Edit: Shoot I think it cut off the title. Meant to say "Is there any easy way to access my city's "Are We Dating the Same Guy / Vouched Dating" facebook group.
Yea so I'm sure a lot of you are aware of these groups which are getting super popular on facebook. And as we could expect, they're turning into vendetta groups that can defame/slander men without recourse. I've never cheated or done anything real scummy with a girl before, but I know of a number of women who have been none too happy about me not wanting a relationship in my past.
I'm probably being paranoid, but I've had some things happen with girls recently which make me wonder if I'm on there lol. Other than making a fake woman's facebook account and trying to gain access myself, is there any other easy way to get a hold of the information in there? Kind of surprised someone hasn't just set something up to leak all the posts.
preach about a week ago
I've posted before about how I've been able to gain access to the groups in my area. I would suggest using the same approach I did, assuming you have fake accounts of reasonable age.
I've also managed to get in touch with a few other guys on reddit who also gained access to groups in their areas and we've compared notes, similar sorts of announcements from admins/Paola. For the most part the majority of the contributors and commenters on these groups are middle aged women, I dont see a lot of women in their 20s posting. One of the larger groups I'm in has taken to hosting ladies night get-togethers where the women can meet each other. They posted some pics from a recent one, maybe 15 showed up. All women in their 30s, the most attractive one there I'd rate a 4.
The majority of the women that are active on a regular basis are drawn to drama, no matter how great their existing relationship is. I've begun using it as a very handy reference that if I go on a date with a woman, I'll look her up on the group. Being a part of the group isn't necessarily a pass for me, but I will be cautious. However if I see she has activity in the group, including recently, I will text her I'm moving on and tell her exactly why. These women dont realize the sort of double-edged sword they've created.
In addition to becoming a handy dating reference of some of the worst, toxic women in my area, it has also provided entertainment value. I've started seeing women post Golden Girls references, others have started discussions inquiring about dating other women........you know because men are such shit. These women really dont think long term at all and dont realize they are all helping each other to sabotage their future happiness.
Lastly, depending on the size of your local group, understand that a lot of women have very short attention spans. If your group gets to around 50k or more members, and you get posted, yeah you'll get women commenting about you for a little while, but they will eventually move on the newest fresh meat for the day. And that brings me to one of my final points - the fact that they archive all these pictures of men that are posted can easily start getting into the thousands. Pretty soon exhaustion will set in with a lot of these women and sooner or later they're all gonna start saying fuck it, and go on dates with these guys anyway.
ComfortableSlow1072 about a week ago
Awesome post, appreciate it. I agree it would be a really good filter for women. I could see someone joining one for the entertainment value alone, but being an active participant is a huge red flag.
I'm sure I'm being paranoid about it, but like I said there are a handful of women from my past who do not like me at all lol. On top of that, I've had some very strange ghosts in the last year. That could obviously be due to something I've done or some other factor, but I've literally never had it happen like this until this year. So I'm wondering if I've been posted on there. Looks like I got some work to do if I want to find out.
Problematic_Browser about a week ago
Those sites aren't really your concern. If you're on there, all it does is help you.
Congratulations, women find you desirable and now you have more exposure.
whytehorse2021 about a week ago
Yeah some dude on here made a fake account and got in. What they're doing is probably illegal and violates the terms of service of both facebook and dating apps as well as numerous privacy laws. Nobody cares though because "women are wonderful" and are made of sugar and spice and everything nice and can never do anything wrong or be held accountable.
I like to think of this as gossip. Let these women gossip and sabotage each other. It's probably mostly older women lying to younger women to get them to leave Chad alone. I mean would you trust some stranger on the internet who tells you your girl is cheating on you with him? Do you even want to date a chick who believes random strangers online? Let them eliminate themselves from your dating pool and save you the hassle.
No-Stress-Cat about a week ago
Facebook...that shit will rot your brain, then turn around and try to sell you some shit they claim will fix your brain damage.