I'm about to graduate from college in one month. I've been going to the gym for 3 years now, and working as a bartender for some extra money, while investing most of my money. On paper, I'm doing better than ever. One of my long term goals is to start my own real estate business. My short term goals are to get my degree, and find a good job where I can gain enough experience, so I can start my own business in 5 years.
I've done everything. Monk mode, NoFap, no alcohol, no social media, (not all at the same time, just experimenting) … These things have gotten me results. I've never been so focused in my life. The problem is that I've relapsed hard over the past weeks. Since they have been my last weeks of college, I gave myself the excuse to enjoy them to the fullest.
Over the past weeks, I've been drinking/partying so much. I went to college parties nonstop, have been hooking up with so many girls, and spent so much money on alcohol/parties/festivals. I know it's because they're my last weeks of college, but I feel so guilty. All this money wasted on girls and partying.
I know what needs to be done to reach my goals. I have to stay disciplined, and the thing is that I know what to do, but for some reason I can't stay on my purpose lately. Especially since the summer is around the corner. I have tickets for at least 4 festivals already, and I am getting invited to loads of home parties, BBQ's, and other stuff. There will be loads of girls, alcohol, and drugs.
The problem is that I know what needs to be done, but I have a serious form of FOMO. 9 times out of 10 the best thing to do is head to bed early, work out in the morning, work on my purpose. But all these distractions lately are making it so hard. I need some advice on how to cope with this feeling of missing out.

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BabyUareSoSexy 3y ago
That's my mindset, but I don't know why I'm not enjoying it.
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BabyUareSoSexy 3y ago
Yep, I need to find a balance. That's exactly my problem. I'm either going monk mode, or doing the exact opposite. And, I don't have exams coming up. I'm literally finished with school. I just need to wait for my evaluation from my internship, and then I'm done.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
You just grinded for 3 years. A few weeks of splurging time and a portion of money shouldn't feel like the end of the world.
For one, stop dumping money into alcohol and evaluate what the festival costs are worth to you. Besides that stop feeling guilty. This post seems like it has less to do with fomo and more to do with that you are unable to accept that a momentary break from the grind is acceptable
Would you prefer to grind till you're on your deathbed of enjoy some of the time between?
BabyUareSoSexy 3y ago
I know, you're right, but I always feel so guilty afterward. I don't know why. Partying/wasting money on alcohol isn't the end of the world, but it feels like I'm wasting my time, I don't know why I feel so guilty.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
If you genuinely thought these activities were a waste of time you wouldn't be splurging on them
You don't have to be a work horse 24/7
Bozza 2 3y ago
Take some time to relax and enjoy yourself.
You need to seriously reassess what your purpose actually is and why you're pursuing it.
When you're lying there on your deathbed are you going to say - I'm really glad I saved all that money and got a mortgage 5 years earlier than my friends?
Of course you're fucking not. Because in the end, none of that stuff fucking matters.
You're going to say I wish I travelled the world more. I wish I didn't squander my youth. I wish I spent more time with my family. I wish I did more when I still young and healthy.
You seem like a smart guy with your head screwed on right. But don't forget that life is for living, and the grind is only worth it if you can enjoy it.
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whytehorse2021 3y ago
I'm so glad I got that all out of my system by age 17. I guess you need to mature and grow up out of it. One time I asked an ex-hippie what happened to the hippies. She said that eventually somebody has to go to work to pay the rent. This is what's going to happen to you after you graduate. You live in a fantasy-land, not the real world. You've been in an artificial environment for 16 years.
If it were me I'd be lining up a job and putting money away to make a deposit on an apartment and populate it with furniture. Maybe get a car to get to work in. Hit goodwill and find some work clothes. Don't be one of those new grads that get blind-sided when the party ends. I was fortunate to be going to community colleges and state university commuter campuses so there was no party scene and everyone was dead serious, older or from poor backgrounds, or ex-military with family. Every single one of them had their shit together and stuff lined up for after graduation.