Even though I work on all things redpill. To keep things simple, let's say, money, muscle and game, I think that I still lack that momentum to go all the way.
I still waste a lot of time on unimportant shit like random browsing, taking things longer than they should, chasing and thinking about women that won't lead anywhere, etc.
I've heard so many people say that you need that initial momentum and early successes to create a feedback loop. Like it's said the first million is the hardest; making more money gets easier after that, etc.
But I feel I still lack that hunger/fire to push myself. So how can someone build that initial momentum to get going? Motivation videos? Reflection on redpilll? Or some good-old repeated action until it becomes a habit?
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Is your sleep fucked?
Is your diet fucked?
Do you have a meaningful social atmosphere?
Are your basic needs being met at all before you take on even the intermediate accomplishments?
If you aren't getting several basic needs of existence met everything else is motivationally going to suck
TRPDuryodhana 3y ago
I do get the sleep, but yeah, I lack a proper routine.
Social atmospehre is totally fucked; alcoholic father, angry mother in the house, and all the usual ruckus that goes with it. I'm working on changing it, but it's taking time. This, I guess, is what leads to issues with sleep as well. Though I've found being detached (internally) from social outcomes, becoming Stoic, to be helpful here; since external conditions are always unreliable and all, anyways.
I do have friends, and things to do but I sort of don't enjoy them as much.
Maybe. Lots of people don't get everything. It is what it is, true. But things have to be taken care of anyhow; how to go about them, or maybe the order of importance, is the key question for me now.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Yeah but your sleep and immediate circle of people is about as basic as it gets.
I'd have almost no motivation to thrive if I were in your environment.
If I were you I'd find some relatively responsible dudes you could split a place with and get out of there.
koedeloe123 3y ago
All you need is discipline. There's no such thing as momentum.
Durek_The_Bald 3y ago
Momentum = internalised good habits.
But yeah, discipline is everything.
TRPDuryodhana 3y ago
So how you do develop that? And how do you keep it going even through turbulent environments?
koedeloe123 3y ago
Read the book atomic habits. It'll open your eyes.
Bozza 2 3y ago
The thing that people leave out is that these things take time. Progress is not linear, it is filled with successes and setbacks.
Building muscle and getting jacked is an incredibly slow process. Even with the use of PEDs, it still takes years of consistent training to build an impressive physique.
Building wealth takes years. It takes years of study and working your way up the career ladder. Starting a business takes years before it may become profitable.
You get the idea.
This isn't a quick process. There will be high and lows, peaks and troughs. If you try to go balls to the wall you will simply burn yourself out.
Make sure you stay on track and productive, incrementally working towards your goals. But don't be afraid to spend some time kicking back every now and again. You don't need to be grinding 24/7, and it most cases that will actually hinder your progress.
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RedPirate751 3y ago
Life isn't about the end goal, it's about the processes you want to repeat. Stop looking for the results and ask yourself, "how do I want to see myself?" I'm guessing you don't want to see yourself as someone who spends a lot of time on the internet, or a lot of time waiting by the phone for a girl to text back.
Do you want to see yourself as a guy who is in great shape? Alright. Workout more, drink less, and get to bed by 10. Maybe you want to see yourself as a successful career-minded man. Great. Read books relevant to your field, spend more time getting to know your coworkers and boss, and get to bed by 10.
Once you repeat the processes enough, you'll start to define your own self-image by them. It isn't until you start to see yourself that way that the world will begin to acknowledge you as being that way.
I'll give you an example. I used to drink a lot. I was in good shape, but nowhere near my athletic peak. I made some changes in my life and started grinding away. about 9 months later, at a running club that I go to frequently (which runs out of a brewery), one of the members said to me "Is that non-alcoholic beer good? I feel like you never drink." This was someone who, 9 months prior, had seen me regularly having 3-4 7% beers after a run.
This stuff all starts internally. You won't see it projected onto the world until you truly believe it in yourself, and even then there's lag. But it WILL manifest. Remember that it really is about the journey, not the destination. Not the end goal, but the processes you want to repeat. Keep repeating them until they make you into a person that you really want to be. Like it or not, everything you do is shaping who you are. Ask yourself if the person you would become by repeating an action is the person you want to become.
TRPDuryodhana 3y ago
But the world, including myself of course, only sees/wants the end goal. Sure, I can keep grinding away at the gym, but if I don't have that chissled body at the end, who tf cares? I can work really hard at my job, but it doesn't really matter if there's no solid output. Does it?
I agree with the seeing yourself as you want to become though; that stuff is powerful.
RedPirate751 3y ago
This attitude is why so many fail. I'll let you in on a secret: nobody gives a shit. There will always be someone who is more fit. There will always be someone who makes more money. If you do things for the end goal, then you are doing them for the wrong reasons because you are basing your self-image on external validation. You're relying on others to validate what you do, and those others don't give a shit what you do.
When you are doing it to get external validation, and that validation doesn't come, you'll quit. It becomes a vicious circle, a self-fulfilling prophecy of disappointment and anger. I used to be like that. I'd work hard, and when my efforts didn't get me what I wanted from others, I'd angrily blame them for not recognizing me and how great I was. It led me down some pretty dark paths.
One day, I had a revelation. I imagined myself accomplishing an amazing goal of mine - getting the result I wanted at a major event. I imagined a particular person - a coach from my past who had really let me down. I'd never been good enough for this asshole, and by the time I was finished with his program, I was almost ready to quit sports altogether. In my mind he was telling me how awesome I was. He was amazed at what I'd done. I got all the praise I'd ever really wanted from him back then. And in this visualization, I was surprised because I felt cold. I looked him dead in the eye and said, "I didn't do it for you".
Don't do it because of some external bullshit. Do it for you, because it does matter. At the end of the day, you are the only one who really cares.
Describing that visualization, dream, whatever you want to call it was actually pretty cathartic for me because I'd always had it in my mind but never really written it out that way. I can't tell you exactly what you should do, because there's no real roadmap for it. What I can do is describe the types of mindsets that helped me get to where I'm at right now. I hope this stuff helps.
slowlylearning1 3y ago
Just repeating what others have said, tbh ; but basically keep focussing on all the things great you are doing, all those new doors that are opening and as much as this sounds a cliché, the harder you keep pushing at everything life just get better and better, I've reduced so much stress in my life and for the first time in 15 years I genuinely feel happy (it's almot like every day you have a light buzz on) and the stuff that stressed me out before, still does but it stress me out less, and less with every single time you tackle it head on!
Momentum is built through pushing through your fears, anxieties, making mistakes but not dwelling, and being the best version of you.
EndlessSavage 3y ago
Just show up man. You need a clear vision/goal of what you want who you want to be that makes you excited as fuck, a blueprint to get you there and just show up and execute everyday!
whytehorse2021 3y ago
I just went through this. It boils down to starting with money. Everybody on the planet is trying to be a coder, a content creator, a dating coach, etc. Can't make money at that stuff anymore unless you're the top 1%. Even for onlyfans this is true. So you have to realize that you need to change what you're doing to get your money sorted. I've got tons of degrees that are now worthless. Tons of experience that is worthless.
Look, the reality is you have to use objective truths about humans to make informed choices about their behaviour and find a way to make money off of it that other people aren't doing already. Otherwise you're just one of those people who other people are making money off of. This is what we mean by getting your grind on.
It's different for everyone but I'll give myself as an example. After a long and unfruitful search for jobs I ended up making my own gaming company. Why? Because everyone is sitting around playing games and they pay for them(objective truths). Most games are from blue pill gynocentric female-correct companies so they always fall short of providing the escape people want from their shitty lives. There's my niche. Grand Theft Auto style gaming.