Hey everyone, so i got a ljbf from a girl i'd known for a while (we were romantically involved with each other though nothing too serious) , I told her we'd see each other around and cut back my contact with her alot, though we're on good terms, I started seeing other girls and she knowns this. She's been a bit weird the last few weeks, and I know that she is seeing another guy. My question is, when I see her around how should I act to increase my chances of her returning.
I'm not gonna stay and have any long conversations with her, though I am wondering, should I make the conversation sexual when I see her, or just completely platonic. I'm leaning toward sexual though I don't want to come across as desparate since I took the ljbf really well and told her that I agree. Is there any harm in a bit of physical escalation, perhaps making a comment about her body or telling her to come over later? Or will this hurt my chances of her coming back to me one day?
Edit: not planning on directly saying 'come over and fuck', just wondering if some indirect sexual comments would help here, coming from a place of non neediness.
No-Stress-Cat 2 3y ago
You don't. You mind your own business. Let her approach you. Then go from there.
Blahhalbchoo 3y ago
I see her sometimes on the rare occasion at work, I don't mind saying hi briefly, because were chill, given that I'm not gonna ignore her when I see her on the odd occasion I was just wondering whether I should make it sexual or not.
No-Stress-Cat 2 3y ago
There's nothing wrong with being casual or cordial in the workplace. Don't shit where you eat. You're taking a big risk fucking around with someone who comes to your workplace. Leave her in the friend zone.
Blahhalbchoo 3y ago
It's a shitty minimum wage job while i'm in college, not too concerned with my job. Anyway it's no biggie, was just wondering whether to keep it sexual or not when I do see her to increase my chance of hooking up again
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
You've already had sex. You just exist man, that's it. You be a fun confident guy who clearly doesn't need her and maybe she'll come back
Don't go digging in the trash for an ex. Live your life. If she wants to fuck again it will present itself
Blahhalbchoo 3y ago
Ok, was only asking because I very rarely see her. A few weeks ago she saw me with another girl and got really upset and stuff when we werent even together for that long, so felt like there might still be some feelings there. A player friend told me just to keep is short and sweet and try keep it sexual if you can, with a bit of physical touch, was wondering if there was any alternate opinions around here
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
If she's an utter slut sure. if she's making calculated decisions that she "thought about for a while" unlikely
BabyUareSoSexy 3y ago
The same thing happened to me. Girl ljbf'ed me. I started seeing other girls, she started seeing another guy. To be honest, you should just leave it at that. I bump into her 3-4 times a year at events, and we just smile and greet each other, that's it. No point in digging through the trash.
slowlylearning1 3y ago
Move on.
Be perfectly cordial and polite with her when you meet, and be as charming as you were when you first met.