Saw aura girl in hallway today, asked her how she's doing. Said she had a nice coat (it's an astrology one). We're talking and I go hold my hand to high five her as I was saying "good job" in response to her not being socially anxious. She's like "I'm not a touch person."
me: oh, okay.
her: yeah, I don't do that. It's more of a trust thing I have. I do that with people I really know.
This is weird because when I first met her, there was some kino of the hands. Earlier this week when she got her nails done I noticed one of em was astrological and I asked her about it. I think I touched her hand then, she said nothing. But this time she speaks up.
her: But if you like we can go somewhere to talk more
(I wasn't sure if she was meaning like the building of trust, or maybe having a therapy session of why she's this way).
I just wished her a good break and went on my way. Now I'm not really tryna game her, she has a bf. But her bf is a LGBTQ ally, fat film major who goes to a uni over 100 miles away. I'm definitely taking small steps with her while I meet other women. She's a woman and was there, so I didn't mind the practice. This convo wasn't good compared to the first one when we met, it's like she's a little withdrawn. It also wasn't ideal for us to lock in on each other in the hallway. She has her problems, oh well.
This could be random, but I'm starting to see a pattern of me approaching autistic women with social anxiety. Am I mostly approaching this demographic, or do tons of women have these kinds of problems?
Vermillion-Rx about a week ago
You're way over thinking this.
She has a BF and does want a dude kino'ing her hands. And girls with bfs always straddle the lines when they're lonely. Don't read into it. This is normal "my bf lives 4 hours away and I never see him" behavior
Girls with deployed boyfriends do the same stuff. You're trying to draw meaning out of several things in which there is no meaning past the shallow surface it has
Also, I think you're quick to assume they're being autistic when it is probably you making uncalibrated moves. There is no adequate way a woman can respond to certain moves besides coming across as a blunt bitch or by coming across as uncalibrated herself. By giving an awkward response to men, women absolve themselves of looking like a villain
You shouldn't be reading into any of this interaction
imtranscending about a week ago
due to lack of xp I wasn't sure what to read from all this. It makes sense, pretty basic, got it.
no one must remember my first field report. I only know she's autistic because told me when we first met. The bluntness or uncalibrated parts make sense though
Vermillion-Rx about a week ago
At some point you need to stop using lack of xp as a reason to hamster yourself and start realizing there are basic explanations for most things.
Almost nothing is profoundly philosophical, especially in game
It is impossible to keep track of your field reports. Even if she said she was autistic, autism is already rare in men, and infinitely rarer in women.
It's mostly, just you, not them.
imtranscending about a week ago
Makes sense, yeah field reports can get convoluted especially if I really detail them. You’re right, I gotta stop using lack of xp as an excuse, this shit is pretty basic level
? Still not sure what you mean. They’re openly telling me they’re autistic and have these symptoms followed by extreme social anxiety. Idk what else to tell you, they’re autistic. (Not saying it’s a bad thing, and they could be misdiagnosed). I was just asking a basic question of why I’m seemingly cold approaching mostly diagnosed autistic women.
Vermillion-Rx about a week ago
No one can answer this for you. How could they?
If they're literally saying they're autistic, that's luck of the draw that you keep getting them. Again, this is overthinking. How would anyone know how lightning keeps striking. We are not there, I don't know how any one can reasonably answer that question
Lone_Ranger about a week ago
This is over thinking. Good for you that you're talking to people and training yourself out of social anxiety. But don't put too much effort into any particular chick - just keep going, talk to loads of chicks, be social and friendly, stay in practice all the time. Don't over think any one particular chick. You should be spreading your attention around real thin.
If a woman does end up calling you because you gave her your number, the ideal response would be that you don't remember which one she is, because you are chatting to so many chicks per week.
Women will TELL you that they hate this, that you don't remember them. But this is lies. What they want is a man who is talking loads of chicks and does not remember them. That is a true indication that you are high value man, and that you have lots of options, and that if she wants you to notice her, she's going to have to do something noticable (such as let you bang her).
Why do you think women let chads bang them straight away? because they realise that chad has many options, and they need to close the deal as quick as possible - they realise that if they put up any resistance at all, chad has dozens of other girls in his cell phone.
By focusing too much attention on a girl that is just a prospect, you are signalling to her that you have no other prospects, which is the most un-chadly thing of all, which will give her the dry.
imtranscending about a week ago
maybe they do hate the act of not remembering them, but it's literally the only way they can tell via phone that you got options.
so my small conversations come across as that? I dipped when she was like "we can talk more about this"
Lionsmane8 about a week ago
Women are increasingly more retarded and I blame texting and social media.
Also she's in a relationshio, don't waste your time.
All you can do is drop a hint, give her your phone number (don't take hers). In case things go sour with her bf she'll know she'll have a potential rebound.
Lone_Ranger about a week ago
you're correct - it's more social media than anything else.
whytehorse2021 about a week ago
chatGPT4: It's difficult to say whether you are mostly approaching women with autism and social anxiety, as everyone is unique and has their own set of challenges and experiences. However, it's important to approach every person with empathy and understanding, regardless of their background or struggles.
It's also important to respect people's boundaries and preferences when it comes to physical touch. Some people are more comfortable with touch than others, and it's important to ask for consent and respect their wishes.
If you are noticing a pattern in the types of women you are approaching, it may be worth reflecting on why that is and whether there are any underlying biases or assumptions you may be making. It's important to approach every person as an individual and not make assumptions based on their background or experiences.
Ultimately, the key to successful interactions with others is to approach them with empathy, respect, and an open mind.