We are classmates who did a lab together a few months ago. Didnt really talk much, though we had a flirty vibe with each other. Recently we have been in the same social circle together on campus. I always see one of my friends hanging out on campus and occassionally i would hang out with him and his friends. Shes one of the friends. So we all hung out together casually on campus this past weekend
She still had my number from doing a group project together. Recently she texted me out the blue
Her: Hiiii
Me: 6 hours later bc my phone died Hey XXXXX (I just wanted to see what she wanted, to see what she would follow up with)
Next morning
Her: Hi (instead got another "Hi")
Me: Good morning pet name. Whats up? (Me trying to get info on why she texted me last night)
Her: Good morning :) & heart emojis
Why does she keep texting first and not adding any conversational value? I get the impression she is shy and wants to show interest by textin first and wants me to ask her out. I also suspect that maybe she just wants attention too. She isnt showing her hand. Do I need to just ask her out since she is showing high interest in texting first and quick responses?
Lionsmane8 1y ago
Flash news:
Women are cowardly retards with big egos that fear rejection.
"Hi" or "heeey" is the most you'll get in terms of initiative.
If you like her, take charge of the convo and set plans.
Do not delay (but don't rush either) or she'll take it as an L.
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Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Attention milking.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I've Long thought that most women text like retards. They just will not take the same initiative to drive a conversation the same way that most men are expected to pursue. They just don't have to think of a good opener. They've never had to. They're women, they get approached all the time
So generally this is the best kind of hot garbage you'll get in your DMs unless she's a sharper texter than your average prospect
Lame texts can either be attention seeking or an actual attempt to get you to take her out. They just text like retards most of the time so you'll just have to see
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
urgh, women are pathetic sometimes.
Because she's retarded.
Two reasons: she wants you to do all the work and get your attention because she wants you. Or all the same reasons except she doesn't want you.
She's female. They do this shit, and it's annoying as fuck.
Text her "are you single?"
If she says "why", change the subject. If she answers "no" then there's your answer. If she answers yes, change the subject and then ignore again. This will drive her mental with curiosity why you asked her.
If this works, follow up with "are you doing anything Friday?" and then again don't follow up.
A few of these and she should show her hand a bit more.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
Crafty, i'm stealing
Bagpipes 1y ago
Thanks this is the best advice i received on this. My gut feeling tells me that she does want me and does want me to do all the work. I just didnt want to go straight into asking her out for a date however. Mainly because going from "Hi"->"Good morning"->"Lets go out for drinks" is fucking stupid progression, i like naturalness, but she didnt really provide that for me with her responses so i was almost going to just let her slide away because its retarded.
The "Are you single?" is a great line to cut the chase without asking her out from zero.
That way if she says yes, she gets what she wants. If not then she wont have to think why she will not get responses from me anymore. Im going to text her that tomorrow.
Overkill_Engine 3 1y ago
Yeah you often have to set things up to force them to shit or get off the pot or they'll fucking hover for-goddamn-ever.
Problem is most guys are too worried about committing social faux pas and losing out on a chance to get laid to do that. When really it is just as simple as shooting your shot and if she does not serve it back with interest....shrug and move on. Not like there is a shortage of basic bitches with shit communication skills.