I recently met a guy in the work place, he's younger and likes to hand out and knows younger girls/people
This experience made me realise how much my life would improve with just one good friend who likes to go out
I felt alive on weekends, we approached, i talked with his female friends
I do my best to go out and approach alone, i did many times and i have to say it still feels weird compared to having one friend at your side
No this guy is back in his country for most of the year, trying to stay in touch with him for when he comes back
Now i want to find just one guy like that, it would improve my life so much
JCantell 4 months ago
Expect to make one good friend, a true friend, maybe every decade. The kind that’s going to truly give a fuck about you and always have your back. Good luck forcing some shit like this. Have realistic expectations and let it happen when it happens. Can’t be forced.
Besides that, “friends” are associates you make mutually beneficial social contracts with.
Friends are a big part of your life when you’re young. You shed that need sometime moving into manhood, part of your RP journey.
As your SMV and social capital grows - people start coming to you. You get more women. When you get more women, you get more dudes wanting to be your friend. When you get more male friends you realize you don’t need or want them unless they’re adding to your life in some way. The women you keep around to fuck.
The men? Besides your true friends, only if there’s some mutual benefit. Sounds like the situation you had with this guy,
You want more party friends, go out to the bar/club and be social. Have some value your self (appearance, social skills) and you’ll have no issues.
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Taproot88 4 months ago
@JCantell
Thanks
So my action plan will be maximize looks and appearence, create a cool social media page and go out to bar and clubs to devolep social skills
Also i think becoming a dj will help a lot, lets see
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4 months ago
@Taproot88
This was an excellent comment
Wanted to add by saying genuinely good friendships are rarely unconditional. They are built on a lot of mutual understanding and having each other's backs early on. Good friends usually have similar values and goals to yourself. Meeting people in similar recreational locations alone etc will not really gaurantee good friends on its own.
That being said it it is still important to have a friend circle period. Although no friends are still better than bad friends.
But at the minimum, just having non-toxic friends to chill with can still be good social engagement and can help you climb the social ladder with people that better match your vibe later on if you need to branch out for better quality friends later
Taproot88 4 months ago
@vermillion-Rx
Yea i think any friend will help right now, i will afford to be selective later, i will work on my presentation in real life and social media and go practice my social skills in clubs etc and see what happens
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4 months ago
Sounds good. But never hesitate to cut off bad friends or friends that don't really like you. I've carried dead weights like that around for a year before and all they did was ruin my self esteem more.
Bad friends are worse than no friends. Never be ashamed to walk away from bad friends
Also, I'm proud of you, you seem to have had a major attitude/perspective change this last week. Keep it up man. We are rooting for you
Taproot88 4 months ago
thank you brother
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4 months ago
No problem man
mattyanon Admin 4 months ago
Be the friend you want to get
Taproot88 4 months ago
@mattynon
True, i will have to work to be the cool guy i want to meet
whytehorse2021 4 months ago
Beware the man with one gun(or friend)...
Taproot88 4 months ago
@whitehorse2021
Sorry i think you're a troll brother
whytehorse2021 4 months ago
Everyone's a troll deep down in the cockles of their heart.