Met a chick from night-game; her parents are Eastern European, and she dresses modestly, has good relations with father, and is conservative-leaning, those are the Green Flags I saw and was my reasoning for going on a date. Just casual for now.
We've been texting daily, and she always double-texts me or texts first. Last night she messaged me at 3am showing a food pic on her 'girls night out' at a Steakhouse, since I was teasing her for not eating enough protein.
My question is, would you consider this a Red Flag? I know some Red Pillers are of the consensus that girls going out too often is a sign of either promiscuity or high maintenance. I may be overthinking it, but it's a valid conversation. Thoughts?
AsianDude about a week ago
I don't think it's a red flag by itself that she went to a steakhouse with friends, you will know more if you can find out more about what her 'friends' are like. If they are the 'decent' type, likely she went to talk to them about you and ask for their 'relationship advice'. IMO some women like to make group decisions or at least discuss it with their girlfriends.
When she was in her early-20s, my wife used to hang around with a bunch of late-20s/early-30s single religious career women who had unrealistic expectations. They gave her all sorts of bad advice like, 'you are still young, marriage can wait', 'he's too old for you', 'he's a misogynist', 'you should date around more' etc.
Of cos if her friends are all the 'wild, liberal' type, then it is red flag.
Lionsmane8 about a week ago
Dude, you met her from night-game.
That says everything.
FR33DOM_over_F33R about a week ago
I see where you're coming from, but I live in a small town, not many bars around. I go out every weekend and have never seen her before. She mentioned she rarely goes out to that bar strip. Now, yes, I take that at face value.
You seem to be insinuating that night game is sub-par, and I agree with that 500 percent. However, again its a small-ass place that I live in, not many places to go out around the colder months. No younger people go to my church and I'm always busy working anyway.
But that wasn't my question regardless. I was asking if having girls nights out is a red flag.
Lionsmane8 about a week ago
A girl going out at night is a red flag. Period.
Anyways, women are "innocence dealers". Your mindset should be guilty until proven otherwise.
Vermillion-Rx about a week ago
Given that you met her night game, as lion says, is a red flag. Now, its a steakhouse. I take it that's more of a restaurant than a taking people home kind of bar? So don't read into that.
However, I do know a lot of girls that go out on girls night to eat at a food joint and then they go out to a club or bar after. I'm not saying she did, I'm just saying a lot of girls nights don't start and end at the same place
However she's going out at night and on social media. High chances she's like any other western woman but puts on a good face
Vet her carefully but plan on keeping her recreational use only unless she truly and absolutely proves herself to be not a hoe. I wouldn't hold my breath but see what's up before you come to a conclusion
What you have to understand about night game is that you live and die by the sword in night game.
If you meet a girl at night, how do you think she is meeting the rest of her prospects? I doubt few of them are from the pews at church on Sunday morning. You cannot prosper at night game without reaping the same drawbacks and pitfalls that lead to your success there to begin with
Unlike solid day game where you approach a chick in the day (I'm not even there yet) and you actually stand out from the literally thousands of men who won't do it, night game is everyone's fair game and you're not special
Typo-MAGAshiv about a week ago
It's a red flag if they do that while in a relationship with you.
You two aren't in a relationship.
Have you even fucked her yet?
Durek_The_Bald about a week ago
Depends on the girl and her friends. For some girls, "girl's night out" is just going out to eat and drink and gossip with her girlfriends at some quiet place. For others, it's to go clubbing, get hammered, dance and to eventually get fucked (or at the very least act like thirst traps). If just one of them are like that, then she can easily get the others in on her gig. So judge girls by their friends too.
SeasonedRP about a week ago
It can be a red flag but doesn't sound like it here. She texted to show you she was behaving herself. If you aren't dating her, who cares. Girls night out is more of a concern if you are dating and her friends are slutty and like to hang out in clubs and meet guys.
whytehorse2021 about a week ago
chatGPT4: It's important to remember that everyone is different and has their own preferences and habits when it comes to socializing and going out. Just because someone goes out with their friends doesn't necessarily mean they are promiscuous or high maintenance.
In this case, it sounds like the woman you are dating was simply out with her friends and wanted to share a picture with you. It doesn't necessarily indicate anything negative about her character or behavior.
It's important to approach any potential red flags with an open mind and to communicate with your partner about any concerns you may have. If you are worried about her going out too often or engaging in behavior that makes you uncomfortable, it's important to have an honest conversation with her about your feelings and to listen to her perspective as well.
Ultimately, the success of any relationship depends on open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work through challenges together.