I want to know your experiences. Tell me about the good/bad ones. What's your success rate?
Personally, I've been cold approaching for as long as I can remember. I've been doing this, because I always thought dating apps were a waste of time, and the quality of women you meet through cold approaching is higher. Most of my lays came from night game, but eventually I got tired of that because of shitty logistics and other things. I'd meet girls at clubs/bars, just walk up to them, introduce myself, flirt, make out, get their number, and try to set up a second date if logistics were bad.
What I've noticed is that during the summer, I pull twice as many girls, than during the fall/winter. There's always something to do, and there are hot girls everywhere, it's like they don't come outside during the winter. You can literally approach girls anywhere. At the beach, markets, parks, festivals, ...
Honestly, I can't wait for the next months, because I'm about to graduate, and go on a serious cold approach streak. What I've also noticed is that you need to get in a good vibe first. You should talk to anyone you see. Last summer, I would get a drink at the same shop every Saturday, and the woman who worked there said that she likes how I'm always smiling and in a good mood.
I remember walking around too, and saw some old guy checking out girls who were doing yoga in a park, talked with him, had a good laugh, and it got me in the right mood. I can not stress to you, how important it is to talk to everyone you see, because it makes you realize there's nothing scary about approaching people to talk.
As for cold approaching. I'd do it anywhere. I worked as a bartender at festivals, this was the easiest way to meet girls. You should be at a place where everyone is in a good mood, and where there are plenty of people. My second-best option was parks. During summer, there are a crap load of people at parks, especially during summer. Meeting girls there is so easy.
I don't know about you guys, but I go out by myself A LOT, especially during summer. There's something so fun about doing whatever you want, without having other people dragging you down.
So what are your guys experiences with cold approaching? I'd love to hear them.
ncstaterepted 2y ago
Hey, I agree re: nice weather VS cold weather game. Looking forward to summer but I have had some winter success. I think a lot of girls are pissed off about being outside when it's cold during the day. At night they are still dressed to impress despite the freezing weather. In Vietnam my teacher would say that "the pretty girls don't have to work and they hate the intense sunlight so they only come out at night." He summed this up with "long legs at night."
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Everyone, even GigaChads, do 10x better with cold approach than with online dating. The top game guys have about a 10% success rate with cold approach. I'm very picky about weight and looks so I like cold approach because I don't waste time. Then I just run London Day Game. In that process you can usually determine if she's interested and then proceed to a date or get her number.
Yeah I don't know what it is about cold approaching but women have this type of magical thinking where they think it's fate or the universe or whatever that magically threw you two together. Or maybe it just seems bold, assertive, alpha, etc. I never see other guys doing it so it probably seems rare to women.
Lionsmane8 2y ago
More like the laws of probabilities.
Unholy-grail 2y ago
I once watched this video about, last year, about opening with a cold approach. I decided to follow it to a T.
I only watched it because there was this chick I kept walking behind, she lived near me so we took the same route often.
She was short and had this mesmerizing ass that I couldn't stop glancing at
I decided to open her one day with "Hey there. I'm Unholy-grail. I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi" then we chatted a bit.
She had this sort of shocked-puzzled look the whole time, but she gave me her number.
Proceeded to have a weird date where I broke my phone, told her to pay for her lunch, had her caressing me under a tree next to a road in the middle of the city and then invited her back to mine where we smashed.
That was my best cold approach to date. Most of my approaches are the same and they usually end with me getting the target into bed.
koedeloe123 2y ago
Good to hear most of your approaches end up in lays. Crazy how you can approach a random girl on the street, and have her in your bed sooner or later. Cold approaching is definitely the best way to meet (attractive) girls.
User4566 2y ago
Dude, I don't even go out that much during the winter and fall. It's fucking freezing out here and I have school to do just like those skimpy college girls.
My cold approaching is decent, I do daygame and simply look for girls sitting alone on my community college campus. Approach, ask if I can sit with them, and talk to them amd if the conversation goes fluidly, ask them out. Rinse and repeat. I'll admit, recently I've been grinding at my job, school, gym to the point where I just want free time to MYSELF because of how fatigued I can get. Not to mention, the last few girls I did cold approach were very responsive in person, but not responsive over texting.
Another thing: I've been told that bars and nightclubs are a waste of time if you go there to get girls numbers; so unless you have a college dorm nearby to bring the girl back to then chances are the chick isn't going to want to text "that guy I met when I was embarrassingly drunk at the nightclub".
koedeloe123 2y ago
I have the same experience. About to graduate in June, currently grinding my ass off at school, my job, and the gym, barely have any time left, and if I do, I'm barely in the mood. That's why I'm about to go on a serious streak once I graduate, and have some time for myself.
And about the girls who were responsive in person, but not over texting, I've had this happen to me too. Not sure what's causing this, but I just take it as a lack of interest on her part. If a girl is interested, she'll make it easy.
Yep, bars and nightclubs are only good for ONS, and if you live close to the bar/club. But usually the logistics are pretty bad, which makes it a waste of time, especially when there's alcohol involved. Girls will wake up, barely remember anything, and you have to game them again, which is a huge waste of time, that's why cold approaching during the day is better.
wheytosmall 2y ago
Any tips for cold approaching at parks ? That sounds like a great a idea. So many prime age college sloots out there during the summer.
I’ve primarily stuck to night game and have had great success but dealing with drunks and messing up my sleeping schedule is starting to get old
Lionsmane8 2y ago
I'm trying to refine my cold approaches in a way where girls don't get too much of that rush of validation from it.
It's annoying, because some of them feel satiated by being approached and are not necessarily looking for more.
So I'm learning to screen the high interest ones & the ones you can convert with minimal effort vs. the time wasters and attention addicts.