So long story short, a few hours ago I met the one that redpilled me about 5-6 years ago when I was 18 and on my way to go to college. Left a good LTR for her.
We met at the club. I was sitting at the bar with a friend and when I turned my head to the crowd, I saw a familiar face coming towards me. It was the girl that I would've recognized in a million people. Unchanged, physically, but clearly matured.
We approached each other and small talked for 2 mins. Her body language was submissive, her energy turned towards me. It was like a shock for both of us.
I am 10x better than I was back when I was 18, and if I had knowledge of TRP back in the day, this bitch would've worshipped me even today, after we've ended things 6 years ago.
I come to find out she came out of her relationship of 5-6 years a few months ago. It was with the guy that she left me for, back when I acted like a trash fucking ass beta.
This meeting tonight triggered many things in me, like looking back on my life and how the fuck did 6 years went by this fast, now at 24, but it did not trigger passion or love for her again. It did trigger lust, because I want to fuck her one more time so fucking bad, and I have this feeling that I could do that and she knows this too, like she would want this.
Anyway we exchanged instagram and I left the conversation, as she was with another guy (possibly dating this guy, fwb, but not in a LTR with him, cause it's too early since her break-up).
Now I know she is in her hoe and rebound phase. She was 6 years in a LTR and now she wants to experiment, at 22. She is 22 and I am 24.
The fun part is that I've been thinking of her for the past week and a half and here she comes man. And she also said that "Oh, I've been thinking about you in the past few days, really asking X and Y how am I doing and what I've been up to" (those guys are common friends, as I used to be in the same classroom in highschool with them and I still kept in touch with one of them. The other one was her step brother, which was a good friend of mine back then).
Now I don't really believe in this wooo woo spiritual bullshit, but come the fuck on man, how the fuck can this happen like this? the coincidence is really strong here. Also, I think her birthday was tonight as far as I could recall, and I might be able to play with her on this spiritual shit fact.
Anyways, I would like to fuck/date her again so bad, like a revenge thing. But also for the passion man. I am dating right now for 7 months a really good LTR prospect girl, but I swear man the rush of passion and excitement you get from a girl like the one above is out of this world.
I would not LTR her even a bit, but I would definetly fuck her GUTS out again.
What would your advice be here? This meeting kind of motivated me to build my own social media brand of myself more strongly, to succeed more, it kind of bringed me back to wanting the joy of life again, after being bored for kind of a long time. I am on my grind 24/7, financially, physically and emotionally and the way I would approach this situation now is soooo different than 6 years ago.
Have to mention that she was not alone tonight. She was with a guy, possibly fwb or dating, but not LTR. So we couldn't hang out for more after we've exchanged instagram, now I'm a guitar player, kickboxer, good paying job living on my own, ripped and have a side-business, but didn't really maximized my social media brand. Really miles from where I was from back in the day, but the feelings triggered tonight are so strong, like I found again a "reason" to be the apex in everything I do, after a long time of "burning out"
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Yeah, go for it. Ex girlfriend, easiest lay ever. Literally doesn't even count. .
But you do. Because you know there's some woo going on with that. I mean, this stuff happens all the time; You think of someone you haven't spoken to, or thought of since forever, and that's when they call you. All kinds of things like that. It's not even an extraordinary claim, it's a common experience. And it's woo as fuck.
...or did you think you guys have a "special bond" or something because that happened? Please tell me you didn't.
Ibanez 1y ago
Nah, I just thought the context was strange and funny and the coincidence was strong.
The only special bond we'd have is my dick up her ass lol
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Good, good. Just had to check.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
This "woo" stuff is actually being researched.
Check Rupert Sheldrake and his theory of Morphic Resonance.
Happens to me all the time, i don't even bother mentionning it.
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Been following Rupert Sheldrake for close to 20 years, mate. One of the biggest influences on my thinking, and I absolutely love the guy for it.
Check out Bernardo Kastrup as well, if you haven't already. Total eye opener for me, even after being completely on board with Sheldrake already.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
Nice, i discovered Rupert only a year ago or so.
I've watched only one video with Bernardo Kastrup, je was talking to Chris Langan on the theory of everything channel.
What do you recommend I check of him?
Also have you heard of Dean Radin.
He's very rigorous.
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
His PhD defence is probably a good place to get a general understanding of his ideas:
https://youtu.be/XcMOape0PY8
Or just watch him debate anyone on materialism Vs. idealism.
Yeah, I know of Dean Radin from the Skeptiko podcast + a mate who's obsessed with him. But only superficially. I have one of his books, but haven't gotten around to reading it.
RedPirate751 1y ago
Sounds like a recipe for oneitis to me. I'd get outta there dude.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
Actually, my experience has been the reverse. Shaking up with ex's is usually the best way to become reacquainted with WHY they are an ex. It's often a big disappointment. Shaking up with an ex is therefore usually a great way to get rid of your oneitis.
If its great, then great. If its disappointing, then great, you've got over the one that you've been obsessing about.
There really is no losing outcome from this play. You should always shag your ex.
RedPirate751 1y ago
It's not his ex though. It's a girl he wanted very badly, but never got. That's completely different IMO.
Ibanez 1y ago
She is my ex, was in a relationship with her at that time
RedPirate751 1y ago
Not clear from the post, you said she "red pilled" you which is usually used to mean you chased her and then watched her run off with a "jerk" or something similar...in most stories, at least.
I would still caution you against it, but you do you bro.
Ibanez 1y ago
I'm pretty sure I'd not go down that route even if we'd fuck again for a few times.
I literally know too much to have oneitis again and did not fell for her again last night when I saw her again. Just strong feelings of lust and revenge fuck, like unfinished business
RedPirate751 1y ago
This right here is inches away from turning into feelz. You can claim its nothing, but it isn't nothing. There's strong emotions there and sex has a way of making a man susceptible to them.
Bozza 1y ago
Completely agree. There's also an ability for certain people to bring you back into your old ways.
Just like how an addict has to cut all ties with their old addict friends, because they will eventually draw you back into old habits.
The same is true of women. If you were a beta with her, you will eventually go back into your old ways, and you won't even notice it happen.
AurelianWay 1y ago
I agree with RedPirate. You should channel that energy / passion / lust into your 7 month LTR girl and give her the best dicking she ever got. This old flame is giving you interest only because you physically/socially improved. If you were the still the same beta from 6 years ago she wouldn't have exchanged instagram or told you that "she was thinking about you". The conversation would have ended in empty platitudes and a handshake.
The best revenge is not thinking about her at all.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
Go for it.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
felt this one. ya run it.
play your cards right & you can get in them guts like once a month n then just go ghost till next session
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