There's this guy who I've known for 2 years now. He's a friend of one of my best friends. I see him sometimes when I go out with my friend. The dude is pretty chill, probably around the same SMV as me looks wise. When I see him, it's always fun. He even asked me to hang out 1 on 1 sometime.
But this is the second time he has tried to steal my girl at a party. The first time was 2 years ago. I met a girl at a party, and she invited me to an after-party. This dude tried to steal her from me, but it didn't work. Thought he was a snake back then, but didn't really care, since I barely see him anyway.
Last night he did it again. I met a girl at a party. She was pretty drunk, and we were making out all night, she wouldn't stop kissing me. Even whispered in my ear that she wanted to fuck me at her friend's house. I thought, so far, so good. She says that she's getting drinks, and I told her ok. I was talking to her female friend, who was smoking hot as well.
1 hour goes by, and my girl is nowhere to be seen. I turn around, and she's talking to that snake dude, who saw me making out with her before. He was clearly trying to make a move on her. It's not my job to mate guard, it's the girl's job to turn him down. Anyway, I proceed to party with her female friend, and other girls.
The night goes by, I go home with my friend, and this female friend of the girl is with us. She tried to call the girl 10 times, because she was supposed to sleep over at her place. The girl is nowhere to be seen. We dropped her friend off at home, and this morning she called me, asking if I knew where her friend was, because she had not heard from her all night.
Turns out she went to an after party with the guy, and they probably banged. I don't know why this makes my blood boil so much. I don't care about this girl, but this is the second time this dude has tried to steal a girl from me. I would never fight over a girl, but I don't know why it makes me so mad.
How to deal with this situation?

dongking 2y ago
This chick was ready to get fucked but instead of closing her you kept making out and getting more drunk. Always Isolate -> Escalate.
Can't expect loyality from someone that isn't even your friend. He's your competition. In this case it's all on you for not closing the deal when you had the chance.
Here (or probably like 30min earlier) you should've whispered back "We're leaving rn, let's go" and then grabbed her hand and just started walking towards the exit for your house or hers. Instead you chose not to close and your acquaintance seized the opportunity, isolated this horny chick and gave her a good dicking. You snooze, you lose.
BabyUareSoSexy 2y ago
Spot on, but it was at a festival, around 6pm. Once you left the festival, you weren't allowed inside anymore. My plan was to fuck her after the festival at her friends house, because both of us lived pretty far away from the festival. But everything you said is true, I made some rookie mistakes.
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Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
"It's a spot market" ..thats genius!
BabyUareSoSexy 2y ago
Yeah, definitely. She actually texted me 1 hour ago, asking me if I went to the after-party. Should I just block her number? Or fuck her a few times, and then block her? I feel like calling her out on her bullshit will accomplish nothing. But at the same time, it would be pathetic to even waste time on this girl.
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mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Talking to him about it won't make any difference.
Problematic_Browser 1 2y ago
You don't.
These women aren't your wife so they owe you no loyalty.
If I were him and you tried to confront me over some bullshit like that, I'd tell you to get fucked and make it my mission to out game you every chance I got.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I'd be breaking some bones if that was my wife. Preferably some neck bones since dead men tell no tales.
Problematic_Browser 1 2y ago
Then you go to prison and "your girl" fucks the next swinging dick that comes along.
Women have zero loyalty.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
He came at me with a knife. It was self defense. Just ask him... oh wait he's dead.
Problematic_Browser 1 2y ago
Tell me you've never spent a day in a courtroom without telling me.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Actually I learned about throw-down weapons from dirty cops.
brabissimo 2y ago
How to handle it? Just don't keep those people arround you. Don't waste your time going to cry to the other guy that he got the bitch. Not that hard.
And about your blood boiling because of the guy getting the girl, i don't think it's a matter of liking or caring about the girl, but about competition, we are competitive by nature.
other than that i think the other commenters already said everything that needed to be said.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 2y ago
You snooze, you lose. She told you she wanted to fuck, and instead of acting on that, you farted around and let her get away.
To answer the question in your title:
No. You'll look like a sperg. You didn't own that woman. Hell, you even said yourself:
Thing is, it's only her job to turn him down if you two are together. You hadn't even fucked her yet. You were nothing to her, and she should be nothing to you.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
This. Work on your closing OP, and dont go out with guys who cant leave you your target.
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