I saw your post when it was new the other day, but I wanted to hold off on replying until I had time to go into detail. I face a similar problem quite frequently, and have ever since high school. Unlike all the tards trying to see if they can trick you into dressing like a total faggot by saying "hurr dee durr wear a fedora!", I can actually help you.

I don't have the knee-jerk hatred of tattoos most dudes in the manosphere do. My wife and I both have a little ink. Thing is, ours is easily hidden, and people frequently express surprise when they see the one on my shoulder for the first time, such as when I change shirts. Sleeve tattoos aren't easily hidden. You may want to wear long-sleeved shirts. If you work a physical job exposed to the elements like I do, wearing loose long-sleeved shirts will actually keep you cooler by keeping the sun off your skin. This has the added benefit of protecting your ink from sunlight, which can make it fade way faster than it should. I got my most recent tattoo in 2005, and it still looks good because I keep it out of sunlight.

Steroids: don't do that. I know you like your results, but the damage they do to your testicles, kidneys, and liver aren't worth it. Also, the more you use them, the less testosterone your body will naturally produce. This is not a good thing, long-term.

As far as not being so scary: here's where I can help the most. My own brothers, wife, and closest friends over the years have marveled at how scary I'm capable of looking, and how it juxtaposes with what a goofball I act. One even commented when looking at my student ID years ago "if I didn't already know you and what a goofy bastard you are, I'd be scared to death of you after seeing that photo!"

Read up on body language. Try to avoid closed-off postures (crossed arms are about the worst), and try to look open and inviting. This helps with seduction and everything else in life. Try to avoid scowling or RBF. you don't have to grin all the time, but try to soften your facial expressions. Save angryface for when you're actually angry.

Learn to joke and be playful with people. "Dad jokes" tend to loosen people up and help them feel less intimidated.

When you're large enough to crush most men, people know it. You don't have to try to intimidate, as you have seen for yourself. Thing is, this is actually freeing. You are free to be friendly without looking like a pushover (and be careful not to become a pushover). Think of how large dogs are usually friendlier and quiet, but small dogs bark, growl, and yap a lot. You're a big dog now; people can see it, so there's no need to yap.

Huh. You really went all out overnight.

Well, be more outgoing and nice. People will be pleasantly surprised.

Wear glasses. That usually helps. If people are still intimidated then wear a fedora too

Seems like you made those decisions on a whim, maybe take a step back and do some self-searching as to why you did that to begin with.

Tattoos and steroids are two things that are not easily reversible so only thing you can do now is work on personality and charisma/ social skills.

Maybe instead of doing high volume do high reps, slim down the muscles a bit. I am a natural lifter, but some people thought I was on roids, so I lowered my intensity.

Also, try to wear classy clothes/ biz casual, collared shirts, polo, khaki shorts, loafers/ boat shoes, black denim, etc. A. it will show your professional side and B. it makes you look put together and high value.

I can see what you mean with the tank top with the muscles out, it definitely is true that you will get strange looks due to the intimidation factor. Just make sure your style is on point and carry yourself in a playful/ chill way.