to gain 1-2lb a month. There’s a lot more to it, but not really. Put more time and energy into researching how to maximize your physique.
What do we watch? Her actions, not her words.
Doesn’t matter. Results matter. If you’re not getting results, you simply haven’t worked hard enough. You get the results you deserve.
Read this:
https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/be-honest-with-yourself-youre-being-a-pussy-you.45388
Then get to work.
Justanaverageguy 3 months ago
Your mind went to relationship mode when you posted all her positive traits and you played it safe, whereas she saw you as a hot rough around the edges guy who she was waiting to basically have his way with her. Trust me man, it took me alot to overcome this and realize I had to push for sex right away no matter what. Even if you don’t have your own place, a bj in the car is better than nothing. I was always worried I would run women off by showing I wanted sex and pushing for it, that doesn’t run them off….NOT pushing for it runs them off.
cav123 3 months ago
pls elaborate considering she is now flaking wont this be worse, like needy/creepy?
Justanaverageguy 3 months ago
Sadly my man she’s a lost cause. I’m talking about the next girl you meet. I had to train myself to push for it on the first and second date, my whole life I’d been able to take it slow and get to know the girl. Can’t do that in this modern age, you’ll have happened what’s happening to you.
mattyanon Admin 3 months ago
don't shit where you eat
fuck OLD
ODL sucks
< 2) How do i with this girl at once, she has been ultra flaky lately.
eh?
3) Although i tought i got better in physical appearence, cleary OLD has crazy standards. What do i do about this?
don't use OLD
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well 3 months ago
1) cut your losses on OLD. Stick with IRL.
2) you have one-itis for that chick.
2a) coworker? Don't shit where you eat.
2b) accept that it's likely over. The effort it'll take to restore attraction/arousal would be better spent on new prospects.
2c) I highly recommend reading "The Married Man's Sex Life Primer" by Athol Kay, and checking out Rian Stone's YouTube channel. You'll learn more about how to navigate LTRs and just be more attractive overall. You might decide that LTRs aren't worth it, but the knowledge will help.
cav123 3 months ago
Goth the book Yeah but let's say i'm willing to make the effort, which way?
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well 3 months ago
Read that material.
You have too much beta/comfort and not enough alpha/arousal. Time to recalibrate. Read about dread game as well.
Also keep in mind that you can't make her want to fuck you like she used to; you can only make yourself more fuckable.
dongking 3 months ago
It's game over with her bro. Treat her like a casual friend/workmate and do a slowfade, as she's clearly doing on you. So just mirror that and stop contacting her.
Work on new women and learn from this experience. You have a short time window when you have to escalate and fuck her. Within 1-3 dates or so. The sooner the better.
whytehorse2021 3 months ago
You icked her out somehow. Probably acted beta or failed a shit test. What that means is you stopped arousing her. You can tell she's a slut because she's only focused on your alpha traits. So treat her like one. You said it yourself, you built all this. You're the prize. She'd be lucky to land a guy like you but due to sexual marketplace inflation she probably thinks she can do better. You only checked off 50 of her 60 boxes. I bet one of those boxes is "we have a spark", and another one is "good in bed".
How'd you get work? I'm in a similar boat you were in before.