Had a 2nd date with a girl, it went well. We made out, she was all over me. At the end of the date she also mentioned seeing me again twice.
I texted her two days later, and completely ghosted. I can handel ghosting because I have been ghosted before after bad dates but nothing like this after such a good one.
How to mentally move on from this?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Bro, if she was all over you why didn't you fuck?
She probably wanted dick and you didn't deliver
Try to close next time a girl is showing you mad IOIs?
She probably thought you were wasting her time. "I want to see you again" followed by being all over you really just sounded like womanese for "I'm really into you" and shouldn't have been taken literally as "I'm gonna wait till later to fuck you"
Also. Are you telling them to text you when they "get home safe" what are you doing waiting two days. It's less effective than the get home safe method
helpfulguy22 3y ago
So I sort of tried, when we were in the car I hinted to go to the back seat to eat, she seemed very hesitant so I didn’t push it, she also is a liberal lol so I didn’t wanna risk it.
2nd I dropped her to her place.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Even more likely to fuck you than not and you didn't
And you didn't fuck at her place?
Eat? Like blowjob or something? At any rate back seat car sex is uncomfortable for a lot of women and depending on where you do it, also illegal
You should have tried to give plausible deniability to go to one of your places and then fucked.
These are all unforced errors. She wanted your cock and you gave her an uncomfortable request and then no dick
She didn't like the location. You could have fixed that
helpfulguy22 3y ago
Unfortunately I don’t have my own place man, this is a problem I ran into before too with another girl, I made a post on here before this, like I do have my own place but my mom stays with me due to health concerns so there is no privacy
Bozza 2 3y ago
Not having your own place is hard mode. I have the same situation, it sucks.
You have to invite yourself to their house. Instead of inviting her to the back seat to eat, invite yourself to her house to eat. "lets head back to your house to eat this and watch some TV".
You invite yourself over with plausible deniability. She won't invite you off her own back (unless she really wants your dick).
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
What was wrong with her place?
And you've been given advice before on your mom, you just don't want to take the advice we gave you and that's a personal decision
So now you have to live with logistical nightmares. Still what was wrong with her place?
You're going to keep running into these problems if you don't get your mom on disability payments and get her her own place
If you REALLY have to, you should try to get a conjoined building where she is your neighbor but you get privacy
Then your mom wouldn't be living "alone" but you basically would be
helpfulguy22 3y ago
Ok fair, but question if she knew she didn’t want to see me again, why would she end the date by saying see you soon, she also mentioned “give it to me next time if you find it” about a item we lost during the date in the car.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Probably doing what several girls have done to me. Say they had a good time, even to the point of making detailed plans, and then taking three days to muster up the courage to reject you after saying they'd see you again
It's always the girls that gave too much hope that take several days to reply. They're afraid to send the text and they drag their feet for multiple days hoping you end it
Surprise surprise though, it's almost never the girls I fuck saying this to me. It is always girls I took on two dates or just one date where I didn't escalate or escalated poorly on
whytehorse2021 3y ago
She wanted dick. You didn't provide it. Someone else did.
helpfulguy22 3y ago
I tried man, we made out i tried asking her to the back seat of the car, she didn’t want to, I didn’t want to catch a case by pushing. It wasn’t because of dick I’m sure of it for this one, but I get your point but just trust me.
nicknack 3y ago
I can see why right from the title of this post. It was not a good date. A good date is her coming to your place directly and blowing you because she’s on her period. And those are the dates where she is calling you and texting you to hangout again.
How was wasting your evening and money taking a girl out only to make out with her, a good date? I’m not trying to be harsh, just providing some perspective.
She probably picked up “this guy likes me vibes”. Even if it’s not true, but I’m suspecting it is via your wording.
I work in sales. I’ve had what I thought amazing sales calls, where I didn’t close it right then, and never got the sale. You have to close.
Here’s a new rule I recommend: never make out until you’re going to fuck her. Kiss her whatever, touch her non stop, but make outs are for sex.
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coolsocks00 1 3y ago
On top of what as been said already; girls are weird sometimes. It can be a million things, even unrelated to you. You simply have to accept that as part of the red pill. The point of the red pill is to make you understand these things, and to give you the tools you need to overcome them (next them and see other girls - always have two in the kitty).
No-Stress-Cat 2 3y ago
Her: "Why are you climbing into the back seat?"
Me: Why are you still sitting in the front? Now, come back here and take off your panties.