I'm 22 and originally from the US. About a year ago I moved to a large western European country and for 6 months have been dating a girl (exclusive for 3) who's here from a different western European country.
The problem lies in that she's going to be in Australia for a year to do her master's (this was decided before I met her). I'm debating on whether I should do an exclusive long distance relationship, open LDR, or just break up and try to reconnect when she's back.
She's a really good girl: smart, feminine, responsible, caring, and beautiful. She comes from a good family (I met her parents and sister) and has a ton of green flags. We have really strong chemistry, get along really well, and have strong attraction for each other. I can see myself marrying her and her being the mother of my children one day. I don't want this to seem like a oneitis because I've had that before years ago and I don't think this is that, however she is definitely a good one.
She's expressed interest in maintaining contact while she's in Australia and even doing a trip together somewhere in the middle of her program.
I am quite conflicted because I would very much like to build a future with her however I don't like the idea of doing an LDR for a year. I'm at the highest SMV I've ever been at and part of me wants to spin a few plates. On the other hand, I worry about throwing away something good just because I want some pussy.
She asked me if I want to be exclusive while she's abroad and told me she wants to stay together long-term. I've been leaning towards doing an open LDR and reconnecting at the end of her program after a year but I'm also not sure how that will impact our relationship. I don't know how long I will stay in this city or in Europe and she doesn't know where she will move back to either.
What do you guys think?

Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
She's going off to college (again) in an exotic land. She ain't gonna be your girl for much longer man. Even if she claims she isn't doing anything with anyone.
Party years, not looking good man. You're young, play the field.
And you still LTRd her? Save it for something more realistic next time.
At age 22 hate to burst your bubble but she is probably not a saint nor will stay that way, give her 3 years to show her trajectory of how she turns out.
Not a great sign man.
If you stay committed to her you will come out of this the other side an incredibly sexually frustrated male who will always wonder if he got cheated on with exotic men in foreign dick markets
I would, at the least, make it clear that you can't stay in a committed relationship. If you want to see where life takes her/what chances there are of her moving back to your country etc and see where it goes then, then, sure that's not horrible.
But I don't see you coming out of this anything other than distrustful, sexually frustrated as hell, jaded, and watered down from who you are now with all the predictable pitfalls a LDR will inflict on you.
You'd be better off continuing to live your life and then seeing if she even comes back. For all you know a year would finish and she'd pick up another job hundreds, if not thousands of miles away.
The only thing you can gaurantee in this situation is your own sanity and boundaries. You can't control any outcomes related to her plans or fidelity to you,
Would strongly recommend you not pursue an imaginary relationship (LDR) with her while she has foreign exotic dick and trips on tap.
If you want to stay in touch that's one thing but don't fall into the pitfalls you're considering
SeasonedRP 2 3y ago
This is good advice, OP. There is little chance she'll be exclusive to you. Women almost always fuck around in these situations, doesn't matter if they are good girls or sluts.
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dongking 3y ago
Break up is the rational thing to do.
There's no excuses for staying as her emotional support when she moves far as fuck. That's her problem now. Dump her or you'll waste more time and in the end still get cucked.
Huge red flag for women to move far btw, it's a big sign she wants to ride the CC - your fault for not recognizing it early.
You're 22 and your SMV will only rise. So be patient with your commitment.
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whytehorse2021 3y ago
She's already chosen education and career over being a wife and mother. Women do this so they have a backup plan if the marriage doesn't work. She's also going to AU which is a feminist haven. Once she has her Master's only a man with a Master's will be economically attractive.
RedPirate751 3y ago
There is no such thing as a long distance relationship. You are either fucking her regularly, or you're not.
She may reach out when she comes back, but don't wait for her.