Hi guys, so I was drinking with a group of people who I didn’t know, I only knew one person(the guy who invited me out).
I don’t really remember much because I kinda blacked out from too much alcohol. But what I remember is I was fighting with this guy and then it goes to the floor then someone booted me in the head and I got up and then this guy hit me right in the jaw this knocking my tooth out then I got hit again but in the head as I realized my tooth got knocked out. So at that point I ran away and spat my tooth out.
I live in a small city ~100k people and I know who it was but I’m not sure how it started or what it was over but I still want to go and find this guy and knock his teeth out.
I went to the police straight after it happened and told them and they said they couldn’t do anything even tho there was cctv where it happened but it was dark so I can understand if they didn’t find any footage. I even gave them the name of the person who threw the punch that knocked my tooth out and they couldn’t get anything.
Look I know I shouldn’t have been drinking and getting black out drunk while with people I don’t know, I’ve learned from that.
What I am asking for is some advice on how you guys would handle the situation because it feels like I can’t even talk to women at this point?
Diabs 2y ago
First of all you need to address your alcohol problem because if you keep drinking things like this will not stop happening and take some accountability on your end because you were blackout drunk you don't even remember who started the fight, There's a high chance it was you considering the state you were in. I say all this from my own experience and troubles with drinking.
The worst thing you can do if you want revenge is talk to the police. You told them what happened so now your the number one suspect if this guy gets hurt. If your gonna do it plan it out well and good luck.
Blingo123 2y ago
Yeah this happened a few months back but im only posting about it now and i have stopped going out to drink at least. Thanks for the advice man much appreciated.
I dont know what im gonna do about trying to get revenge its just effort to plan out and carry out when i could be doing other things
Lone_Ranger 2 2y ago
Revenge will wind you up in jail. Or dead. Maybe both.
Wake up brother.
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Blingo123 2y ago
Thanks for the comment bro. im getting a screw into my jaw in a few months (just the screw not the crown).
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Blingo123 2y ago
Yeah I'm glad too haha.
You have to wait at least 6 months ( if you don't buy the temporary ones) after you get the screw till they can fit the crown. I imagine it will be easier getting an impression for your teeth after they fit the screw.
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Blingo123 2y ago
I will do. Thank you for the comment bro means a lot
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Keep in mind hunting down a game premeditated to fight him is both illegal and viewed more harshly then drunkenly fighting in the heat of the moment
Also, it's stupid and life-endangering. There is a very real possibility you could bring your fists to a fight that ends up having knives or a gun.
Shit sucks. I've never been in a legitimate fight, so I don't know what it's like to lose one. But as humiliating as it may have been, move on. You're inviting nothing but mayhem into your life by trying to exact revenge in this situation.
There is a very real chance that guy wrote off the fight as a drunken quarrell. Don't make this a sober death-match where it's calculated
There's a real chance you could actually still end up on good terms with this guy because men can bury hatchets, especially over alcohol. Like others have said, address your drinking problems
We all fall ill to our vices, don't let this incident haunt you for life
Blingo123 1y ago
I just want to say thanks for this message I sometimes come back to this question to remind myself of the answers people gave me here as this is something that pops into my head from time to time.
Blingo123 2y ago
Hey, Honestly you sound like a very intelligent man. Thank you for writing your comment. Yes I have addressed my drinking problem a little bit haha. I only drink at home or at my friends house. its currently 05:38 in the UK and I'm just waiting for the shops to open so I can go get some beers because I don't have any weed to smoke. I finished work really late (23:00) last night so never managed to go to the shop.
I usually have medical cannabis and some nice hash from my dealer so don't drink much usually. I have a hard time staying sober unless I have work later in the day.
Lone_Ranger 2 2y ago
Forget about revenge, and forget about embarrassment. This event (having your teeth knocked out) is a blessing - because you can use it as a pivot point to totally turn around your life.
This is your wake up call. Do not ignore it. You will likely not get another wake up call. The train is leaving the station. Go to AA tonight, TONIGHT, and tell them your story. Tell them you went to a bar, blacked out, had your teeth kicked out. DO NOT WASTE ANY TIME wondering if you are an alcoholic or not. I don't know you at all brother, but I can tell from what little you have told me, you are an alcoholic.
If you think that you had a terrible night, you aint seen nothing yet. If you carry on drinking, you'll look back at the night you had your teeth kicked out as the good old days.
This is the wake up call that will help you pivot onto a different life. Trust me - go to AA tonight, tell your story to the other guys, and listen to some people that will understand you.
You can have so much. You can have a rich and interesting life. But you cannot have that and alcohol. it's one or the other.
Blingo123 1y ago
Thank you bro
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
Blingo - how is going? Did you manage to get to any meetings? If you can, talk about this with a friend. Over a coffee. Talk to anyone and everyone that has managed to get alcohol out of their lives. It can be done, and when it is done, you get a second crack at life.
Blingo123 1y ago
Hi ranger. It’s going good. How about yourself? Still not managed to completely get alcohol out of my life still drink with friends at their house on the weekend but not going out to pubs or clubs or anything like that.
As for the AA meetings I have been to a few in the past and I don’t really feel like they do much. I feel like eliminating alcohol is more of a mindset than anything else.
I don’t really know anyone who has managed to get alcohol out of their lives really. I don’t have a lot of friends ethier. I’m just focusing on starting a business at the moment.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
Hi Blingo - you write: "I don't feel like they do much" and you also write "I don't really know anyone that has managed to get alcohol out of their lives"
The reason why you don't know anyone that has got alcohol out of their lives is because you have not committed any effort at all to AA. 'Been to a few' is not going to cut it.
You need to have a sit down with yourself and ask yourself why you are still drinking. You're not comittting to AA because you want to keep drinking. Why do you want to keep drinking? If you want to keep drinking, thats fine. Its all about intentionality - if you want to drink our life away, live in bad health and poverty etc, then that's fine. If your future outcomes match your intentions, I would say that you living your best life and everything is golden.
If, however, you want a sober life, full of the abundances that life can offer, then you need to get booze out of your life. Go to 90 meetings in 90 days, and LISTEN. listen to other people's stories. I guaranteed it will change your thinking. YOu dont need to say anything, just listen.
YOu know what made me give up booze? Hearing hundreds of people tell their story. I was so arrogant. I thought to myself - these people are all my inferior. They're lower class, their not educated, their clearly stupid.....but how come all of them have managed to quit booze and not me?
That was when i saw a chink of weakness in my arrogant thinking. Hit me like a train.
Blingo123 1y ago
Hi ranger, after a bad break up with an ex about a couple of years ago, that’s when I started going to meetings I would say I went nearly everyday for about 3-4 weeks till I got a job working in a restaurant, I couldn’t go in the day because I was still in college. And I did listen to other peoples stories and the stories they read out from the book at the end of the session.
Will I be drinking my life away if I keep it to a few beers with a friend at their house one night on the weekend and watch a comedy film? Because that’s kind of what I’m doing at the moment.
Back then I was drinking whenever I had any money and spend all my money in alcohol but now my mindset has changed to prioritize selling things online ie Facebook and eBay mostly. And getting as many products on the market as I can.
I certainly don’t see the people at AA as losers or anything. Sometimes I like to have sometime to switch off and not worry about how many sales I’ve had this past week( not a lot I’m only a startup at this point and haven’t made much sales).
You say I need to get booze out my life. Well I will try to have a nice chilled weekend at home cooking nice food and drink Pepsi. Like they say at AA one day at a time right.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
wishing you well brother. But something in the things that you write tells me that you're not on the right road yet. 'If I keep it to a few beers with a friend....' That's what you are doing at the moment.
the only safe amount of booze for people like us is no booze. It sounds like you are moving in slow motion. Is that what is happening? You had a had a bad break up 2 years ago....that is 2 years ago!!!
I can't say what you should brother, but are you sure you are going at the required pace?
Blingo123 1y ago
Well ok. I feel like I can stop drinking alcohol anytime I want really. Honestly I’m not addicted to alcohol anymore.
My main problem at the moment is my smoking habit (nicotine addiction) which I am trying to curb but I just can’t for the love of god help myself to quit.
Thank you for the advise by the way ranger.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
you say you 'feel' like you can quit alcohol anytime you want....but you have not yet done so. Booze is an insidious thing. I spent about 8 years of my life going back and forwards, trying this and that, only on the weekends, never at home, only after dinner, never more than 1 drink at a time, etc etc etc. I wish I had those 8 years back. When I see what I can acomplish now in a single year...jesus. I wish I had those 8 years back.
Blingo123 1y ago
Thanks for the advice brother really appreciate it. Its making me want to stop.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
well, then get off the fence. Stop saying things like 'I feel like I can quit any time I want' or 'I like having a drink every now and then, when I relax' or 'how will I be able to go out and have fun with my buddies if I don't drink?' or 'what will other people say if they notice that I am not drinking' or 'If I stop drinking altogether, that proves that I am an alcoholic' or 'you know, there are lots of health benefits to drinking a little bit'. Stop the lies and the delusions and face reality. You are in charge and you can change your behaviour.
look yourself in the mirror and say to your self "I have had my last drink. I will never drink ever again. My new life has begun"
Everything will change when you start looking forwards and see a life where you get up every morning and you don't have regret about the day / night before. When you wake every morning with only blood in your blood stream.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
oh and btw, you'll never manage to quit smoking while you are boozing. Because they go together so well. And even one drink destroys your will power / decision making ...so if you're out having a drink, they'll always be someone to offer you a smoke, and you wont' be able to say no.
The only way I was able to quit smoking was by getting rid of booze. Getting rid of booze is the thing that makes other things possible.
Blingo123 1y ago
Thank you so much bro for reading through my comments/post and giving me advice. Really appreciate it.
I will be coming back to this thread to remind myself of the things you have wrote. It’s really inspiring.
Obviously when things in my life aren’t going so well, I turn to alcohol and loser friends to make myself feel better.
I spent hundreds of hours developing an app ultimately to make money, it made none. It was quite hopeless. So now I’ve turned to making stuff to sell and I’m not making a lot of sales. I just want to be able to work for myself. And I feel like everything is so stacked against you it’s quite hard.
Thanks you.
SeasonedRP 1 2y ago
If you weren't the instigator, and these people attacked you without justification, you could sue them and try to recoup your medical expenses.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I'd probably sue the bar and the guy who did it as well as the police. They'll probably settle for enough money to pay for your dental work.