Take a deep breath. Put the phone down, in another room, and go read for a couple minutes. Your brain will scream at you for doing this because it wants the dopamine rush. That's all it is.

Dopamine is a neuromodulator that makes us pursue things. In this case, you're wanting to pursue women and having your phone right there to text-bomb them is too much temptation to go into pursuit overdrive thus you fuck it up.

Seriously, just unplug yourself for a little while. Put the phone down. Go outside for a walk. Take a short cold shower. The craving will pass. It only feels as powerful as it does right now because you have chemicals in your brain driving you to do it, but those chemicals don't actually know what's good for you or what will work. They only know what you want.

I can somewhat relate to this as someone who has dealt with ADHD. Just put the phone away where you can't see it for a bit and go do something else in another room. It'll pass and you'll be okay.

In the end, your problem is that you put women first. You need to have yourself as your mental point of origin. This is what abundance does to you.

I'm trying to build abundance but I can't because of scarcity and I can't get rid of scarcity because I have no abundance

You are misunderstanding how to get abundance.

You don't need to fuck 100 girls a week to have abundance....... so, here's an example:

you're going on a date. only one this year. SCARCITY.

you're going on a date, you've got 5 more lined up this week with hotter girls. ABUNDANCE.

As it is now everything im doing is with the goal of getting girls even if I tell myself its not.

Getting girls is a reasonable thing to try to do while working on the rest of your life.

Right now theres this girl.... I know whos exactly my type and a freak in bed and she was digging me and stopped answering now my brains telling me to send her another message and I cant imagine their being a better girl, well I can but I for some reason I need her to fufill me, I've convinced myself it wont be the same.

Good: you recognise that your brain is fucking with you.

Go find other girls.

, I've convinced myself it wont be the same.

It won't be the same. Every girl is different. Better is out there as well as worse.

I've tried dating apps, night game, cold approach and im getting better but zero results, yet due to scarcity. How do I take action to shift away from this mentality? Monk mode? How do you beat the catch 22.

Scarcity isn't the problem. Scarcity causes caring and other unattractive behaviour, and that's the problem. Mask it with girls as much as you can, at least pretend not to give a fuck too much. Work on being as attractive as possible and getting as many options as possible.